Whom would you trust more, to be able to help you with an emotional problem?

Question

Someone who loves you dearly, but has not psychological training whatsoever, or someone highly trained in the human field, who does not love you a bit?
Just curious.

Answer 1

One who loves me would go out of the way to help me, but would in all likelihood be biased and unable to look at the problem in an objective manner. The independent professional would probably be unbiased but may not go out of the way to help...... that is why a true professional is taught and trained to own up the problems/issues of the client and the slogan that 'customer is the king'.

Answer 2

Both sources are needed. Never trust just one source on anything.

Both sources have their strengths. Some one that loves you dearly will know how your mind works, even if they don't know all the correct psychological terms and such. Also they can remind you of whats important, and keep you pointed in the right direction. They can also offer more emotional support.

For the sake of argument, I will assume someone in the 'human field' is a psychologist or a therapist. All of their knowledge comes from studies of the brain and how it works. There is nothing mystical or ethereal about how the mind works, and it can be traced and studied. These people have the benefits of those studies that someone who loves you might not. They can tell you why exactly you do certain things (i.e. - like why you get neverous around men in authority or why the colour red makes you hungery).

It's sort of like if there is a problem with your car. Someone that rides in the car with you knows what sound your car is making and how long its been making the sound, but will have no clue what it is. A mechanic doesn't know anything about the sound, but can look at the car itself and fix the problem. But the mechanic won't give you rides when your car is getting fixed, which your friend will.

Answer 3

I would trust someone that has experienced the situation first hand themselves. Neither one of the options that you gave are reliable sources. The loved on will tell you more or less what you want to hear for fear that they will over step their boundaries with you and you feelings. The highly trained has nothing to go by but what they have been taught about the emotion and think about this they have probably only taken this field because it is one of the best easily manipulated jobs there is out there. But since you asked I would most likely go with the help from a loved one but it would have to be someone that is very trust worthy and up front.

Answer 4

It's almost a 'toss up'.I would certainly try the person that loves you first If you feel like they think in a logical manner and they could walk you through it to resolve the problem. If you think there is a void in your life that might be causing it, then of course you would want to figure out a way to fill that void. I'm sure there are many web sites on the internet that would give you a diagnosis and treatment for your problem. Of course there is always the obvious, talking a minister or if your religious, then strength through your religion. Of course, medication can be quite benficial for some problems, but you have to be careful that you have a correct diagnosis. Just keep in mind that you will find the answer and after you do you will ask yourself why in the world did it take me so long? I have an emotional problem. I can't resist a double meat cheese whopper, I don't think there is any cure for that. Good luck. Well have to go now, Have to go warm up my whopper ( and fries).

Answer 5

Depends on the emotional situation. There is nothing wrong with talking to someone that dearly loves you about emotional problems. However, there is nothing wrong in seeking help from a trained individual if the emotional problem is private in nature, or if it is caused or related to the individual that loves you dearly. It could give a different perspective on the situation at hand.

Answer 6

Someone who loves me. Therapy is a bit of a crap shoot, since the disciplines under which most therapists are trained explore only a very narrow perspective on the human condition. Really effective therapists are in the minority, and many therapists have ideological attitude problems.
___The proportion of random strangers from whom I'd accept emotional help is about as high as the proportion of therapists, but therapists, in getting paid to listen, have more time on their hands to do so.
___There are some good therapists out there, but their effectiveness seems to be more a consequence of their personal character than their training.

Answer 7

I would first talk to the person I love and who loves me dearly about it. After thinking it over for a while and actually accessing the meaning of what they said, I would ask a professional. Compare the two and you've got yourself a pretty decent conclusion, I'd say. The more un-baised oppinions, the better.

Most people would rather use Yahoo! Answers though.

Answer 8

Actually, I think the latter. Someone who loves you and cares for you can give you terrible advice.

Having said that both would be best, the psychologically trained person who doesn't love you would be good for advice and guidance and the other would be good for a shoulder to cry on!

Answer 9

I think I would consult them both. Then I would consider what each had to say about the matter and decide which advice was best... or if a combination was a better approach. If I didn't feel comfortable making that sort of decision, I'd ask my loved one to speak with the psychologist and see what their consensus was.

Answer 10

i agree with case by case. how deep are the emotional problems? if its something like a relationship ending then a friend or family member would be able to give you shoulder to lean on and help to set you upright. however if the emotional problems are deeper, such as depression, manic episodes etc. then a trained professional would be able to help you sort through the chaos of emotion.