well im 15, 5'6
208......i have short hair..i look manly......
and the things is that i dont think im to bad lookin(if i lost a million pounds)but well im wok=rking on the losing weight part...
and im really tomboish(i skate, i wears guy clothes...but i like it!)but im tough...i asct like a ***** to everyone...well not really but i come off as a *****...but the truth is...im really emotional...and have low self confidence.....and other than losing weight how can i learn to flirt with women.....well how doo i raise my sex appeal?
i wanna actually seem attractive to women...and have them look past my tough..manly exterior..i mean im pretty girly in the inside :[
but i mean i want to meet someone i can actually hold a conversation......with : /
and i mean i dunno how : /
i have never really had a gf
2007-08-04 19:23:01 · 7 answers · asked by pixie7 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
pretty much you would have to be yourself and meet people
I think that dating is just the same regardless of who you want to meet (straight/gay/...)
2007-08-04 19:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to work on your self esteem. Confidence is the sexiest thing in the world. When your 15 it's hard enough to get a boyfirend, let alone a girlfriend, people are still working out who they are. I'm sure it's nothing against you. Just let your personality shine through and i'm sure you'll find a girl to love you, even though it may take a while.
You say you act like a ***** or come off as a *****, amybe you should just step back and think really carefully about what you say and how people could perceive what you are saying before you say it.
2007-08-04 19:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by jo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I disagree, you should not change yourself or make yourself more girly than you are. That is silly and there are people out there that would be attracted to you just as you are. I think that your best bet is not to fret about girls finding you attractive and just get plenty of connections with the gay community in your area. Chances are high that if you make some connection and friendships, you'll be introduced to somebody soon enough that will be attracted to you.
Good luck. I'm sure you'll find someone.
Edit: Oh yes, and confidence. Confidence is very VERY attractive. I promise it will help.
2007-08-04 20:06:41 · answer #3 · answered by Somebody2022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
become what you are .... a girl !!, and stop trying to be a man !, butch is out (never was in) ... you don't have to go all barbie girl but soften it a bit , you still can be the "dominate one sexually" but you don't need a club to hit them over the head with ...just your sensuality and then use your sexuality, go out and buy some nice clothes (mens if you must), get your hair done and what ever else that needs the "hard edge" knocked off....ok and your weight thats long term take your time ..its the best way and you will succeed but remember no matter what its whats on the inside that really counts in the end
2007-08-04 20:21:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Work on making you the best person you know. When you walk into a room- OWN the room.
Your confidence WILL attract someone. Losing weight will help if and only if it makes YOU feel better about yourself.
2007-08-04 20:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by Whynot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wear girly clothes, makeup - make yourself look as feminine as you can. gay girls like girls, they usually don't want anyone who looks like a man. so if you look tomboyish - they probably wont be very attracted to you.
also like yourself - people will like you more if you like yourself and if you take an interest in them.
I also know a secret that can help you - eye contact. the more eye contact you give them the better. it will help you. (only with women, not with men). You'll find that if you keep making eye contact, you will be more successful.
it sounds like you have some issues that need to be worked out, have you thought of counseling, it sounds ot me like you are having trouble with your gender and sexual identity - where you really don't know where you fit. it seems to me like you don't really see yourself either way really - and that's a scary thing. "You may want to get help. There actually are counselors trained in this kind of thing.
but if you want a girl, then it will help to look feminine.
hope this helps
2007-08-04 19:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by art_flood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"i look manly"
That my be your problem, gay girls like girls.
2007-08-04 19:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by systemofanalias 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋