Too Young??

Question

I'm 17 about to be 18.. i've been dating a guy since i was 14. i've known him since i was about 6. i love him to death and he treats me so nice!! he doesnt pressure me into anything.. oh yeah i forgot to mention he is 19 going on 20. my family loves him and his family loves me. we spend almost every day together. we've only taken one break they whole 3 years we've been together. neither of us have cheated either. i think we're perfect together and i would love to be with him the rest of my life. My parents started dating when they were 14 and they've been married for 32 years. am i just being naive?? am i too young to find my soulmate??

i forgot to mention.. about a year and a half into the relationship i was diagnosed with a serious colon disease.. the whole time he was there for me by my side.. i was afraid that he wouldnt want to be with me and have to deal with my disease but he said that it didnt change the way he felt for me or anything!

Answer 1

There is something to be said about that first, true love. It never dies. I met my first love when I was 14, and we dated on and off for 13 years. I now know that he wasn't the right one for me t spend my life with, but nobody will ever be able to replace that feeling I had and have for him still. If you two get along great, and he treats you like a princess, and you still get those butterflies for him, then I can't really say that I think there is anything wrong with you feeling the way you do. I don;t think you are being naive at all about your feelings, but just remember, people do change, and a lot of growth doesn't happen until you are in your 20s and 30s. You may find that you don't have the same goals and ideas about how to live your "adult" lives when you get to that age and point. So my advice to you would be to continue the relationship as long as it is working, but don't get married until you have both been out in the adult world for at least five years. A lot can change when you throw things like college, careers, jobs, rent, mortgages, housework, yardwork, etc. into the picture.

Good Luck! I hope you do make it, because that is such a sweet story about your parents.

Answer 2

Of course your not too young to find your soulmate, nobody is too old or too young. A soulmate is a person who belongs with you, even if he was 40 or the same age as you. If you were too young to have a soulmate then there would be no such thing as a soulmate, do you see what I'm saying. I believe in soulmates, I also believe that not everyone finds theirs. If you are sure that he is your soulmate and you are sure that he feels the same way about you then why listen to other people who tell you your too young and you need to get out there and party first. If you did that, you just might miss out on the best thing that has and will ever happen to you. Be with him if you love each other, you don't have to get married right now if you don't want to, but don't just leave him cause you think your too young, cause what if you never get that chance again. Good luck.

Answer 3

I'm in the same boat as you. My boyfriend and I have dated off and on for 3 years and i too believe he is who I'm meant to spend the rest of my life, but I am only 17, too young to make that serious of a decision.

Answer 4

I found my love at 14. We married when I graduated High School.. age 17! You are not too young,.. If you marry,.. just hold onto each other,..have faith and trust in each other,.. always putting each others needs above your own.. and above all always talk,.. even if its about things you would rather skip.. TALK!

My hubby died a few years back in a car accident,.. but .. after being together 23 yrs,.. we were still in love! He was awesome!

Answer 5

no your never to young
the thing is you could of met your soul mate when you where really young and dont even remember then ten years latter you two could meet up
so i think if you really think he is your soul mate and you love him more than you say you do then you already know the answer and should never question it !! i think you could be ten and find your soul mate.. and i really give you all the credit in the would if you have been together for 3 years and never not even once cheated on him..

best of luck in your future and i really hope you and your boyfriend are true soul mates:)

Answer 6

He sounds to good to be true.You are lucky.I wouldn't worry about the age thing.If you've been with one guy all this time then it was meant to be.You sound really mature and you know what you want.Go far it girl! Some girls (Most) never meet their prince charming.At 18 you will be considered an adult,and ready to wed if you want to.I would say you have met your soul mate.

Answer 7

sounds like real love to me...you are both young but look at your parents,they did give you the ultimate proof that it can work....so go for it.Personally I think he is your soul-mate...that happens once in your life-time if you are lucky.Hope your colon-disease is better now,great for him to have stayed near you,many guys wouldnt have you know.

Answer 8

No soul-mates are hard to come by, and you may not get another one. So be happy with him. It seem like ya'll are. Yous aid your parents were married for 32 years!! To me that's good. That could be you and your boyfriend soon.

Answer 9

I know that you have been with him for about 4 years but i would wait to do anything to drastic till your out of collage because being married can mess up your education and if you dont go to collage you would make good money....hope this helped...
cg,

Answer 10

your still young and maybe right now you feel as if he could be your soulmate and its possible. you just enjoy the time you spend with him and don't rush into getting married or having a child right away.