how can you make sex more pleasurable?

Question

i havent had sex much, only about 3 times.
all the times it was with the same guy and no condoms.(were both STD free-hes been tested and he was my first)
but its just not pleasurable yet and ive heard it should be by now.
i mean it doesnt huuurt or anything but its not the best feeling either..yet i guess

and just for the record...
no im not turning gay, im into guys and im really into my boyfriend. hes more expierenced and i just feel bad saying im not enjoying it yet.

but is there anything i can do to make it better?

i have a feeling its because we foreplay alot before having sex and i get extrmely wet durring this and then when we are about to have sex i suddenly dry up some.

Answer 1

Most women can not orgasm from intercourse alone. You need clitoral stimulation. Try having him rub your clitoris while you are having intercourse, or get a small vibrator for him to use on you. You can also try different positions so that he is hitting a different spot inside your vagina. Try to have him aim the tip upwards so he can hit your G-spot better. A book of positions might be helpful too.

Answer 2

To be honest with you, you are 19 years old and I would think your boyfriend is probably the same age as you. As you have been going out with him for 3 years I suspect you are really into each other. So I suspect that the first time you make love it will not be pain full and will be very enjoyable. The reason why so many people complain about there first time being pain full or unmemorable is that they are a lot younger than you are and the boy they go with are immature. Ja.

Answer 3

It just takes a while for you and your body to get used to it. Personally, it took me about a month after starting before I actually felt any 'pleasure'. Which doesnt mean I didn't enjoy the experience, just that I wasn't feeling a lot down there.
It differs between my friends - some felt great straight away and were coming almost within the first few days, others didn't really feel much until about three months in.

Also, when you first start you aren't really that comfortable, so it's harder for your body to react to the sensations.

Just give it time, make sure you're properly 'warmed-up' before you have sex, and you should start feeling right in the next few months.

And when you do start feeling it, trust me, it's worth it!!!!!!

:D

Answer 4

The best answer is from 'the only solorose'. Take her advice & practice it. The point is : Your largest sexual organ is in your head girl. All this pressure expecting the man to "give you pleasure & orgasm" is silly at best. As she suggests, take control of your own feelings & emotions. Believe me, I've witnessed it countless times. There are many women out there who have learned that training yourself is the key. You can do it too !

Answer 5

To me the best is after a long talk with my wife and I feel emotionally bonded to her,I want the physical experience to match that.And I think that women open up more emotionally,while Men are after the physical sensations.If you don't communicate often,it will become routine and monotinous.Try to find out each others fetishes,what excites you and what doesn't.Most men rush into it and the woman feels deprived when the man is satisfied and she isn't.Tell him!Get him in the mood with a slow striptease and some soft music.It takes awhile to learn about each other."Experience"doesn't always count,if you ignore your partners wishes.Try it blindfolded.Both of you.It enhances the touch.

Answer 6

Try telling your partner that you're not enjoying it. Have more foreplay where he kisses and caresses you, plays with your breasts and kisses them, explores your body, and you reciprocate. Make sure you're well lubricated before he enters you. If you're dry, use a lotion such as KY. Relax and let the experience flow.

Answer 7

your body hasn't matured enough kiddo. A woman reaches her sexual peak at 40. if you can maturbate and cause your own orgasm, then do so while he is doing his thing if you want more pleasure, but don't expect it from him, your orgasm is your own job. If you keep expecting him to give you one, you will be waiting for a veeeeery long time, orgasm happens in the brain hon, and you are responsible for your own brain and what goes on in it.
You can share sexual pleasure, but you can't GIVE it, it all happens in the brain. Stimulating the genitals will certainly encourage orgasm, but I and many women I know can simply sit and think about it and have an orgasm. So, suggest you learn your own mind, learn how to stimulate that, and share your pleasure with your partner, don't expect it FROM him.

Answer 8

There is so much to talk about here! How much time do you have!!??? Email me personally for more info: I used to sell sex toys and give lectures on sex and how to make it pleasurable, how to give oral, etc....

1. Do you ever masturbate? You should. Set the mood however you feel comfy. Make sure you're alone and feel safe. Get naked, look at yourself. Touch yourself. Lay down on the bed, start touching yourself where you feel good. Along your thighs, arms, breasts, nipples. You should start to get turned on. Start to touch yourself on your clitoris.

2. Do you know your body? Have you looked at it? Have you looked at other's parts? Do you know how your body works?

3. Have you ever watched porn? Perhaps you should watch some porn to see some examples of how other women touch themselves (andrew blake is AWESOME for other girls).

4. Can you orgasm on your own? Or is it pleasurable on your own?

5. Do you get turned on by your bf? Does he go down on you? Do you on him? Does that turn you on?

6. Get something that vibrates and place it on your clitoris. If you are embarrased about going to sex shop, order one online...they come very discretely. Or buy an electric toothbrush and just place it over your clitoris, you probably won't want to insert it. Or you can go to just about any store and buy some kind of massager. They are basically just vibrators. The difference is that sex toys gernerally are designed to go inside you if you get turned on by this.

7. You should spend some time on your own and getting to know your own body. Decide what you like sexually. Find out if you get orgasms from clitoral stimulation (like most women) or by G-spot stimulation.

8. Make sure your bf spends some time tending to YOUR needs. Sex shouldn't just be kiss cuddle then put it in and he comes. ESPECIALLY since you are inexperienced. He needs to take time and make you feel comfortable. Spend time laying together naked. Kiss for an hour. Make sure you get really turned on.

9. Take control. Once you know how your body works and what gives you pleasure then let him know! If you like G spot stimulation, then have him do you doggy style, or get on top of him, but turn facing away from him. It is very rare that a woman gets an orgasm from regular mission style (him laying on top of you).

10. Go to a bookstore and get yourself a coffee and sit in the adult section. If you are embarrased, then don't buy the book. Just read one. Look at the pictures. There are many books in BORDERS, etc that teach both men and women about their bodies, about positions, about how to please each other and themselves.

11. The most important thing for you to do is to relax, and don't be afraid to take control. Be totally open with your bf and SPEAK UP! SIt on top of him and slowly rock back and forth. Go at your own pace. DOn't let him dictate whats going on. He can have an O easy, this is about you right now.

12. I like to have both simulations, I always use a vibrator when i'm having sex. It always feels good without it, but I know how I like it, and I know it will happen faster if i use a vibrator. SOmetimes I like it slow, sometimes fast...just learn what you like, study and read up on it, and be vocal. And practice!

Answer 9

well im pregent at 10 and pregent so go have sex more often go 4 it i had sex 9 times so just go have sex ! oh and look at my question thanks!

Answer 10

put on a wedding ring...?