...when very negative things happened to us...is it then when very positive things will happen?

Answer 1

God I hope so!

Answer 2

It all depends on how extreme the negative things are. When we really hit the bottom, there is no way it can go any lower but upwards of course. However, things just cant shoot up suddenly. Of course the very positive will come but gradually. You will be placed on the very very positive given the foundations you have created for yourself at this young age. It should come soon. Relationship is only one aspect of our life. If life is too smooth, it is very boring. One day, when you reach the apex, at least, you have a very interesting account to relate. Most successful people have their bumps in life before their reach their peak. Lifes little struggles make your success more interesting. Look at Donald Trumps. On the religious point of view, if everything is too smooth, it will be very very unbearable when the negative strikes. We have to clear our negative karma along the path to balance up. So, what you are going through now is actually a form of clearing your negative karma. Just bear it with a grin. The positive side will come soon. It all depends on when you want it to happen, i.e. when you are prepared to shut your mind to the past and open your mind to receive the positive future. Even my favourite superheros like Superman and Spiderman went through heart woes. You too, are human. You are real after all. It would be very scary if you think about this. How could life be so good to me? Everything going so well and if I just have all my positive spent what will happen? It would be real negative all the way. Just be glad that you have already spent your negative karmas. Now, be good and wait for the positive to manifest. May you be well and happy.

Answer 3

It isn't so much that positive things happen to us right after negative things as it is that we go through intense periods of learning and self-awareness, if we choose, when bad things happen.

I have learned many things during positive periods in my life, but the most intense learning and self-awareness and personal growth has always come to me during the really bad times, and for me, at least, there seems to be a correlation between how bad my life is and how much I learn. Sort of negative things teach me a bit, but really, really negative things teach me a lot more. I think it is possible, however, that it is due partly to the fact that I try to make bad things at least slightly better by learning from them.

Life, I have found, is pretty much a pendulum. It doesn't swing regularly, like that of a clock, but it does swing. I have learned that there will be times when I am in the darkest of despairs, and that there will also be times when I am on the very top of the world--the only constant seems to be that neither one will last forever.

I have been reading your questions, so I know about you breaking up with your love. A broken heart is a very bad situation, and one which is generally only really made better by time. However, you can use the time while you are healing in one of two ways. You can spend all the time mourning your loss, or you can spend part of the time mourning your loss, and part of the time being happy for having had the experience of loving her in the first place. How you choose to handle it is up to you, but speaking from past experience, I have tried both, and I highly recommend the latter.

Try to be at peace, and know I am thinking of you.

Answer 4

When something very negative happens in life you should learn from it if anything. If you allow it to get the better of you then the negative always wins. Life will become postive much quicker and much more stronger the minute you learn to deal and say good bye to the negative....Remember life is what YOU make of it..... one can stay in a negative downward spiral for as long as they want but at the end of the day it is only YOu who can pull yourself out of that situation and strive for something much more deserving and positive..... never let a negative situation get the better of you! Try no matter how hard it seems to always come out on top., sure there maybe stop signs along the way but push them aside and take control of where YOu want YOUR life to go....Upwards....or downwards....... Good luck Eric and cheer up!

Answer 5

sure, you can make positive things happen. But when negative things happen they should not take you to such a low place that your life stops. If that happens then you need a psychologist to help bring you out of that feeling. Sometimes parents and family have such a strong belief in God that they too can bring you out of your slump. But this morning I was watching "hour of power" on tv (hourofpower.org). A superb speaker, Nick Viajicic from Australia, who wrote the book "Life without Limbs" http://cathedral-gifts.stores.yahoo.net/liwililigrpu.html and this guy is superbly enthusiastic and talks about Life's greater purpose. If you saw this guy all your problems would go away. Seeing Nick will show you that very positive things happen out of tragedy. You will forget your problems and move ahead to new sunrises.

Answer 6

Some things are beyond our understanding.... when a child is born with AIDS, when a young mother is gunned down in a hold up, when a whole village is wiped out by a flood, we are left asking: "why?" for these things there seem to be no answer. but on a different level-on the "everyday life level" - we can find some clues.
have you ever noticed that certain things happen to certain people?
Louise gets fired about every six months, Frank seems to get sued every year, Jim gets food poisioning in vacation.
certain things don't seem to happen to certain people. Jim never gets fired, Louise never goes to court and Frank doesn't send postcards from the hospital.
Particular people get particular lessons. We can react to all of this in one of three ways. We either say:
1. "MY LIFE IS A SERIES OF LESSONS I NEED , HAPPENING IN PERFECT ORDER." (The healthiest approach, guarantees maxium peace of mind.)
2. "LIFEIS A LOTTERY, BUT I MAKE THE MOST OF WHATEVER COMES ALONG." ( The next best option- offers avarage quality of life.)
3. "WHY DO BAD THINGS ALWAYS HAPPENTO ME?" (Guarantees maximum misery and fustration.)

We are continually being presented with lessons. Unless we learn the lesson, we get to take them again... and again... and again.

In a nutshell

We are not here to be punished. We are here to be educuated. Every event good or bad has the potential to transform us, and disasters have the greatest potential to change out thinking. ACT AS IF EVERY EVENT HAS A PURPOSE, AND YOUR LIFE WILL HAVE PURPOSE.
Figure out why you needed an expierence, conquer it, and you won't need it again

Answer 7

Here is the skinny:

For when anything happens, good, bad or indifferent, there is a purpose.

Jesus Christ, Loves us, and not always does he have to agree with us in our prayers. If he says no, it is for our greater good. If he says yes, then it is for our greater good. If you are in limbo, it is in his timing for him to give you an answer. Think about this, there is nothing negative about anything especially if we all know in the end of our life, that we will spend eternity with God. So yes, there is no negative, think of it as you are fortunate that God wants you to be where you are at now, because were you were actually was negative and did not give Glory to him. So count your blessings and be grateful for who you are, where you are, what you are. YOU HAVE A WONDERFUL PURPOSE and that will always remain positive. So my advise is, stop crying and start living.

Answer 8

Life is a bit manic - very high highs and extremely low lows.
Religion teaches us that "This too will pass". The crummy lows will not last forever. But also the high points do lower - like a helium balloon that floats to the ceiling; someday it will be lying on the floor. Keep your hands and your mind busy doing something - even if it's only walking through a park. Do some volunteer work. Keep busy until times start improving. Blessings to you dear sir.

Answer 9

I think it depends on what you are "attracting". I've experienced a lot of negative in my life, but when I finally started to change my mind set and not dwell on the bad but remind myself of the good, I was able to find positive things in my life that I never knew were there before.

Answer 10

Change is permanent in life. When u look back u shall always see that whatever has happened it is always for the best. So positive or negative it is only at that particular moment. It is only the way we look at things...

Answer 11

this digresses from your Q but it is said, rightly so, that every negative thing we say about ourselves, the devil can hear but he cannot read our minds-ergo-think it but don't speak it, better still, don't even think negative things-God created you and He makes no mistakes, we do but He doesn't so focus on Him.

Our pastor's wife once told my son, when he said he always believed he'd be in a serious car accident, not to say such things-the devil hears that and can cause things to happen-so far he has not had said accident but it sure made me mindful of how I speak.

Oh yes, Good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people and God has a plan in it all.