im not lesbien, but i hate it....almost scarred .....when guys touch me in any way, even just a friendly hug from a close guy friend. girls i dont mind bc i feel like i can trust them better, though im not attracted to girls what so ever. Im also pretty sure nothing traumatizing happened to me when i was younger. i was in one serious relationship were i didn't mind my bf touching me at all. i just dont understand. why? (im 16 by the way)
2007-08-04 17:45:45 · 14 answers · asked by Amelie 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
it could b bc ur dont trust them and ur uncom. with guys
2007-08-04 17:49:20 · answer #1 · answered by Kool 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say guys, does this mean many, one or two or what.
Generalising about something is being dramatic and limits you into thinking you have a problem.
Why don't you be more specific and say to yourself, I don't like it when...... touches me, or when........ and.............. touch me.
Otherwise you will tell yourself it is a "problem".
Sometimes it doesn't feel right to do something, so don't do it.
But do not put a label on it, otherwise you will be stuck with it.
If you are talking about 10 guys then it may be a problem. You have two problems then, because you should not be touching with 10 guys, and also the "not wanting to touch problem"
This is getting complicated.
You are 16, you are at the age when you have strong preferences put on you by your peers.
Go easy on yourself.
If it is a lot more than two or three, and if you are still feeling the same in a couple of years, then yes you may want to talk to someone about it.
Don't fret, you are not odd, it is quite natural. Listen to your own body, maybe you don't want to be there.
2007-08-05 00:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by Astro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most times it has something to do in your subconsious you might have been made to feel very uncomfortable from being touched by a guy, boy what ever it may be and you blocked it out it might be time to think about seeking a theripist to maybe help you figure out were things went wrong , becareful not to try to do things that will put you at risk of getting hurt or in trouble to figure this out make sure the help you seek is from a professional it is safer that way and if i remember right there is a medical condition that is phycological that makes people feel like that after all Howwy Mandel has same problem ! but his problem is to all not just 1 gender !
Good luck to you.
2007-08-05 01:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned this "past" relationship with 1 boy, but never really got into it. Maybe this last relationship is where your prob is stemming from? How did he treat you? Rude? Like a peace of meat? Was he a gentlemen? Did he cheat on you? How did the relationship end? Answer these questions in your head, and maybe you'll get a step closer to resolution. Also, do you have a brother? An older brother, or younger brother? Maybe you have been too deep into a boy's life, and you have seen the sexual side of the immature mind?
2007-08-05 00:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by RelentlessArrogance 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you feel a males touch is not sincere.Perhaps you think that guys are trying to get close so they can figure out how to take advantage of you.Walls are built in our minds for a reason.I'm afraid only you have the answer to your question.Good luck.
2007-08-05 01:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by Impact 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your feelings - stay away from guys. You really don't need to be dating until you're at least 18 anyway.
Don't worry about and focus on your education.
One day, many years from now, you will find the love of your life and all will be ok.
2007-08-05 01:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aphenphosmphobia- Fear of being touched. (Haphephobia)
Sometimes the fear is restricted specifically, or predominantly, to being touched by people of the opposite sex. In women, this is sometimes associated with a fear of sexual assault.
some describes being touched as something that "burns like
fire", causing them to freeze up or to lash out.
if this interferes with your quality of life, you should seek some professional help.
below is a link that might help to give a quick check to see if this is what you are experiencing.
2007-08-05 01:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have answered your own question here. you instinctively understand that boys your age are not trustworthy. you don't mind your girl friends hugs and touches because you CAN trust them. Don't worry, I think you are very well in touch with your feelings and they are normal. You will grow out of this time in your life and once again welcome the touch of the man you love.
2007-08-05 00:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're just naturally a catious person and don't want anything tramatizing to happen to you, so you just naturally put up those defences of not wanting men you don't trust to touch you in any way.
2007-08-05 00:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by Joey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Were you molested as a child? You might want to look into that... you might not remember it... I would go to therapy if I were you...
2007-08-05 00:55:04 · answer #10 · answered by S101908 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋