my mom is getting married to this guy..annd i dont want to go but but she doesnt understand. my dad died almost 3 years ago,and i miss him so much i might start crying(im not embarressed to say it even though im a boy) i really dont want to go, i cantget over to the fact that shes marrying somone again..i just dont know what to tell her, i would ask my brother whatto do but hes in iraq, the guy thats marrying my momasked me to be the best man.. uh no. how do i tell him NO also?
2007-08-04 17:37:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Are you trying to avoid the wedding because your moms fiance is a bad person ? Or is it because you miss your dad?
I bet your dad would want your Mom to get remarried. Not because your mom is replacing him but because he would want her to be happy. Your brother has left the house and soon so shall you...your mom deserves someone.
You will always love your dad, and so will your mom. It's time now for you to be a man (make your daddy proud) stand with joy beside your mom on her special day....I believe your father will be there and he will be smiling.
2007-08-04 17:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by blueink 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As much as you don't want to hear it, you're being selfish. I understand that you miss your father. I'm sure your mom does too. But he's gone, and not coming back. Your mom is entitled to be happy too. So go to the damn wedding. You don't have to be the best man, but you should go. Explain to your mom that you're a little messed up about the whole thing and ask to sit in the crowd so you don't ruin her wedding day by getting hysterical on stage. You don't have to stay till the wee hours of the morning, but don't you think you owe your mom enough to at least attend?
2007-08-04 17:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
OK - time to sit down with mom and just express that you're not quite over your dad yet. You haven't mentioned anything about things that are wrong with your mom's fiancee, so I'm guessing this is about you not wanting to accept the change.
I would also ask to speak to a counselor. You are still grieving, and although grief is quite normal, you also don't want it to stop your life.
2007-08-04 17:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your mom is happy with this guy dont you think you should be happy for her. not only did you lose a father, she lost a husband. if shes lucky enough to find love again then as her son you should be happy that shes happy!
2007-08-04 17:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by plastic.hearts.&&.paper.smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are being selfish and unconsiderate and disrespected to your mom you should go to the wedding, smile, and wish your mom all the happiness she deserves.
2007-08-04 18:48:18 · answer #5 · answered by DeeDee 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ITS UR MOTHER...GO TO HER WEDDING! DUMBO!
2007-08-04 17:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋