I dropped out of school, my bf of a few years just broke up with me, and I have no friends. What's there to do

Question

I'll be going to school (college) in the spring (hopefully). I'm pretty anit-social, or at least awkward in social situations. I'd "die" if I weren't working.

Yes, I can hang out with co-workers. I'd rather not.

No, I don't want to join a chess club.

I live in the suburbs of New Orleans; I've been to Bourbon St. and the French Quarter. Yes, I've gotten drunk. Yes, I've done the tourist 'thing'.

I've "done it all", and I'm BORED.

I guess I'm now a boring person.

No hobbies. No interests. It's sickening people can call me crazy and fun, but I'm really just a very dull person.

When I find them, I'll play computer games, but that gets old.

I've tried cross-stitching, painting, drawing, crafts, cooking, and Wal-Mart. Ha.

I'm too young to be this bored...

I constantly want to do something, but when the time comes, I just want to "chill".

I should go to therapy. At least it'll give me something to do...

I dropped out a year ago, and I've been sitting on my *** since. No need to get mad at me because I'm a bit bored.

"Find something to do" won't help me. I'm asking FOR things to do. I have no imagination.

Answer 1

There are a lot of volunteer opportunities. I would pick something that interests you. Elections are gearing up and you could support a candidate. They will put you to work, you will meet people that same your same believes, and you will make a difference. You can go the humane society route, volunteer for a mentoring program like BIG Brothers Big Sisters. You could volunteer at a hospital, or school, there are lots of programs out there that would fit your interests. You could volunteer at a soup kitchen, that will really make you appreciate what you have.

Answer 2

You definately have to get out more. Do anything, I am sure you havent tried everything. Do acting classes,thats how I met my man. There you will learn to observe and take more notice about people and their behaviors, which will help with the socialising, not to mention there will be others in the class. It gets you up and moving and trying new things. You also have an excuse to pretend to be someone else, which can lead to you learning more about yourself as a person.

Dont be negative, always try to wear a smile and think that you will meet some amazing people. Thinking you are boring and dull and thinking negatively, will only attract negativity. And you wont be fun to be around.

Play sport. I hate sport, but I still play hockey, which I do enjoy and I meet new people, as well as get some excercise.

If you always want to chill, it could be you lack energy, which could be a lack of iron in your diet. Also, playing sport will help the energy levels and get your adrenaline going. Join a gym, if you hate sport too much.
Find out all the social activities in your area and try them all. Then, if that doesnt see if there is someone who can teach you better social skills. Maybe that is the problem if nothing else works.

Answer 3

You'll probably make friends at college, even if you're not that social. On the first day just go up to someone and talk to them, everyone does it because everyone is scared and doesn't know anyone, it's really easy to make friends for the first couple of weeks.
You sound pretty depressed if nothing can engage you, I think seeing a pscyhologist or a psychiatrist would be a really good idea.

Answer 4

Seek professional help. Gain some outside interests of your own, develop a positive social group. And move on with your life. Get back into school and obtain an education, this will place you in a position of like minded individuals. Great place to meet new people. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 5

Like you I dropped out of school years ago, I've been going to therapy and it helps to talk to someone so you will find out where you want to go and what you may want to end up doing for yourself in the future.
All you have to do is look in your local yellow pages under family counseling or mental health clinic and if your parents don't have insurance then they will go by a sliding fee scale on what you can afford to pay.
Good luck!

Answer 6

Hey just think, you get to experience boredom, do you know how many young people wish they could be bored. Abused females and males for that fact, in third world countries who are slaves in one way or another and who couldn't even phantom what it would be like to be bored. Here I am going to say, stop whining and count your blessings. Stop being self destructive and start smelling the roses, if you are bored now what will you be later on in life, if you don't bore yourself to death. (There something to think about.) Oh, and if you think you need therapy, more times than none, you don't and you are just looking for attention. God Bless.

Answer 7

You are not bored. You are boring.
Your life plays out as someone without any interest, no vision and you can't seem to see beyond the present moment.

For fun and play. I'll call you be the name of Nancy. OK? I know your name is different, but please bear with me here.
First order of business. Nancy has to ask. Who is nancy.
What does Nancy want of life. Where does Nancy see herself 5 years from now.
The first question I just asked is very important. Because Nancy first has to find out who Nancy is.

Answer 8

Set a goal to accomplish that is so challenging that it would take all your effort and intelect to acheive. Think big, not small. When you accomplish that goal, and you will, set another goal. You will find that you do not have time to be bored and people will gravitate toward you in the hopes of acheiving there dream so you will have more friends.

Answer 9

There are some things in life that doesn't requires you to have others around you. Being anti-social and having no friends doesn't mean that you're curse to perpetual boredom.

I'm pretty sure you have some kind of interest. Persue your interest, even if it doesn't involves socializing with others.

Answer 10

it sounds like you are depressed. 1 you quit school ,2 your bf dumped you. 3 you have been sitting on your butt way to long. now you have some hard choices to make . you can stay depressed and feel all sorry for yourself OR you can get up start exercising to get your serotonin levels up. get out of the house and find something to do. keep trying new things until you have found your passion. do not look to a man for your happiness. first you have to find it in yourself.