self esteem help?

Question

any suggestions on books/sites/anything to help with self esteem??

or any suggestions?

Answer 1

Here's a link of really good books .

http://www.more-selfesteem.com/books1.htm

Inspirational Quotes

The great thing in this world is not where we are but the direction in which we are moving

Luck is when preparation meets opportunity

Obstacles are those annoying things we encounter when we lose sight of our goals

It is never too late to become what you might have been

and...if you want to be motivated, inspired and achieve the things you want.. then this is for you...

No good can give us pleasure if we do not share it with others (Seneca)

The chief danger in life is that you may take too many precautions (Alfred Adler)

It's when we forget ourselves that we do things which deserve to be remembered (anon.)

Being right is one more good reason for not succeeding (Nicolas Davila)

It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare
that they are difficult (Seneca)

We have the power to shrink our dreams to fit reality or the power to stretch our reality to fit our dreams (anon)

Those who follow the crowd are quickly lost in it

You will always miss 100% of the shots you don't take

You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore

Confidence Tips

1) Feel Good when you Want

When you need to boost your self confidence or self esteem, find 3 things that make you feel good. These could be memories of good times, a piece of music, a holiday souvenir, or a person's face - use photos if it helps. Practise thinking about them and bringing them to mind.

Developing self confidence that lasts - because of the way emotions 'attach' themselves to memories, you will quickly train yourself to feel good when you want - a great help.

2) Beat Self Consciousness

Self consciousness is the No.1 enemy of self confidence. Learn how to keep your attention off yourself. You can do this easily by following these steps...

a) If you notice you have become self-conscious, (you can usually tell because you start to feel anxious), choose something 'everyday' you can see and study it in detail. For example: examine a door, look at the different textures and shades of colour, wonder about who made it and how and so on. The important thing is that you're learning how to keep your attention off yourself.

b) If you feel self-conscious in a social situation, it's usually because you don't have enough to do! Focus on what your purpose in the situation is. Whether you're there to:

* find out if you like the other people in the situation
* make others feel comfortable
* find out some information
* make business contacts
* and so on...

It's easy to feel self-conscious if you have nothing to do, and much more difficult if your attention is occupied by a task.

Think how comfortable you have been with others when you're all working toward a common goal. The common goal of socialising could be making friends, it could be the exchange of mutually beneficial information, it could be whatever you want it to be!

3) Don't Take Undue Criticism - Even From Yourself !

Challenge your own assumptions. Here's a few to get you started:

a) Confident-looking people have bad moments too.

b) Just because you feel under-confident, doesn't mean other people can tell.

c) If you're saying things to yourself like "You're no good at anything" then rest assured, you're wrong. Everyone can compose a sentence, get successfully to the store, eat without choking. Don't let yourself make sweeping statements about yourself - in the long run it is this sort of thing that can really damage your self image.

Building self esteem is not just about thinking good of yourself, it's about not thinking bad for no reason!

d) Just because you have felt bad about yourself in the past doesn't mean you're always going to feel that way. I have seen hundreds of people surprise themselves once they have learned how to build self confidence in a way that it stays built!

e) Learn how to develop your self confidence by following the tips from this site and the free Self Confidence Course and notice the small differences as they happen. Persevere and don't expect everything at once. Beating low self esteem is a wonderful thing, and it's much easier than you'd imagine

Answer 2

It starts with you....

Misery loves company.. If you are around people that are constantly hateing on themselves then your not doing yourself any justice... Find something you excel at, like a hobby... Go out and meet new people, try a book club if you enjoy reading ... Most self esteem issues I have had were easily cured with having great friends.... If your really bent on finding a resource though.. .Go to the bookstore and look in the 'Self Help' Section... they have a lot of self-esteem books

Answer 3

Self esteem is a inner issue and about self worth. The word esteem itself comes from meaning which means to honor or highly exalt. You have probably heard this before, but self esteem is about about discovering the value of yourself. If you think down about yourself, then you will live down with yourself. One of the keys to building up self esteem is to learn how to have fun in life and enjoy yourself. If you can not enjoy life with yourself, then how will others be able to enjoy you as a person. Get involved with things which are fun and make you feel good. When you get in activities which you enjoy it allows your personality to emerge. However you see yourself is how other people will see you also. So, confidence is also key to self esteem. When people see that you are confident about who you are, they will believe it also. When I was in the Army, there was a guy I knew named Haygood. We called him "UMW". The ugliest man in the world. Haygood would always boast about how women loved him despite his appearance. He said one day, "We going to go to the club tonight and I guarantee I will leave with someone. It's not always about how you look, but what you say". So, we went to the club that night. The first three women Haygood tried to talk to ran away when they saw him. Everybody in the club laughed at him. But finally he asked a young woman to dance and she did. And, he left with her that night. What's my point? Haygood's confidence in who he was steadied him and he was not shaken by the laughter of all the guys. It was what he was saying which made the difference. If you will let the right words come out of your mouth, it will transform the rest of you.

Answer 4

You know I used to have a lot of self esteem issues but then I realized that I would never let people make me feel bad about myself. You know we are given life to live it the way we want to and you should never feel bad about yourself because no matter what theres always someone out there that will accept you for who you are :)

Answer 5

Self esteem has to do with feeling good about yourself, and nobody else is involved. Self respect is feeling good about yourself to the point where other people respect you as well, and you dont let others treat you badly.

Answer 6

I got this guide which is really helpful and indeed help me to gain back my self esteem.

http://www.my-linker.com/hop/buildselfesteem