In this only life I have, shouldn't I have what I want? What is morally or ethically wrong in my pursuit? Is her husband the only one entitled to her?
2007-08-04 17:15:40 · 18 answers · asked by cynic 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Dont believe in hell or in religion so forget what "The Book" says.
I pursue her not to make her life miserable but in the belief that both hers and mine will be better. I have no interest in what her husband feels, thats a choice she has to make. She has a brain.
2007-08-05 16:03:08 · update #1
you are going to hell if you don't know....
why would you want to...she is a liar...and if she would cheat on him, she'd cheat on you!!!
2007-08-04 17:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jules 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
The way you state your question gives me the impression as a woman can be an object which you can own in some way, even for fulfilling your desire for a limited time span. This attitude is wrong. It is also wrong indeed to pursue a woman who is in a good marriage. You would harm with this not only a marriage, but most likely a whole family life as most woman have kids too.
It would be wrong in every possible way to do that and you would
only reap and give out destruction.
If the woman herself sais yes to whatever request you have, the woman herself does not honor her marriage and as such I would not trust the woman as she lies to her husband, if she has a certain relationship to you.
If the woman is in divorce, wishing to separate from her husband, she is not really married anymore in a spiritual sense, still would I thinking about my own feelings concerning the woman and if they are serious based on a feeling of love or only lust. If the second thing is the case I want to remind you on one of the ten commandments given to us, which sais you shall not lust after your neighbours wife, daughter etc.
You know what I mean?
2007-08-04 18:11:36 · answer #2 · answered by I love you too! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Touchy subject - ouch. Bottom line though is that the marriage is between you and him. Should you get married they'll not like it and maybe not accept it but it is your lives. You could create yourselves the martyrs if you like, and maybe he and you would find others closer to your own ages. But you would still always wonder if this marriage would have worked. This marriage can and will work if you have the following ingredients: 1) communication 2) friendship 3) commitment. I do suppose there are other things that make a marriage a success, but having being married for 8 years now I'd say those are the most important.
2016-05-18 03:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong. Because
1)It breaks the institution of marriage between your friend and her husband(not to mention the children). She and her husband took oath and got married in front of family. Your selfish act is an act of disrespect not only to her, her husband and kids(To the whole society, to her family and her in-laws, her friends).
2) Morally it is very wrong to be in a relationship with married woman(other than a friend). Think of this way, would you like your wife to be in a relationship with another man??
3) Ethically it causes strife, disunity, quarrel in the family of the woman you want to pursue(it creates confusion in the family unit with the kids she has with her husband).
4) She and you set a wrong example to the whole society. Ethically in the society you are acting like animals with no order, character, integrity(IF you were to pursue a married woman).
First of all, She should know better that she cannot involve herself physically, emotionally, or mentally with someone other than her husband. IF SHE IS, she needs to work on her inner-self. Reason: This individual will do the samething to you, what she did to her husband.
Best of luck in you making a moral, ethical choice which would cause Unity in every society.
2007-08-04 17:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by DragonHeart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage has its tough spots, and those among us who are not tempted by others during those tough spots are fortunate. In times of emotional duress, everyone's judgment takes a hit and everyone's neediness become more pressing. As an outsider to the marriage, you don't know its underlying strengths, its issues, or the degree to which this woman's judgment is compromised.
___Interfering with someone's marriage when it is in trouble is like kicking someone when they're down. It's not merely immoral; it's despicable.
___Marriages that weather the rough patches can become strengthened, and one of the values of a life partner is that that person has shared all that "for better or for worse" experience. That shared experience can build deep trust and reinforce a belief in the possibility for human fidelity.
___If you interfere at a moment of weakness, you're ruining her possibility and her husband's for having something of greater value than cyincal, amoral people will ever know.
___Taking advantage of others' weaknesses and undermining important trusts do not score high on the human decency scale, especially when it's done with such a cavalier indifference.
2007-08-04 21:23:56 · answer #5 · answered by G-zilla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's wrong.It is morally and etihically wrong because S he is married to someone else. They made a lifelong cmmitment to each other. You are only concerned with your wants which will turn sour soon after if you should happen to get what you want . There was a wise old sage that said"Wanting won't hurt you but, getting might." Her husband is the only one entitled to her. She didn't marry two husbands. T4
2007-08-04 17:39:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could also argue that, in this one life you have, aren't you entitled to honesty and loyalty from a woman who took a vow to love and honor you forever? "Entitled" in the sense that, that would be what you deserve?
Put yourself in this woman's husband's position. Then ask yourself if it would be wrong.
I also agree with the above comments about treating this woman as a respected, fellow human being: this woman took a vow, and while I don't know what's inside her mind--that is, whether or not she would desire you--she once made a decision to be forever faithful. And you need to respect that.
2007-08-04 18:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by llulu_lemonn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong to pursue a married woman. She vowed her love and fidelity for life. Her husband did the same. To interefere would be a sin.
Regardless of what your inspiration is, it is only right for her and you that you move on.
Great relationships are based on truth and two souls in harmony.
2007-08-04 17:38:35 · answer #8 · answered by Grenadine Pala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to chase.
It is wrong to catch. She swore a vow to her husband. He is the only one entitled to her.
Jeez, dude, with so many round-heeled single women out there, why go for a married one? Plus, her husband will kick the sh*t out of you, if you are lucky. I know I would.
Grow up, selfish.
Ethics: doing the right thing, even if (especially if) nobody is looking.
2007-08-04 17:35:13 · answer #9 · answered by d_cider1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what her husband is "entitled to"? No one is entitled to anyone else. The object of your desire is a person... SHE is entitled to your respect of her integrity, and by pursuing her you are deliberately undermining her integrity to gratify your own desires. Even if she did desire you back and didn't see anything wrong with cheating, if you were just trying to get her to cheat rather than helping her by insisting she get release from her commitments first, you would be disrespecting her as a person.
2007-08-04 18:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by zilmag 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong to pursue a married woman, even if she acquiescs. It is morraly and ethically wrong. It is selfish of you if it is you who wants to pursue a married woman. Marriage is a sacred covenant, not to be broken "till death do them part".
So, behave.
2007-08-04 17:43:11 · answer #11 · answered by Nothingusefullearnedinschool 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋