How do I bring up the idea of anal stimulation to my fiance?

Question

When I tell him, just in case he is sort of uneasy about the idea, how can I try and get him familliar and comfortable with the idea? I'd be bringing up me stimulating him, not visa versa, although that is already a territory that has been explored.
Any advice on how to talk to him about this, just in case he decides to bring up that male anal stimulation is for homosexuals?
I just want the conversation to go well, if he's not up for it, I won't try and put pressure on him, but I'll just try to give him my counter opinions on the matter.

No comedy answers please.

Answer 1

Men and women, gay and straight, all have nerve endings in the same place, including the anal area. Many of those nerve endings, when stimulated with tender loving care, produce very pleasurable feelings.

What's more, all men, gay or straight, have prostate glands. When you massage the prostate gland, it produces pleasurable feelings in men, gay or straight. And there's only one way to get to the prostate gland.

How's that for starters?

Answer 2

Tell him that there are plenty of straight singles and couples alike who give and get anal stimulation in different ways, so no, doing so in-and-of-itself does not make a gay man

explain clearly that Anal stimulation is especially pleasurable for men as male anus has not only sensitive nervous endings, but is also about deeper stimulation – prostate. Stimulation of prostate gland is especial pleasure that can be compared only to pleasure a woman experiences

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Well, I'd definitely choose the right time. Then go about it in a tactful manner. Maybe if you would educate yourself on it, you can present the idea to him in a different light. You are right about not pressuring him. If it's something he's not into, just drop it and find something else fun you'd like to try with him. Or, maybe you could make it like a "you try this once, and I'll let you try that..." That would be fair and fun for both of you!

Answer 4

Here is the thing if you are at the stage where marriage is likely you should be able to talk about your sexual fantasies freely. So just be honest in what you like. Your partner will tell you if they are not comfortable with a certain act. If you can't talk about sexual matters at this stage in a relationship then there must be a lack of communication between both of you which should be addressed before getting married.

Answer 5

You want to do it to him?
If he is absolutely against it, don't be surprised if nothing changes his mind.
However, you can attempt coaxing him into trying it.
A good way to get him to relax with the whole idea is when you're giving him oral, explore the area. With your fingers. Do it slowly so that if he isn't comfortable he can stop you.
But use one hand on his testicals, then move slowly down.
He should be more receptive if you go slowly.
If he is receptive to your touching him there, you can move up to other methods of stimulation.

Answer 6

hehehe, ready for a real answer??? get him excited, lay him on the bed on his back and start oral.{{{{ you have to be prepared tho, have a bottle of lube ready, fingernails cut, and gloves, i use non-latex. and not the bright yellow dish gloves ..lol}}}}}}}} after a little while of oral, and i mean EVERY PART, n**ts too, slowly go further back..{{make sure he is showered first}}}} then start to massage the little area between the ba** and anus.. you will need to get him into a position where he is on back legs up so you can reach it easier. just like the positoin they get us in to.... this is where the prostate is, the male g-spot..... dont go in just yet. make sure he is really excited now... get the glove on and lube just one finger, {{do this without him looking, even tho he probly has eye closed anyway!!!}}}}} one finger slowly insert... index or middle finger.. finger pionting up towards the penisyou can feel small bump, just use light firm pressure, not in-out like sex, the anus will contract, hold for a moment till this stops, and just light pressure, he wont know what hit him. ..lmao......

Answer 7

1st why is it just for homosexuals, if your going to marry him you should be able to talk to him, there are some comedy video's on youtube, what them and get your guy to watch them also, then talk about it, anal is a lot of fun if done right, just sit down and talk to him and explain everything you want and what he wants, if you have to then compromise on things
"a mind is like a book, to learn anything you must open it"
tc

Answer 8

just go for it, start by licking and rubbing if he enjoys then stick with it. after a few times try sliding ur finger in while giving him a ********...
My husband thought it was gay at first but then he realized it was a sexy woman doing it, he admit she was confused but he loves it so i do it all the time. no more than i begin to finger F**k him he will ***..i would love to strap up but he is not down for that, ill give him a year or so for that....lol

Answer 9

I wouldn't bother making an issue out of it with conversation. Next time you're fooling around, just make a brief visit to the "area" and guage his reaction. If he doesn't protest, return and linger a bit longer. If he really doesn't like it, then stay clear.

Answer 10

ok and what are ur counter opinions if he doesn't? thats asking a bit much dont u think? ur not understanding how that is a affecting him im a women and hell that wouldn't sit right with me and my man ! i would think ok yea something is real wrong with u ! and yes i too have taken my Do Not Enter sign off my bac door a few times so its not like ok u just have never done it. ur askin sum real Gay Type S&^%* there.. some people just cant explore that part of peoples bodys. and what might feel good to u might not feel good to him. and im not sure were ur sex game is but what if he asked u to lick on another womans cat? would u do that? i mean u just think ov sum thin u wouldnt do and put ur self in his shoes. and i hope u have never been with a guy who has ask u to do this cuz if so he was really gay that was sum real gay **** there and if he took a toy he was really being done by another man.