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i am having grief problems after a friend commiter suicide and there was a shooting at my school. ( i go to platte canyon.)

2007-08-04 16:22:51 · 11 answers · asked by xandradhartmann 1 in Social Science Psychology

oh yea 2 of my other friends died in a car crash

2007-08-04 16:40:33 · update #1

11 answers

dont try to hold it in, if u feel like crying, cry in u feel like screaming, scream. The most important thing is to talk to people, i made the mistake of not talking to anyone and keeping my feelings inside, and it ate away at me. eventually, it will get easier, but u have to talk to people in order for that to happen. Its never easy to deal with grief, but if u let people help you, it gets easier.

2007-08-04 16:35:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I'm a teen and I have my fair share of problems. What helps me is listening to my ipod/music. I go to my room, turn on the music, and have a good cry. The music soothes me or upsets me more, which helps me cry. And after I cry and get all of my tears out, I clean my face up and move on to something else. I might call a friend, watch TV, get on the computer, or do something to get my mind off of everything. I also write in a journal. It seems stupid, but it's a great way to get feelings out. It's like talking to someone, without actually talking to someone.

Different things help different people. If none of this helps, you can always try your own methods. Just...stay away from hurting yourself. It may feel good for a while, but in the end all it does is cause you more pain. And if you ever have any thoughts about suicide, just remember that it's a permanent solution to temporary problems.

2007-08-04 16:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by brittani p 1 · 0 0

if you pray to the lord and ask him to give you comfort, open up your Bible and you might be surprised what the Lord will say to you through his word. He will be with you until eternaty the way the world is today the Lord is the way out of all the bad things you see I know because I am in the Lord and he has done so much for me blessed me mightly I have a son with an interlectual disbality and the Lord has blessed him so much I never thought I would see the day that he would ever work but through the power of the Lord and prayer he is now working fultime so remember my friend love yourself and appreciate life as for your friend they are asleep awaiting for the Lords return when he does we will know about it so if you really want answers look no further than the Bible he will fill you in on anything so God Bless you and may you hold your head up high and achieve what ever you want because you will have the Lord on your side. Hold steadfast and remember all the fun times not the sad I hope I have helped if not I am sorry but remember God does love you

2007-08-04 16:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Most people carry great sadness in their soul for friends and loved ones who have died. Though memories are filled with sorrow and compassion, we learn from the Bible that life must go on; God still has a plan and purpose for you, and that includes growing in grace and in knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. You are not abandoning the life of a loved one if you continure to live your life. The first lesson to be learned during this time of loss is to never let your grief turn into resentfulness. True sorrow should remind you of the grace of God and of all the wonderfull provisions He has lavished upon us. Use these provisions to grow and use them to comfort others who are also grieving. It is a time to come to understand and rejoice in the fact that your loved one is face to face with God, in a place of no more sorrow, no more tears, no more pain. The old things have passed away and all things are new. They are in a place of perect happiness and contentment. Their journey is complete, they are home with the Lord and have the best of everything. Jesus Christ said in John 14: 1-3 "Do not let your heart be troubled; believe in God, believe also in Me. In My Father's house are many dwelling places; if it were not so, I would have told you, for I go to prepare a place for you. If I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you unto Myself, that where I am, there you may be also."

2007-08-04 16:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Grief is a ability of ranges. First you're in marvel, a wierd numbness, then there is anger, possibly on the guy who did the taking pictures, possibly at your self as in case you will desire to have completed something. Then there is self blame, recrimination, something like how dare i think harm, i'm no longer the guy who's ineffective, it somewhat is all my fault it is going to have been me, Then ultimately decision once you come to words with what has handed off and you experience harm yet settle for the certainty. you are able to experience all ranges interior of moments of one yet another, which will properly be bewildering, yet one degree will final longer until the subsequent degree contraptions in. you will flick between all of them. Grief can final for weeks, months or as much as 3 years, finding on how close you have been (say like a companion). After 3 years you would be recommended to get help as this often is the portion of weird and wonderful grief (you haven't any longer prevalent the certainty) some human beings can get caught in anger and blame or recrimination. I say this all remember of certainty as that's a feeling you will adventure many circumstances over many motives, some no longer as stable as dying. i'm sorry to your loss, the marvel would desire to be awful, what a thank you to lose a chum. yet do no longer underestimate the phobia you have been in understanding this. The effect of certainly one of those dying touches extra advantageous than grief. i'm specific their would be expert human beings so which you would be able to talk to who could be useful you to thru your stunning adventure and grief. Please telephone a 24 hour helpline (telephone books record many) and that they are going to definitly assist you to.

2016-10-01 10:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by pihl 4 · 0 0

I’m sorry to hear of your loss.

If you haven’t talked to your doctor, you should plan to. Tell him or her how you feel, then you can discuss if medicine or therapy could help. Medicine along with writing in an online journal (sometimes private, sometimes public so I could explain what I was feeling to my friends), writing poems, and painting helped me through a tough period of grief when I was a teenager. I also made friends with people who had been through similar experiences (online and in real life), because it’s harder to talk with people who haven’t been through it. If you’re religious, you might consider prayer as well.

2007-08-04 16:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by novelgirl 1 · 0 0

I'm sorry to hear that. I would talk to someone, like a psychiatrist. They can really help.

Good luck!

2007-08-04 16:26:02 · answer #7 · answered by E 4 · 1 0

Well you could talk to friends, family, and teachers. Also you could express your feelings in something that you love to do, (Drawing,writing, etc.)

2007-08-04 16:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 3 · 1 0

Don't let your emotions control you. Take a deep breath, relax more often.

2007-08-04 16:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by Inferna Dragon 1 · 0 0

I would suggest that you go see a consular,about it.They can help you get through it.

2007-08-04 16:30:16 · answer #10 · answered by ericfaul2003 4 · 1 0

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