My husband knows I love white roses. He bought red, and he signed our card just before we were leaving to go out for dinner. He isn't very romantic anymore, and maybe I expected too much. I have 3 children, ages 23, 19, 13. I told my oldest I was disappointed that he didn't even wish us a Happy Anniversary. He told me that he was getting us a card and gift on Sunday August 5th, when WE take everyone out for dinner. I don't even want to go. I didn't expect gifts, because I know my kids are paying for their University education, but just some sort of acknowledgement would have been nice. When it is everyone's birthdays I make their favourite dinner, buy them something nice. If they ever need something they know they can count on me. This is really upsetting me, I feel if it wasn't important enough to even say anything why should I make a big deal out of it to take everyone out to celebrate. Do I go out for dinner, I don't feel appreciated at all - time to move on?
2007-08-04 16:17:29 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
have told them what I expect. I don't think a card or acknowledging the event would have been great. My husband and I have had a very rocky 25 years, (affair on his part) etc. I thought he too would have put more effort into it. My son, I have also helped out financially, and not asked for any repayment. It is disappointing to always be taken for granted.
2007-08-07 07:55:59 · update #1
No it is NOT time to move on. I just celebrated my 25th last summer and I have the same going on here. Mother's somehow always get lost in the shuffle of things that's just the way it is. If you are still in love with hubby then by no means think of leaving. You are at an age where emotions start to flair up here and there. Pamper yourself, I decided to do that and every so often I treat myself to a nice day out or I go to movies by myself so I can collect my feelings .
Mothers are mothers, we are depended on for so much but we get less credit but that's life I think. i think this problem has been around for many generations. Hang in there mom.
2007-08-04 16:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personnally think you are over reacting. The man DID remember your day, he bought you roses and took you to dinner and bought you a card. Often, we do not get to pick the gifts we are given, rather we should graciously accept them. Your seriosuly entertaining the idea that it is time to move on simply because your husband didnt buy you the color roses you like? You have got to be kidding me?!
Wow, I just dont know what else to say about this one. good luck to your husband, though.
2007-08-04 16:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are doing flowers go with IRIS They are the flower for the 25 year. If you have never celebrated before I suggest keeping it low key. If you want it interesting. I would suggest calling a hotel and make a night of it. Most hotels now use key cards. See if they can spray paint on of them silver on the top of the card, it will still work. Or just do it yourself. You can show him/her the card and open the door and say silver anniversary. The card will look silver but what happens inside is your night. Few suggestions.
2016-03-16 06:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your disappointment, you wanted your 25th to be special and it wasn't. But that doesn't mean it's time to move on. It just means you need to talk to him. Tell him you are not feeling that you have something special anymore and ask him if he feels the same. Tell him you want to do something just for the two of you and see what he says. Tell him that your 25th was important to you, but it didn't seem important to him. Communication is very important. Don't give up, talk to him first.
2007-08-04 16:33:55 · answer #4 · answered by Linda K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-21 19:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by cortney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, you go out to Dinner....and enjoy your family's company.
Congrats on 25 yrs.
What is wrong with Red roses???? Some people don't get any flowers. Don't count your chickens or force your chickens to hatch too soon.
Glen
2007-08-04 16:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by Glen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kids in their teens are not thinking about their parents' anniversaries. They are thinking about their friends. At least you got flowers. "time to move on"????? NOOOO.
These people in your family are not you. They do not think like you because only you are...well, you. They have different ideas about what's romantic or appropriate. You have to be willing to accept people's differences. Your husband may think you pay too much attention to little details and blow things out of proportion.
Be happy that you have a family that is all still alive and with you. Around you so that you can see them anytime you want. You could have a loved one suffering from cancer or some other terminal illness. Then what color the roses were wouldn't be so darned important.
Glass half empty???? I
2007-08-11 17:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are not happy about the life you have lead, as far as your children celebrating your wedding anniversary? isn't that date only special for you and your husband? were any of your children born b4 your wedding date? wedding anniversaries are meant for the couple ,not family celebrations, also consider the fact that you said it was a rocky 25yrs, who wants to celebrate that? make yourself happy, have an, affair or end the misery.
2007-08-12 13:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From now on, you have to be more assertive and speak out about what you expect from your family. It's okay to tell them what you want. They are not mind readers by no means. You should go to dinner and enjoy yourself. I bet you it'll be really special.
Happy 25th! That's a long time.
2007-08-04 16:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by luvly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel very bad for you. I don't feel he does appriciate you. After 25 years it will be hard to leave. Would you be happier if you did? At first no, but eventually a good soul will find you. You deserve to have a love in your life, not just a husband. Take a deep breath and face the reality. Give him one more chance after you explain your pain and if it doesn't go the way you hoped, it's time to go.
2007-08-11 20:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by Brewski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋