I am good friends with a seventeen-year-old who thinks he is emotionless. I am not sure if he is or not. He could very well be. He is strongly based on logic and very intelligent, so it could be that he simply shuts it out, but he says he has never felt happiness or sadness or anger or anything of the like.
He can read and fake emotions better than anyone I know, and he says that it has become automatic to appear any way he thinks he should in that situation. He refuses help from therapists when I reccomended him to see one, however, he is willing to allow me to help him, and only me.
I know that I have to help him for two reasons: one, I am in love with him and I want to see him happy. Two, I am the only living person that knows.
Does anyone have any tips for me? I am desperate for anything that could help--websites, books, tips, stories, people I can contact. I need to help him, I just don't know how, and I am afraid that it will eventually turn life-or-death.
Help!
2007-08-04 15:50:45 · 10 answers · asked by Clarinet 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i think he wants to have sex with you so he can show his "emotions"
2007-08-04 15:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by domicorb3000 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
He has let you in because you show understanding and see him for him and accept him. Just make sure he is not doing it to get "some" If thats not the case. Remind yourself, that you cannot change a person. They have to be willing to change themself. I think personally you are in dwelling into unknown snd very very deep waters with someone who is not sure what they are. They have been using you to see the brighter side of life. It won't last long. This friend needs help. It should worry you, he fakes emotion. Do you ever question what his intentions are with you? His whole life is a lie. He pretends to be happy. You are stuck in a relationship "friendship" that he will eventually end his life. You are going to be hurt in the end of this regardless of what you do. Talk to his parents. Take him to hospital. He needs help beyond what you can give him. Remind yourself, your not a professional. I know you care about this guy, however, he is very, very, ill.
2007-08-04 16:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a mirror of my first twenty years. I got out of that condition by finding something big, complex and important that didn't ask me to believe in anything. The concepts I found were so vast and complex that they boggled my mind and I discovered artistic ability, that evening, that had lain hidden my whole life.
It started 2500 years ago in India
There was a man called Siddharta. He gained understanding so great that he could only hint at it and tell parables praising it. He also went around answering people's questions about how to improve their lives. Even though he was the son of a king, he talked with anyone.
Eventually, he became famous and acquired disciples of great intelligence and social standing. Some of these people were super smart. To help them overcome their limitations, he developed concepts that surpassed their ability to think. Then, once they had fallen out of love with their intellect by realizing that the universe and life are far vaster than their intellect, they could start to really learn.
The teachings of Siddhartha went through many additions and modifications by people such as Vasubandhu and later Tientai. They came to Japan, where a brilliant monk named Nichiren recognized that what these people had come up with was nothing less than the law of how life works. He modified it so that ordinary people could gain entrance to the way of understanding this vast, boundless reality that is far more than the conceptions of any one individual.
SGI-USA teaches this method. Their descriptions are, unfourtunately, tainted by some words that sound religious because they use translating dictionaries that are still tainted by the agendas of 19th century Dominican lexicographers.
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2007-08-04 16:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no person is emotionless. he may be able to conceal his emotions and control them very well but he still has feelings. i am very like this person you describe. everything is black or white for me and based in reason and logic. i don't get happy and sad on the turn of a dime, i'm just level 'ok' most of the time. BTW: Is this person a Libra also? the thing is for me is that i was hurt very deeply many times by many people in my life and over time just built a coocoon to protect myself. i don't let anyone inside...even my husband still are things i don't let him know about my feelings after 5 years. the most important for me was that he was there always and steadfast and i became able to trust him the most i am able to allow myself to trust anyone. so for you, i think just being that 'rock' is what this person needs. you must not be erratic in your emotion or cause instability of any kind. this person likes balance and trusts balance so you must be balance. you must be trustworthy to him as you are already by that he will only 'allow you to help him'.
2007-08-04 16:03:18 · answer #4 · answered by handygirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-12 03:14:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"he says he has never felt happiness or sadness or anger or anything of the like."
-I've heard of this before. Its a psychological disease but the problem is biological. Many people are born with this and I dont think there is any cure yet. Sorry, not much can you do.
2007-08-04 16:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only he can help himself. You can't go through life without emotions. It's impossible as a human.
2007-08-04 15:54:24 · answer #7 · answered by nckmcgwn 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
not emoptionless just indifferent will change with age.
2007-08-04 15:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by Michael M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to help himself
2007-08-04 15:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
therapy
2007-08-04 15:58:41 · answer #10 · answered by miatalise12560 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋