I have the hugest problem.... s.o.s....... please!!!!!?

Question

ok, I am 17 years old. My family is all set for me to go to college in the fall. One problem, I may be pregnant from a guy that left me after I told him that I am a lesbian. I am totally against abortion, but I don't want this baby, but can't see anyone but me raising it. After all, it is my blood. What am I going to do? Do you think I will end up alone? OMG..................

Answer 1

Seek counseling fast........

your problem
is more serious
than you might think

You are 17
that's one year younger
than the legal age of consent
which means your boy friend
could be prosecuted for RAPE

you have a confused sexual identity
you claim to be a lesbian
yet,you are ina heterosexual relation
which could have impregnated you

you are psychlogicaly unstable
you dont want the baby
yet you are anti abortion
Meanwhile,
you are heading to college
which could be your exit from all this mess

Please,by all means
you are too young to endure this on your own
seek legal,medical & psycholgic assistance
before one of these problems
get blown out of proportion

Lonliness could be the least
of your troubles,young lady

Answer 2

I'd have to agree with Phil, but with a different angle. You have pretty much answered your own question in this case. One, you should have the baby, as your beliefs would likely cause you to deeply regret an abortion. Two, you will raise the baby and not give it up for adoption. Again, you feel that you should raise the baby, and doing otherwise would only put you through more anguish. Three, you can still go to college with a baby- many others have done it before you. You may have to take some online courses, and take a lighter load (and maybe even work a part time job) but it can be done. It won't be easy, but it's not impossible. Lastly, as the first poster had said, you need to communicate with your family all of which you stated here. It is all to easy with the anonymity of the internet to ignore the reality of the situation and the way ahead for you and your child. Hopefully your family will be supportive in your decisions. I personally think that if you show some responsibility in this situation, and change the habits that brought you to it, your family will respond much better than if you just try and run/hide from it.

So the answers have been laid out before you. You need to face up to the challenge and start moving forward.

Answer 3

You say you MAY be pregnant? Have you taken a pregnancy test yet? If you find you are not pregnant, how would you feel? If you are actually pregnant, you will need the loving support of your family and friends more than ever. Find out for certain as soon as you can. Then, if it's positive, be honest with your family and realise that your baby has to come first in your life - that's what it's like to be a parent.

Answer 4

"may"? first off get a pregnancy test, next (if pregnant) go find the father and tell him imediately, the baby should grow up with both parents. Then tell YOUR parents about the baby. no matter what, keep going to college. leave the child with a day-care or watched by your mother, while you go to class. the latter is cheaper. personaly i would marry the father but obviously thats your choice. PS: It would be a good idea to buy the book "the 6 most important decisions you'll ever make". it has a section devoted to young mothers.

Edit: if you have the baby youll never be alone, and its not imposible to date with a child.

Answer 5

If you are certain that abortion is not right for you, you must carry the baby to term, of course. If you are not financially, intellectually and emotionally prepared to care for a baby, it would be by far the best thing you could do to give the child up for adoption. I am not a religious or anti-religious zealot, because I do not know the truth of that subject. Nor am I a complete zealot on the subject of abortion, because each case is a very difficult calculus. I am, however, something of a zealot when it comes to the promotion of adoption: I was adopted into a lovely family when I was about three months old, and it was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. I can well imagine the emotional turmoil you are facing, but you should know that if you are not prepared to raise your child, there are people out there who would give anything to do so. I'm old-fashioned enough to be very suspicious of open adoptions, so you would have to steel yourself to permanently giving up contact with the child if adoption is your choice.

Answer 6

one day at a time
your choices are: abortion, adoption, parenthood.
Make a choice and stick to it. You'll never be alone.
If you feel so strongly about your blood but can't live with the idea of abortion then adoption is the way to go......parenthood is tough for a single mom who would be uneducated and perhaps may not have the support of family but can be done...not impossible. Abortion is an alternative but may cause you years of regret. What you choose is your decision and be prepared to make the choice and stick to it. You are limited in your choices. Lesbian or not, when you choose to have unprotected sex...either way it's your b*tt on the operating table. Suck it up and make a decision.

Answer 7

Don't fret things are as they are supposed to be. Go to collage and do you best. Tell your parents when you are good and ready even if it when you are just about to give birth. I would tend to think if they are caring there hearts will melt when they see the baby. Several schools have child care services which are the best. They do this to provide help to young mothers but also to teach childhood development (hands on). So in saying you are on the course you were ment to be what ever you decide to do. I have a lets-be-friend who did just that now she manages a phlebotomy lab. So just keep plugging along. Life is unfolding for you as it should.......I can't wait to hear how well it goes for you.

Answer 8

get things done now...

- take a home pregnancy test
- if it's negative....learn from this experience (thank goodness it's negative, but worse than pregnancy, you could've gotten an STD...use a condom next time!)
- if it's positive...get yourself to a doctor
- think about how you're feeliing.... "I'm totally against abortion" is something that you really can't go against if it's a very strong conviction that you have. It can emotionally devastate you for many, many years. Talk to your doctor or seek other professional help from a reliable person to help you sort this out...(or maybe even your mom????)
- Remember that your family loves you. They would probably be a lot more supportive than you think.

Answer 9

Tell your parents and seek counseling. This is the toughest thing you will ever face. I am a parent who is maried and is raising my children under the best of circumstancs wit a job, house and a wife who works. Raising children even under those circumstances is dificult, so that means you need and deserve support right away. You need to see a doctor for yours and the babies health. Your parents must get involved and if they are reluctant, stand firm and demand it. Grab your local phone book and turn to the government pages (usually blue pages) and look for government agencies which can help you. I applaud your bravery in this situation and you would probably make a terrific mom, but you need to start gathering help right away for your baby and for yourself. Also, this young man is responsible for helping as well. Stand tall, be firm, fight hard, stay healthy, and get the help you need and deserve right away. Good luck.

Answer 10

Oh my gosh. We're almost the same. I'm 17, I wouldn't say i'm a lesbian..but I'm not straight.. I won't date a guy but I will have sex with one. I don't like abortions. And when my friends get em I get MAD. Well that guy is going to have to pay child support. You'll be alone for a while. But It's how it works. There are plenty of woman out there alone and pregnant. Just hope that your family will help.

Don't worry about what ppl say. I know that you can still be a lesbian and have sex with a guy. Like you could have been testing it out..and realized taht it wasn't right for you.

Email me..i'll tell you more of my story.

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