PLEAS ANSWER THIS QUESTION! My dad needs help! PLEASE!?

Question

Is it proper to hug people that you've met? I mean, my wife keeps hugging people of the opposite sex. Sure, they're just friends, or people she knows, but I'm afraid of them taking advantage of her. You know, I'm afraid the hug might be something more. She says it's not malice but I think it is. So, my two questions are:

1. Is hugging people of the opposite sex proper?
2. Am I crazy for thinking this way?

Please answer this!

(P.S. My dad wanted to ask a question in yahoo answers, lol. So, I'm not a lesbo, this is my dad.)

Oh yeah, my mom doesn't mond my dad hugging other women, btw.

Answer 1

Some people are just huggy, touchy, feely types. I am like that. I am a hugger. There is absolutely nothing wrong with hugging ANYONE, including the opposite sex, particularly with those she feels a bond with (ie friends). It's a sign of love and friendship.

You have to give your wife a little more credit than what you are giving her. She is a grown woman and can handle herself I'm sure. If someone were to get out of hand during a hug, she surely would make it perfectly clear to them that it was not appreciated nor acceptable. And if she couldn't handle it, you're her husband and I'm sure she would let you know that it was time for you to step in.

You are just feeling over protective and perhaps a little insecure. Trust your wife. She loves you. She married you. But she is allowed to have male friends and show affection towards them.

There's nothing sexier than a man who is so confident in himself and his relationship to where he doesn't throw little jealous temper tantrums. Those can be very embarrassing to her and she might resent you for acting that way about her friends. You also have to understand that those men that she is hugging are her friends. Men she feels a closeness to (as in brotherly) and they respect her and her marriage. Look at it this way, if she was feeling it was anything more than a friendly hug, she certainly wouldn't be doing it right in front of you! Neither would the guys....Right?

Take a chill pill, trust your wife, trust her character on who she chose to be friends with and be proud that she is YOUR WIFE. She chose you, not them.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with Hugging members of the opposite sex....it's "How" they are being Hugged that makes the difference .
A friendly hug is quick ....a feel you all over or pushing bodies up against each other is Not a good idea.
My best friend husband hugs and even kisses me on the lips but it's all done as friends Not us trying to be naughty, plus my friend is like that too.
It's all how it is perceived!!!

Answer 3

I hug my guy friends all the time, like a 2 sec hug--it's not a big deal. Now if it was more like rubbing the hands around the bra area or lowering the hands down the lower back for a hug, then that would be a concern. Some girls like to hug! Sometimes it expresses how girly we are and we'd rather do that instead of shaking hands.

Answer 4

First I don't think your dad should be putting you up to asking this question. His insecurities should not be placed on a child's shoulders. He should not be expressing such concerns to you. Furthermore if your dad has an issue with then first he needs to figure out why this makes him uncomfortable, then take it to his wife. He could be over-protective or he being a male can spot someone getting their jollies off of hugging his wife. Men can read other men. But at anyrate, it's ok, so long as the other spouse is comfortable with it. If dad is uncomfortable and obviously he is, he needs to discuss this with his wife. I'm sure she wouldn't want him doing anything that would irritate her. She should refrain from such activities out of respect and assurance to her spouse. it's that simple. Sometimes in a relationship you gotta give up somethings to make your mate feel secure. Good luck...

P.S Tell Dad he's welcome to ask for himself next time.

Answer 5

I hug people of the opposite sex all the time, even some people when I just meet them.
As long as you can tell they are not trying to grab her bottom I think it is fine. But if your dad soesnt like it she should stop. Hugging people wouldnt be worth fighting with my husband over. Altho...my hiusband knows I am just a friendly person and I am a hugger, so he knows its harmless. You are not crazy at all...just trying to take care of your family. Nothing wrong with that.

Answer 6

It is a way of intimacy but is a "light" way of showing affection for someone. It's not bad and people in the U.S. use it to show that you like a person as just a friend or perhaps, more. It is not improper to hug someone of the opposite sex. As for the crazy part...I don't know lol. Well, good luck.

Answer 7

its ok to hug people of the opposite sex a lot of people do it and the guys know that it doesnt mean anything also yur wife says u have nothing to worry about so trust her. u arent crazy for thinking this but dont make a big deal out of it

Answer 8

It's proper if the individual is a friend or acquaintance of you both. If your wife is a smart woman she would know when and if people are taking advantage of her. Other than that its understandable if you feel uncomfortable, kinda like she's not acknowledging you or your feelings.

Answer 9

I liked your PS comment...

My parents hug and kiss people and neither one of them get mad when they do it to other people. It's very rare though- typically only when they haven't seen someone in a long time or an old high school friend. I would say no biggy.

Answer 10

i am assuming he and you are in the south? well its very common to hugging the opposite sex and nope it does not mean nothign but hugging and its hi there. well if in the north it could be if hes from there well they are more unfriendly up there and not as accepted but still ok.