we have been dating for 3months and i got pregnant iam only 17 yrs old what should i do
2007-08-04 13:41:17 · 24 answers · asked by brandi l 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I hate to say this but you are in for a tough road. I don't know enough about you or your relationship to say one way or the other.
2007-08-04 13:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by BoysMommy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one that can decide what you should do. I am a firm believer in marriage and in children having 2 parents living in the same home. However, I am also a believer in waiting until marriage for sex (yes, I know it's an antiquated belief, but it's mine).
Anyway, you and this man made the choices you did and are now in a sticky situation. You have so many options. From your question, it sounds like you are not wanting an abortion, and for this I commend you.
You can marry this man. I have seen these "shotgun weddings" work a couple of times. But like many people have already said, it only works if you love him and you are willing to make it work. Marriage is hard work and it's not like playing house. You have to pay bills, you have to openly communicate, you have to be willing to forgive, and you have to be willing to be each others' one and only for the rest of your lives. It is also very rewarding to be married to the right person--you have a friend you can talk to about anything, you have a support system who loves your child as much as you do, you get to experience new things and new levels of love you never knew existed.
If you choose to get married and you are both willing to make it work, you will be fine. Just remember that you will have to work through some problems and don't let divorce happen the first time you get a little annoyed.
If you choose not to get married you can either keep the baby and raise it or you can give it up for adoption. Neither option is selfish or unselfish. You just have to decide what you believe is best for the baby.
Regardless of the situation you end up in, you have a precious life inside of you that is depending on you to make it a healthy little baby. It's a wonderful process! Take care of yourself, don't stress to much, and make the decisions that seem RIGHT for YOU.
Good luck and God bless.
2007-08-04 14:19:24 · answer #2 · answered by Amber E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him, don't marry him. It's a little late to give you advice on what should've happened, but you should never marry a person that you can live with, marry one that you can't live without. If you think that you love him, be engaged for awhile until you know. Don't get married right away because you got pregnant, do you really want your baby to grow up in a home that was forcefully brought together because it came into the world? Your baby needs to learn love and affection the right way. If you love him do what your heart tells you to, but don't marry him just because you think you're supposed to. You're already having a baby, and that's an extremely crazy situation for anyone at any age, don't marry a guy you hardly know. Give it time.
2007-08-04 13:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by ILuvMyLittleBoy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were you engaged before you got pregnant?
Honestly, I can say from experience without being engaged at 17, I was pregnant and didn't take the offer to get married. My daughter is now 10 and has a healthy relationship with both of her parents. Ultimately the choice is yours but I wouldn't if the only or main reason is because you are pregnant.
2007-08-04 13:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel W 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it could break you. Marriage can be stressful - with all the emotions. Even more so when you're 17. And a baby is much more stressful. So maybe just focus on having the baby right now? If the father helps, great. Maybe you can get married in the future. It's just that you have so much to juggle already without a young husband.
2007-08-04 13:50:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, marry him. If you were gonna get married before you found out you were pregnant, proceed as planned. But really - if you have to ask - the answer is prolly know. Being in love is something that your body, heart, and sould simply understand without your mind having to question anything.
As far as the pregnancy, you slept with the guy and I'm sure someone explained what can happen when you have sex. I hope you carry the baby to term and deliver. If you keep the baby, defintely let the dad be a part of it, but don't force him.
2007-08-04 13:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
3 months is not a lot of time and you are really young. Give yourself time, don't get married simply because you are pregnant. A baby can drastically change any relationship. I would say keep dating if that is what you want, and if it continues to go well, then maybe in the future you two could get married. Don't rush into it for the wrong reasons.
2007-08-04 15:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by Susabelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get married just because your pregnant!! if you love the man then marry him but its going to be a rough road if you marry him. from experience having a baby puts a lot of stress on a relationship . And having a baby puts even more stress on a relationship and marriage and a baby could cause thigns to explode. so if i were you waite on the marriage thing . when you marry someone then you have to worry about there issues financialy and it reflects you . and having a baby puts a strain on the finances. go slow think about what you realy want , and good luck !!
2007-08-04 13:47:08 · answer #8 · answered by Kay Castilio 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO do not ever marry just cause you are pregnant! This is not the olden days dear woman can be successful on there own! Take care of yourself worry about finishing school first! You do not want to be married at 17 you never know what could happen! People should never marry cause of children! You marry out of love!
2007-08-04 13:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by Mom of three beautiful kids. 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you're already engaged, you need to have a serious talk with your fiancee about how the baby will impact things. My personal advice would be to hold off on the wedding for at least a year, and then re-evaluate the situation at that point. Good luck!
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