I have this friend i have known him for nearly 2 years since i started my apprenticeship, we worked on the same floor. But have never had a really long conversation really. But every few months he emails me an asks me to go down his house to see what could happen between us, which i would never do as i am enagaged, but i have told him this and he is still determined. and he has been getting more intimate with what he says whichi weird as i only ever really saw him at a 2 day conference an walking passed him at lunch. So i decided to ask him what his girlfriend would say if she knew what he was upto an he just said she would get upset, but he still says he reallyy wants to know what would happen between us as he knows there was abit of attraction but that was nearly 2 years ago an i haven't seen him in at least a year. Please can anyone help me stop him being like this as he is great talk to but thats all, and its been really upsetting me the way he is being. Please help......
2007-08-04 13:13:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I love my fiancee an would never do what he suggests to him an i have told this guy that but he still carrys on.
2007-08-04 13:17:49 · update #1
I have spoken to my fiance about it before an he went away the problem is he just doesnt drop it he comes back a few months later. I think he does feel he has missed the boat and probably regrets it but i dont feel what he is trying to do is far on his other half as i haven't done nothing but say no to seeing him and that sorta thing.
2007-08-04 23:15:10 · update #2
Tell him that if he makes that suggestion again you will report him to the police for sexual harrassment. If he still continues, do so.
Tell him also that you will tell both your fiance and his girlfriend unless he stops.
2007-08-04 20:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by alan h 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi you sound nice , shame we don't know your name, i had a similar problem years ago , its good you wrote a lot Thanks
Now you have a b/f, and he has a g/f yet he keeps asking
to come round to see you, why i wonder maybe he wants you and his g/f or he would really really like you more than his own g/f does'nt seem to care much for her, If you ask me he's missed the boat a while ago and inside he regrets it, maybe
he lacked confidence then but does not now.
This is what to do, you have to be cruel to be kind, you have to tell him i don't want to be your friend and i don't want you to come round my place, we are both attached, Also if he persists i suggest going to the Police because he can get spoken to or arrested for harrassment, thats what it boils down to, so sooner you get this sad character out of your life the better, Good luck to ya, Mail me plz to tell me the outcome Thanks.
2007-08-04 20:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by Red,Green and Blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but this a form of sexual harassment and you need to tell your supervisor. It is also very close to stalking, which is against the law. If your supervisor refuses to do anything then go to your HR manager. You have already done everything that you needed to do to protect yourself from further attempts at personal communications. Now it is up to the company to protect you.
2007-08-04 20:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you told him you're not interested in he does not respect that, then you do not need a friend like this. If you are adamant about keeping him as a friend, then give him one more chance. If he does not stop with his invitations, then you should tell your fiancé. If your fiancé is worth anything he will put an end to it.
2007-08-04 20:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have a fiance then you have no need for this guy or his conversation. you are asking for trouble. what would your fiance say if he knew what was going on or what if your fiance was approaching another female in the manner this guy is approaching you. not a good situation-cut it off now
2007-08-04 22:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by JJDK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want him, you will have to tell him next time he speaks to you.
If you are happy with your boyfriend, just tell him that you are and that you like him but not in that way.
The best way of all is to avoid him and stay with the one you love.
2007-08-04 20:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by R.E.M.E. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would just lay down the line and tell him this is how it is and that you love the man you are with and that you dont mind talking to him but it will never go any farther. if that does not work tell him you just dont want to talk anymore
2007-08-04 20:36:06 · answer #7 · answered by attitude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he is a co worker, this falls under sexual harassment. Foreword his next email the you HR dept.
2007-08-04 20:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
block his email. and if you have been replying to his emails, then stop. that's only encouraging him. avoid him as much as you can and DON"T go to his house if you are engaged and he has a girlfriend. that's just wrong. ignore him as much as possible and hopefully he will get the hint.
2007-08-04 20:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by luv2run 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its called sexual harasment- tell your boss about and make sure he/she knows that you will talk to your lawyer next and if that doesn't work tell your boyfriend than he can have a little talk with the a**hole
2007-08-04 20:58:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋