My husband has 3 seperate e-mail accounts. He is very private about who he e-mails. Is it wrong of me to want to know who he e-mails? I don't really care what he is e-mailing them about but think I should at least know who my husband corresponds with and how he knows them. He feels that I should not care at all.
2007-08-04 12:53:11 · 22 answers · asked by Jen L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
okay so he states that one is for personal the other is for things like fantasy football.....The last one he never uses I can vouch for that....he has it just so we could use our internet service....I just want to know am I exceeding some sort of personal boundry.
2007-08-06 12:42:08 · update #1
no its not wrong, my husband was doing that and he was e-mailing his EX, and he had a e-mail account I didnt no about, and I found it through history and then went to the e-mail account and lost password thing and got the password and he was telling her he loves her and crap like that .. so ya know I would find out.
2007-08-12 10:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by Amy 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like a question of trust and believe me, all of us who is married or has ever been married, have come across similar questions. The truth is: if there is trust in your marriage, you will not feel bothered by his e-mailing "routine", and he will not care if you see his accounts and pals or not. According to your desription, neither one of you displays trust in this situation. The worst is that distrust is like a snow ball: one of you displays it and the other one immediately responds with mutual distrust, and it keeps rolling. Unfortunately, the process is natural. What to do? Speaking from my own marriage experience: you have to come out and speak openly about it once (but nicely and freindly, not ugly) explaining clearly what problem you have with it and why. If your husband loves you and has nothing to hide, he might be surprised and irritated by it, but will still cooperate and help you feel better. If he becomes absolutely defensive and keeps insisting on hiding his own stuff, you might have a reason to worry. Hope it helps...
2007-08-10 16:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is hiding something! No one needs more than 1 account unless the 2nd is 4 work. If he wasn't sneaking behind your back he would be open with you and not try and hide what he is saying and who he is talking to. Especially if you trust him and he knows it. I say trust your gut. How would he feel if you were secretive about your extra activities. HE WOULD FREAK OUT IF HE TRULY LOVED YOU. Sorry for the bad news.And as to opening his mail at home, of course you should. A marriage is a partnership. No lies. NO SECRETES. What's mine is yours and what's yours is mine. Those are the words you spoke at your wedding. There should not be any stipulation on what those words cover.
2007-08-04 13:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by TIM'S HOUSE 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's shady and you have every right to want to know. Why does he have to be so private? I have one email, if my husband wanted to read it he could, knowing that, he doesn't seem to care, but if I had several and didn't seem to want him to know I know he would question it. If you feel like there's a reason to distrust him there probably is, womens intuition is strong and it will tell you when there is a problem.
2007-08-11 17:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by SuperGurl78 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband is creating mis-trust. If he has nothing to hide he would be open about it. It is unfair and it is absolutely fair that you calmly tell him about your concerns. If anything asking the question will give you a clue by his reaction and body language. Trust your instincts. Just keep calm and stick to your guns about how you feel.
2007-08-12 10:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by Angel_Daisy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no its not wrong to know or ask of the matter because if he love you he will not hide it from you and why do he have three email accounts something is not right about that if it was me i would tell him the if he care about have you feel he would not hide things from you or better yet be email other women know telling what all he is doing ask him more questions to see whats he up to
2007-08-09 18:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you, have your own e-mail account? Do you have reason to doubt who he e-mails. Spend more pleasant time with your husband, become each other's best friend. Don't get stressed over it.
2007-08-12 10:51:12 · answer #7 · answered by Connie P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me ask you a question: Would you open his personal mail at home without permission?
2007-08-09 04:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by inhis_image 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Private: he has 3 email accounts,you don't care what he emailing then about,you just what to know who they are. Come on you know you want to know what he saying,and who he's saying it to.(I think it's wrong to want to know who he's emailing.) Does he know everyone you email,and does he know what you talk to them about? Even if your answer is yes to those questions(I still say PRIVATE that's his right.)
2007-08-12 11:16:21 · answer #9 · answered by candy c 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its not a matter of trust or faith its......... a matter of PRIVACY
just don bug him .. leave him.....
its that some men have many ids for sex and pron and all that stuf so don worry just believe him
he wont cheat u
i know some guys who share almost everything with their partners right from toothbrush to underwear so it just depepnd on the intimacy level
so don worry
2007-08-10 22:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by sexy guy 1984 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋