What are your ideas to fix the marriage "institution"?

Question

Marriage as a whole, I think needs some major rework! Yes its true wemen. Otherwise, the divorce rate wouldn’t be what it is.

Could it be that these "traditional" marriages just aren't cut out for modern times? These are unrealistic expectations to live up to and totally unnecessary.

What are your ideas to fix the marriage "institution"?

HEY...I'm dong the single people a SERVICE byt letting them know about what a SCAM marriage is.

Thanks

Answer 1

I stumbled upon this question. Though I'm gay, I'd like to ring in.

I think the divorce rate is so high because a lot of people just are not cut out for marriage. Marriage and having children is one of the strongest societal pressures we have, and I think some people get married because they think that's what they're "supposed" to do. Same thing for all the unfit parents that reproduce like rabbits.

And even those that truly do want to get married seem to just take the vows for granted at the ceremony. They're vows -- solemn pledges. When they say "for better, for worse," they don't give the latter a single thought. Then when things get tough, they want to cut and run. My folks had their ups and downs, but they did the work necessary to work it out -- successfully so.

It's quite appalling to me to hear conservatives say that allowing us gay folks to marry would undermine the institution of marriage -- then say nothing when drunk, vapid stars get hitched in Vegas and divorced a week later. Hmmmmm...

Answer 2

Traditional marriages would work if divorce was not such an easy option, people took the time to really know each other prior to marriage and extended family would butt out.

I don't think second marriages/third marriages work out too good most of the time,so I am totally against remarrying when kids are involved.

My fix is pre-marital counseling with a minister. And for people to realize that they are not going to be able to mold their new partner into what they want. It's "what you see is what you get" so open your eyes.

Answer 3

People are becoming more and more selfish and are very focused on what they can get for themselves (society keeps saying you should have whatever you want, you deserve it) and that is not what marriage should be about and maybe that is why divorce rates are so high. When you get married you need to look at your spouse's wants and needs as just as important as your own. It is not that "traditional marriages" don't work in modern times it that some people are less willing to live with traditional values which make for more successful marriages.

Answer 4

Naw, dude...

What needs "rework" is some people's heads/egos.

They get into a relationship thinking that it's their way or the highway...that, or they'll "change" the other person.

Both viewpoints are fallacious.

You got a problem with "traditional" marriage?

What, exactly?

Something like two people getting along, working out their problems like two mature adults - as opposed to selfish, immature adolescents?

Just WHAT exactly is your issue with marriage?

Not getting enough head these days? She's not swallowing for you?

What?

You can't just come and go whenever you please and not give her any idea when you'll be coming home?

Please enlighten us with your issues regarding marriage?

Apparently 50% of us have no problem making it work...

Answer 5

Below is an answer i placed on a similiar question.
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Marriage is a failed institution. Don't get me wrong i am married and probably will be for the rest of my life. However my wife and I are not the norm.

With the way people are today it's all about instant gratification. I see it, i want it, i get it, I get bored with it, I throw it away. That's how the majority of people in this world seems to operate. You can see it in almost every facet of life today, on the road, in the stores, heck even here on answers.
And honestly that very mindset is exactly opposite of what marriage is all about, and dooms them to fail right from the start.

The very concept of marriage was concieved based on the mate for life ideal which up till recent years worked very well, but society has changed. We've changed in very bad ways, all the old values of family, honesty, hard work are gone and marriage seems to have been the first of many casualties.
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How to fix it? The only way i can see to fix it is to bring back the old values, morals, religous teachings. However, with the way people think these days i don't believe that is going to be possible.

Answer 6

I think that for marriage to be fixed, we need to realize and admit how screwed up the "institution" of marriage is these days.

I can think of several ideas to fix marriage issue in this day and age:

1) Women need to keep their legs closed and men need to keep their pants on, unless it's with their spouse

2) People need to learn that trust is earned, not given.

3)Marriage needs to be about love. Not wealth, status, or opportunity.

4) There is a huge difference between loving someone and being in love with someone.

5) When your marriage has problems, you stand strong and fight for it. You don't give up, say "Oh Well" and walk away. Divorce is the easy way out.

6) Committment. Most people don't understand the true defenition of the word.

The truth of it is, that we could learn a lot from our grandparens and great-grandparents. They loved one another and continued to do so until death. You very seldomly heard of infedelity or divorce in their day. It's sad to see what marriage has become today and it's going to continue on a path of destruction for as long as I can see.

There are marriages out there that work....but they are very difficult to find these days. If your marriage lasts 25+ years, you are an uncommon couple and that, is a shame!

Marriage is not a scam, it's something that people just aren't committed to anymore. Our society has learned that if something doesn't work for you, you pack up and move on. It's really sad to see what most marriages have become.

Answer 7

The best way to fix marriage is to outlaw it. There aren't any benefits to be gained from marriage in modern times that you couldn't otherwise receive from staying dedicated to one person. Marriage has long since lost its status as a meaningful act of dedication and is now little more than a contractual obligation people endear themselves to for all the wrong reasons.

Answer 8

What are your ideas to fix the marriage "institution"?

Just don't do it (get married)

You are apparently married and you seem SO happy (I saw all of your other questions).

My question to you is: Why are YOU still married if you apparently have SO many issues with it?

Really, you are just scaring the single people away from marriage after they read your posts.

Good luck to you.

Answer 9

It needs to be a LOT more difficult to get married. People should have to go thru mandatory testing and classes before being eligible for a marriage license.

As it is now, it's far harder to adopt a DOG than it is to marry your "life partner"---and that is really effed up!

Answer 10

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