2007-08-04 12:41:26 · 11 answers · asked by ILENE 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Oh my, first of all my heart goes out to you at this difficult time in your life. I know it must be very rough. It is true that you must think first of your health and that of the baby.
You didn't say how old you are. I assume you are pretty young. How far pregnant are you? How long have you been with your boyfriend? How committed are the two of you to this relationship?
These are the tough questions that the two of you are going to have to ask yourselves in order to resolve this issue. No one can actually advise you what to do until you take a hard look at your relationship and the two of you having a talk together.
Once you have done that be honest with yourself - it is always easy to lie to ourselves about something like this, but DO NOT, don't sugar coat your relationship or any character traits about either one of you.
Watch a couple of Dr. Phil shows and maybe even a Maury show when they are doing paternity testing. Realize what you may have in front of you. While it may not be true that once a cheater always a cheater, it is usually true.
Good luck and take care.
2007-08-04 18:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by marshfield_meme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I am so sorry that this happened to you. You must be experiencing the worst emotional pain that you have ever felt in your whole life.
The first thing you should do is keep taking care of yourself. Eat right, get enough sleep, enough exercise, & enough relaxation. You & your baby's health are the most important.
A lot of guys (and girls) cheat. It is very hurtful, but it's not the end of the world. And the old saying: "once a cheat, always a cheat" is a lie.
Many marriages have survived cheating. Don't give up on him. Fight for him. Find out who he is cheating with and have a nice long talk with her. I'm sure that she will not want him after finding out what kind of guy he really is.
He will still always be responsible for paying child support. If he had any sense, he would marry you and teach his child what a good father is by being one.
2007-08-04 20:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep the kid, dump the loser and get on with life. It is not the child's fault that the father was such a slime. Once born you will not connect the child with the father. It then becomes possibly the only good thing he ever did. Even if he was merely a sperm donor. Remeber hafl the genes are yours in almost if not all the upbringing will be yours. The kid will be nothing like the father.
2007-08-05 04:18:04 · answer #3 · answered by draciron 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You decide if this relationship is worth saving. Is he going to choose to be a good man, father? If not then you need to decide just what you are willing to deal with. You can choose to shut up and deal with it. Or you can choose to move on and make a life for yourself and unborn child/children. Whatever you do think of yourself and the child before you consider his feelings. He has that under control, very selfish with his feelings... God bless****
2007-08-05 07:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big question.
I am so sorry that the father of your unborn child is putting you through this.
Only you know what to do.
Whatever you do, have support people around you.
Call in all favours at this time.
You will need lots of love and care.
Best wishes for the future.
No doubt you will let us know what you decide.
Once again I am sorry for what has happened to you.
2007-08-05 01:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by Astro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. There are plenty of services for single mothers out there if you look in the right places.
2007-08-05 02:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, sign up for child support--and do so quickly--before he gets someone else pregnant.
2007-08-04 19:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
personally, I'd disappear. the jerk would never see me again. I'd have my child and raise it right and forget the idiot that donated his sperm.
2007-08-05 00:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen to mamabear.
2007-08-04 19:52:53 · answer #9 · answered by Gabe 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sue for child support and forget him
2007-08-04 20:07:21 · answer #10 · answered by jj raider 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋