why are parents so strict?

Question

im 18 years old and i want to go to california with two of my friends. my mom wont let me because she said we are all inexperienced drives and just HOW!??!?! are three girls going to go to california alone!? i personally dont see anything wrong with it!!! am i wrong?

Answer 1

Being 18 does not necessarily mean that you are responsible enough or adult enough to make a trip like that. Good parents need to be strict if they ever hope to raise a responsible, respectable (to a degree) child.

At 18, I would have given my right arm to be able to drive across country with a couple of my friends. But I later realized that I would have done some pretty stupid (and irresponsible) things - even if it seemed like it was ok at the time. Don't worry - eventually, she will see you as an adult when you can prove to her that you are responsible enough to make good decisions because at this stage of your life, some decisions are life changing.

Good luck, and try not to be so hard on your mom.

Answer 2

The first thing I as a parent would say is how responsible are you? Have you shone your Mom that you have common sense. Do you understand what its going to take to take this trip? Another words, do you and your friends have a plan. Are your friends responsible? How long have each of you been driving? Do all of you have jobs, money, are covered on who's ever car it is on their insurance. Are all of you sharing the driving. These are all legitimate questions that
parents have. Once a parent, always a parent. You can't turn it off. My daughter went to Florida with her friends when she was 19. It wasn't for spring break. They all graduated from high school, were working, had been driving for 3 years, one of the parents had the cover for the trip on insurance, they talked to us and plan a 1 year in advance. They went over all the details with us and us as parents kept in touch and it all worked out well. They had great time. So don't be hard on your Mom. See if you can answer all the question I put to you and sit down and talk. Don't yell, argue or freak out on her. Most young adults think they are immortal and that nothing can happen to them. So remember she is nervous and needs assurance. As parents we all do.