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So I have been in a committed relationship for the past three years. It's great! The sex has always been good, but about 2-3 months ago I have almost completely lost my sex drive. Instead of everyday like it used to be it's like once every two weeks. I feel bad because my boyfriend wants sex all the time and I don't. I did start working 7 days a week 2-3 months ago so I was thinking maybe the stress is why? Can somebody please give me advice!!

2007-08-04 10:44:24 · 15 answers · asked by colby o 1 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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Well, there is ways you can manage through this. You don't have to have sex "per say" every single day. But on nights when you are too tired or don't have the urge, take care of him in other ways. My wife feels this way sometimes and uses her hands or her mouth......it turns a 2-3 hour session into a quick 10-15 minute session. I have absolutely no problem with this whatsoever and it keeps us both happy. Just don't make it an extreme habit. There are times when he is going to want the whole package.

Good luck.

2007-08-04 11:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

you're exhausted

You might be pregnant. Or, you just don't love him anymore.

if you get into it it should build up

maybe come up with fun things to do while having sex. new positions, odd and unexpected places to have it (like on the kitchen counter or on the beach ), or just spice it up with something like that.
make it fun! thats what its sposed to be. it is sex after all :p

good luck
it could be stres from work.

YOU ARE GROWING UP

Overwork will do that. Make sure you conserve your energy take time out to do relaxing things like working out. If you live together make sure he is pulling extra weight taking care of things at home like cooking and cleaning so you don't feel like you are working 24/7 with barely time to sleep.
New mothers have the same problem no sleep with the baby and way more work, if the man doesn't do enough they resent it which kills sex drive.


If you are working 7 days a week, it's obvious you are probably exhausted! But, it is something you need to work on. Every day is not necessary though, just try and set aside some alone time for the two of you.

If this started before your work overload, then just go get a physical. It could be something simple like a chemical or hormone imbalance, or a medication you are taking.

maybe youre really tired cause of the work... maybe if you guys used a little more foreplay?

umm sex is not the basis of any relationship,,, try talking to him,,, and get a few days off here and there.

Well, there is ways you can manage through this. You don't have to have sex "per say" every single day. But on nights when you are too tired or don't have the urge, take care of him in other ways. My wife feels this way sometimes and uses her hands or her mouth......it turns a 2-3 hour session into a quick 10-15 minute session. I have absolutely no problem with this whatsoever and it keeps us both happy. Just don't make it an extreme habit. There are times when he is going to want the whole package.

Good luck.



my advice to you is that you already know the answer. I was in the same place with that one. When i got a promotion on my job the stress kicked in and sometimes i dint' want it. But then again its when i want it sometI'mes he is working or out of the house somewhere. And boy do i want it bad then. I use to think that maybe i have a high sex drive but its not with him anymore. But when days come that i want it now and badly, I know that im just too tired sometimes that sex is the last thing on my mind. Maybe you should try to go out and enjoy a different atmosphere. Maybe you both need sometime to re-find each other.

THIS IS ALL TRUE!!!!!

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!

2007-08-06 08:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by Shan 2 · 0 0

If you are working 7 days a week, it's obvious you are probably exhausted! But, it is something you need to work on. Every day is not necessary though, just try and set aside some alone time for the two of you.

If this started before your work overload, then just go get a physical. It could be something simple like a chemical or hormone imbalance, or a medication you are taking.

2007-08-04 10:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by caffeine addict 2 · 0 0

my advice to you is that you already know the answer. I was in the same place with that one. When i got a promotion on my job the stress kicked in and sometimes i dint' want it. But then again its when i want it sometI'mes he is working or out of the house somewhere. And boy do i want it bad then. I use to think that maybe i have a high sex drive but its not with him anymore. But when days come that i want it now and badly, I know that im just too tired sometimes that sex is the last thing on my mind. Maybe you should try to go out and enjoy a different atmosphere. Maybe you both need sometime to re-find each other.

2007-08-04 11:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by swwomen 1 · 0 0

Overwork will do that. Make sure you conserve your energy take time out to do relaxing things like working out. If you live together make sure he is pulling extra weight taking care of things at home like cooking and cleaning so you don't feel like you are working 24/7 with barely time to sleep.
New mothers have the same problem no sleep with the baby and way more work, if the man doesn't do enough they resent it which kills sex drive.

2007-08-04 10:50:34 · answer #5 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 0 0

maybe come up with fun things to do while having sex. new positions, odd and unexpected places to have it (like on the kitchen counter or on the beach ), or just spice it up with something like that.
make it fun! thats what its sposed to be. it is sex after all :p

good luck

2007-08-04 10:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by ready4answers 2 · 0 0

umm sex is not the basis of any relationship,,, try talking to him,,, and get a few days off here and there.

2007-08-04 10:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0 0

maybe youre really tired cause of the work... maybe if you guys used a little more foreplay?

2007-08-04 10:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by Velvet Rain Drops 4 · 0 0

Maybe it's because you come home tired ...

2007-08-04 10:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by Luay14 6 · 0 0

no advice sory although it could be stres from work.

2007-08-04 10:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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