how do you get over a guy you really fancy but lives to far away so you never him???

Question

please help me its killing me inside! :(
the best advice you have got!
thanks to everyone whos helps me!

Answer 1

Long distance relationships rarely work out. But the best advice I have is tell him how you feel. I know it's scary but you will regret it forever if you don't.

Answer 2

Ok at the minute you will be going through hell, in a way it will be all consuming, like a mini addiction almost.

All this is normal. When we pair mate with someone (psycholoogy term) a chemical reaction happens that means we are kind of addicted to them. They make us feel good, we think of imaginery future, we ache for them - they are unlike anyone we have ever know, low and behold they are everything we ever wanted and more yaddi ya di ya.

Although that is how you think - here is the saving grace - it is not the reality. When in love people are programmed to inhibit their ability to see the love object how they are. We therefore exagerate the persons good points and compatibility with ourselves in order to - at least in the evolutionary big picture stay with them long enough to mate etc

So for you this means - realising that this feeling is meant to be strong, it is meant to feel like the world will end - like no-one could ever possibly compare to him etc

BUT step back and know too that should it not work out, you will get over it. Mean time til it gets easier, think at night time of all the things you would have liked to have happened etc etc and know that the chances are the REALITY would have been once the rose tinted spectacles faded different.

You will meet another guy if this does not work out one day (even though it is the last thing you feel like just now) because there are many potentials out there for all of us.

Til then keep busy - go out lots and keep in touch with your pals.

Good luck - this kinda feeling is not easy.

Answer 3

it is really hard to make long distance relationships work, in the end it would get to the both of you and yall will bring out the worst. how far? miles, cites, states? countries?! plan ahead. go out on a date once a week, call and talk for at least 2 to three days. sleep over, spend the night, see if you could change your work or school schedule around it, if not plan around that. try first, try everything. but if it doesn't help, you are too far apart, can't se each other, maybe then it won't be worth it. but try everything first. even try to move in together, if you deside that try living together for a month or two, living together really changes a relationship. but try everything first, at least if you two have to go seperate ways at least you know you have tried your damnest!

Answer 4

The only ways to get over someone are either 1. Time, and lots of it or 2.find someone else. The second option is the one that will easy the pain the quickest and bring you a lighter heart sooner. The first can take a long time and be very painful. Good luck!

Answer 5

My ex-boyfriend is Polish. He came to live in England and we were together for about 1.5yrs. I loved him like crazy but he had to go back home to finish his university course just for one last year.
Of course, the word "ex" means it never worked out.
It hurt way too much from both sides to be apart. We both got paranoid etc of what the other one was doing.

My advice to you would be: get closer or split up. You go there or he comes to you, or you wait out the necessary length of time to do so. Otherwise you need to move on because there is only more pain around the corner.

If you feel like I did you will not take this advice, you will probably keep trying anyway, but after a long time of not seeing someone, or not seeing them enough, other things will get in the way anyway.

Good luck and I hope it works out for you both! :)

Answer 6

You stop any contact with him. That's the fastest way to forget him. The long relationships don't last (only if the persons involved are really really weird). So you need to look away and forget him! There are a lot of other guys out there (surely some are as good as him, probably more) with which you may connect better and have a better relationship.

Answer 7

I have this guy who lives in Ireland. At least once a month we meet up and have sex and a good time.
At the moment we arent prepared to properly date each other, because we live in different countries.

Whenever one of us gets a partner then we probly wont see each other again. But if we happen to fall in love with each other, then we would do what ever we could to be together more perminantly.

It will all fall into place for you. Gd luck x

Answer 8

the best cure Ive ever found is to find another girlfriend (in your case boyfriend) or at the least, date other people. In Romeo and Juliet, this is the advice Shakespeare gives, and it works for me. Guys are everywhere and we are all replaceable.

Answer 9

my ex lives in aberdeen and im in glasgow

thats a 3 hour gap

depends how far away you mean?, i never seen my ex that much tho he did manage to see me long enough to get me pregnant with triplets.

its really hard to get over him, seriously hard. ive tried everything, new man, new look, going out with friends everything but there is this little bit in the back of your heart that keeps pounding at you saying you love him right? thats how i feel anyway, what you have to do and believe me im trying to do this now and its hard , but , you have to let go , and that means no contact at all

no email
no text
no phonecalls
nothing

and its got to stay like that untill your over it , im halfway there and its really hard but im staying strong for the babies. stay strong whatever you decide

tc xxxxxxxxxx

Answer 10

My girlfriend told me the best way to get over a man is with two more.
Either he will move to where you are or you will move to where he is if this is a real love.
If it isn't that earth shattering you will find a soft spot in your memory to keep him and find someone new.