He either tells me of every little slight or he punches the offender in the kisser... one extreme or the other... how can I help him learn to work it out?
2007-08-04 09:19:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
This is what I'd tell my son, who is also 5. I realize that each child is different and what may work with one might not necessarily work with another but I'd try this first. I'd say:
Honey, everyone gets mad and angry, so you're not in trouble for having those feelings. But you're a big boy now, about to start school and a part of being a big boy means you know how to or atleast try to be in charge of all your feelings. When you are feeling angry at someone, you should talk to them about being angry and what it is they're doing that is making you angry. Show how big/grown up you are by using your words to tell how you feel, and if you try talking about it to work it out you will probably fix the problem so you won't even feel like punching them. If talking doesn't help and you feel like you want to hit and puch then you need to just chill out and walk away from them until you feel better. Using your words to solve the problem is SO MUCH better than punching. Puching/hitting doesn't fix anything it just makes it worse.Does it make you feel like a good big boy after you've hit someone? No, I didn't think so. When you punch, you don't fix the problem, you make yourself feel bad and you hurt the other person. And its wrong to hurt people.Besides that, punching will get you into LOTS of trouble at school and everyone will be too scared of you to want to be friends and school is SO much fun when you have friends..
Then tell him flat out what punishment he will receive if he hits or punches again, and if he does it again, then follow through with the punishment you warned him about.
Add or take out or whatever you need to adjust to your own son of course, but thats the jist of what I'd say. THEN if that doesn't work and he continues in that behavior, I'd resort to whatever bigger type of punishment you see fit, but remember how boys are and that it might take several of these talks before you see any improvement. Hope that helps atleast a little bit! Good luck and best wishes!
2007-08-04 10:20:31 · answer #1 · answered by no longer here 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to create the tride-n-true "timeout" are for a cool down, and then have him explain his actions and what he should have done.....you are an active prompter in his monologue. The problem has to be handled now or he may be taking a swing that he will reget at possibly a young age.
2007-08-04 18:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got to talk to him hard honey. Let him know that won't be tolerated when he goes to school. He's just all boy and has all that energy. How about a karate class? Channel that energy.
2007-08-04 16:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by tbm5 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HE will work this out. It is not yet time for you to worry unless you want to condition him!
2007-08-04 16:23:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
put him in the corner and take things away from him when he hits.
2007-08-04 16:23:29 · answer #5 · answered by Nora G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋