Yeah, most of my stuff (should there be any left) will go to my kids, but not old love letters or such memorabilia as they don't deserve to know exist. Who do they think they are anyway?
2007-08-04 09:03:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
If you don't want your children getting your memorabilia, you should destroy those items. You could get hit by a car crossing the street, you know, and if those things are left behind, guess who gets to sift through them?
It's normal for a parent to leave everything to their children. My husband and I have provided for the surviving spouse to get it all, and if neither of us is left, the children get it divided equally.
They're trying to get it all NOW. They might be in for a huge surprise when it comes time for them to collect. They might get a safety-deposit box that has a note in it that says, "Sorry, kids. You've already spent it all!"
On a serious note, my siblings and I asked our parents to jot down some memories to share with us. Each of them wrote a number of essays, and now that they're gone, those memories are doubly precious to us. They also give us much insight into a time we might otherwise not know about.
2007-08-04 09:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by felines 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
If they get too uppity, you could always secretly change your will so that all or most of your worldly possessions are left to the local no-kill cat shelter.
I have heard of people doing stuff like this when their kids start acting greedy or intrusive about their "future" belongings. It definitely sends a message that may change that person for the better in the long run.
2007-08-04 16:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by Tea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the truth, anyway. Whatever we possess at the time of our demise (unencumbered possessions) automatically go to our children - them being our sole heirs or heiress. Treasured old love letters are meant to be read by our children, whether they came from their father or not. It is a legacy of some sort that we need to pass on to one of our children who, like us, love to listen or read love stories.
I remember an article in Reader's Digest. The writer was the couple's daughter and she wrote this beautiful and touching story on the romance and love of her parents. From the hundred or so love letters that came with the other things that she inherited from her parents, she learned how their love began and blossomed through hardships and unacceptance of her father by the family of her mother. The story was meant to inspire others who faced the same challenge her parents did.
2007-08-05 10:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by annabelle p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because the laws state that unless there is a will in place to say otherwise, your family gets your estate; so I suggest if you don't want certain things going to your kids, you go to a lawyer and have them draw up a LAST WILL AND TESTAMENT.
2007-08-05 10:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not old enough to know the answer to that yet, but on a lighter note: I saw a bumper sticker that read, 'Retired, in the process of spending my Children's Inheritance!'
2007-08-04 16:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by CelesteMoone 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I did a 'purge' on personal stuff all ready (I am 59).....I feel better now. They don't need to read my love letters etc. As far as money? They know I have non and still love me lots!
2007-08-04 16:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by missellie 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, I do keep a day journal (since 1985) but I am pretty honest so no secrets there.
I only have one son and one nephew so it is my pleasure to give them what I have. I can't take it with me. Rather leave to them, then my State.
2007-08-04 16:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that if you have personal stuff, you better take some precautions that it be disposed of BEFORE the kids arrive! Once they are in your house, they will lock it up.
2007-08-05 09:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well,I think you should not 'save' anything you dont want read,etc.Throw it away,have a bonfire,indulge a little and call that someone special up to help(if they are around)..Then please be sure to let go of that {stuff} while everyone is alive and well....
source..know all too well heartaches of [stuff}...
2007-08-04 16:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what wills are for. My husband thinks he's getting the grandfather clock that his dad built with his own two hands and don't you think the wife want's it? Spoiled little ........
2007-08-04 16:19:56 · answer #10 · answered by freedom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋