I am not sure. He continuesly bumps me on the hip with his hip and hits me with basketballs on my butt. He is 17(I think) and I am 13. I dont know if he really is or if I am just imagining things. I did confront him about it, but I am worried he may fully-rape me now. My Step-Uncle did rape my cousin so I think it my be a phobia or mine. I really dont want to tell my parents. Please help!
2007-08-04 08:41:43 · 32 answers · asked by Polly. 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Tell your parents. He is a little old to be hitting on a 13 year old. It's hard to say from what you have given but if you feel uncomfortable then let someone know.
2007-08-04 08:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by dzjynn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound like abuse if he is just bumping into you - it sounds like he's flirting with you. Guys have a really weird way of telling girls they like them.. they'll throw things at them, hit them, push them.. etc etc. However.. 17 is probably too old for you..
If you don't like it though, and you really don't want to tell your parents, talk to a close family member about it or a teacher. Make sure to tell someone, so something can be done at least. Especially if you're concerned about rape.
2007-08-04 09:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by Tialah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anna, I know that you don't want to tell your parents, but you need to; trust me.
I know that you may feel very scared about telling them or maybe you're embarassed about it.
If you really can't tell them for some reason, talk with an adult that you trust. Adults really help you a lot because they have a lot of power in the world and they can help put a stop to this.
If you feel that something bad is happening, then it most likely is because you need to trust yourself. Don't worry about "what if I am paranoid?" Do what you need to do.
2007-08-04 13:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it could be flirting. There is gap with the age difference. With your cousin being raped you are going to be more scared paranoid and maybe insecure. Never keep it to yourself, thats not going to do anything but make you feel like you haveno one to talk to and no where to go. Especially if your not cool with it.....Let someone know, and if you talked to him about it and he still continues....l dont know if hes a friend of a friend or if hes in your school LET SOMEONE KNOW. so you can stop it before if anything did happen happens
2007-08-04 08:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he might be flirting in a sense, but also sexually assaulting you. I would tell my parents if I was you. THey should know ahead of time before anything happens seriously. They can help you alot. I know when I felt harrassed sexually by a janitor I told my parents and they called the police on him. It helps. They know that it is not your fault. I wouldn't try to confront him, just tell your parents and the police.
2007-08-04 08:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you think that your not comfortable with him doing these things tell him so. it sorta looks like it might be a phobia but as long as your not comfortable with anybody doing such things then tell them to kindly stop just say i dont feel comfortable when you do this i am only 18 and have a baby so i just graduated so i fully understand what ur going threw if you stiil feel weird emial if you want it'll be someone to talk to at angelwink93@yahoo.com
i hope i helped
Angel Marie
2007-08-04 09:26:16 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Marie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have reason to be concerned and have a 'phobia' as you say. since he wants to be a butt-head and not stop like you ask, you need to tell your parents. or his parents. or some other grown up. you can't handle him by yourself and if he continues to hurt you, the first question an adult is going to ask you is 'why didn't you tell us this before?' please tell some one grown. he shouldnt be hitting you with anything or anwhere, especially with a hard basketball, and on your butt.
2007-08-04 09:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by vivienne r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please donot take this matter easily.it could spoil your life if u donot start resisting from now .u can do following things in steps.
1. u should reduce talking to him in steps and reduce your conversation to once in a week and donot give him so much attention.
2. if the problem still persists you should talk to him.
3. if again u face the similar problem the matter is serious and u should tell this to your parents
2007-08-04 09:38:59 · answer #8 · answered by THE SK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should tell him that that's making u feel uncomfortable. if he continues, talk 2 some1, like ur mom or dad. i'm not sure if thats SEXUAL abuse, but i think it could b considered harrasment. if he tries 2 rape u (which i hope he doesnt =) ) then scream ur butt off & hit his head! then go tell an adult who knows who he is,or who u trust. tell ur cousin i sympathize, even tho i havent been raped, it mustve been horrible 4 her!!! bad step uncle! bad step uncle! >=(
2007-08-04 09:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey anna, to be honest it doesn't sound like sexual assault more like flirting. He seems to have an attraction to you. but if you are uncomfortable in any way you need to let him know you do not like him that way and he needs to stop. If you do not like the attention i would say try to avoid him or only hang around him with a lot of your friends, if it still continues just let a teacher know he is bothering you. good luck little one.
2007-08-04 08:51:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋