Child Support receiving mom is doing ILLEGAL things...?

Question

Not UNCOMMON...

A woman I know of has 3 kids. She filed in 2 different states for child support and lives in 1. She never closed the case in the 1st state and now both are after the dad. He (a friend of mine and his wife) has always been on time, but he can't get it off his credit report. He has tried everything but CS does not help men (they are really stupid & uneducated) and can't afford a lawyer who's not going to do the job.

She continues to make more money than him, she lied on the form, wants to get $ from his current wife, owns a home, a timeshare and travels all of the time. She leaves the kids at home every weekend and sleeps with/brings home married men, leaving the eldest in charge or sends them to friends/neighbors. She lied in court & said that she needed $ for babysitter and got it. She has made friends with some of his friends and lied to them.

How can he get a lawyer to help seek justice (jail?), stop her, & pay back the money she has gotten illegally?

Answer 1

He needs proof of all allegations, hire a dectective to keep track of her comings and goings armed with that information from a third party he can stop the harrasment from CS in the state she does not live in by proving she does not live in that state on a full time basis.
The other stuff will need to be shown to the second state she does live in through records, about how much she makes and the things she owns that she is profitteering from the extra income and the money is not being spent on the children.

Answer 2

She had better hope this story doesn't hit the local news. Tell me where she is and I will send it to them!

I know that plenty of women abuse the Child Support system and cry about what they need. Most just need a JOB! Yes, they should share the child raising expenses, but, then they should move on or let the father share custody or take the kids. They shouldn't use the kids as PAWNS!

Why is it that because their relationship soured, they have to punish the father of their children (you know, the one they loved enough to have babies with)?

I am a woman who proudly has a job and career and would not think of ruining the life of my child's father (husband) if we didn't work out. He is VERY important to their emotional health.

Hey anyone - I would sign a petition to have all of the support cases reviewed to ask the other parent what they are doing to help their child just the same. Women don't realize that the kids will grow up and resent them for putting their father down and that they look really pathetic pursuing their ex's 100% of the time. What ever happened to your conscience and KHARMA? :)

Answer 3

He needs to find a lawyer who does family law. Child support, however, is based upon HIS income, not hers. Whether she makes half a million or only ten thousand a year doesn't matter. He has an income, and he has kids, therefore he pays a percentage of his income, decided by the court. Her personal life is not the courts business as long as her children are fed, clothed, and provided for medically. So long as they are supervised and taken care of, she is not an unfit mother unless she endangers or injures them in some way. Why do people think that if a divorced woman with kids sleeps with men, she is an unfit mother? I imagine your friend slept with other women before he remarried, does that make him an unfit dad? Also, if she lives in one state, but divorce was granted in another, she may have been told to file in the state where divorce was granted (or told by that state's attorney general to file in the state where she now resides). Believe me, dealing with family courts can get very, very frustrating and confusing. He is in for a long, hard battle trying to prove his exwife unfit, and I really doubt that when push comes to shove, she has obtained any "illegal" support from him. By the way, even if he was paying child support in two states and she was collecting it, the overpayment would simply be credited to his child support in one or the other of the two states, and would not be returned to him.

Edit: I have reread your question several times. From the fervor of your dislike for this woman, I would say you are probably really the new wife, not just a friend. If so, I empathize with you, but your husband has responsibilities to his children, and trashing his ex wife won't help.

Answer 4

If he really thinks he has a case, he should find a lawyer. If he is truly impoverished, he may be able to get free assistance from a legal aid office. But otherwise he'll have to pay for the lawyer. Also, lawyers in family law cases have restrictions on whether they can work "on commission," or on contingent fees, so he'll probably have to pay up front, or on some kind of payment plan.

There are two places he might start looking--either the local legal aid office, or the state bar association. They might be able to refer him to an inexpensive attorney who specializes in family law or child support issues.

Of course, as others have mentioned, it might be better for you just to stay out of it, and let him deal with his own problems.

Answer 5

I am sorry, but I have to disagree with the one answer above. No one is stating she is unfit, just doing illegal things (read the excerpt). I do believe that moms get the best deal in Child Support. Our system has got to change.

Child support is based on both incomes, period. You both have to state your income. She lied. She filed for support in two states, and I bet he isn't getting any credit. She lied in court and said she needed a sitter and doesn't use the money for one. He has his credit ruined, even though he is paying and she is living a good life that he also deserves. Her credit is probably fine. He has also remarried = stability. He is also in a good situation to in to provide a life for himself and some stability for his children.

And, though he probably dated before he married, I am not certain he was sleeping with married women. However, she is sleeping with married men and stays out on the weekend = unfit mother!

Answer 6

i think of you may by no skill point out the verbal contract to him, or absolutely everyone else sooner or later. If he to attempt to persue visitation you is probably not waiting to stop him, despite the fact that, he would be responsible for lower back newborn help owed to you if he is going that direction. i comprehend which you do not think of that he merits visits and that i agree, yet he continues to be her father and legally he has each good to circulate to her no count what you believe. I purely went in the process an identical ingredient and believe it or not he have been given visitation after many some years of being out of the image. i could recommend which you employ a reliable criminal expert if he's persistant. I choose you the final, yet i don't think you would be waiting to stop him if that's what he somewhat desires to do no count what the contract between the two one in each of you. The courtroom is a problematical place and believes that a newborn merits the two mom and dad reguardless of the previous... reliable success!!

Answer 7

First of all there are always two sides to every story. Make sure you know all the facts before getting involved. Second I'm sure if he called a law school nearby they would help him if he doesn't have money. He needs solid proof of everything is accusing her of. My advice to you is to stay out of it for your own well being. Just be there as their friend. Good luck!

Answer 8

Wait til she's out of town on one of her "trips" and plant a bunch of drugs throughout the house... then call the cops and watch her *** go to jail... no more problems... Kids go to the dad and all is well.

Or call a good lawyer who will work on a commission...

Answer 9

Most counties offer a legal aid service for those who cannot afford a lawyer

Answer 10

CSA is an ***, they got him by the short and curly's.