I know you might of been seeing lot of questions like these..but...its URGENT! IF SOMEONE LOVES YOU...BUT...?
you don't love him...like atleast not real "love" but you accept them as your really really nice friend...you never thought they'd even be close to ask you out. But it happens...and u already like someone else...
and that friend already knew that...but he still wants to ask you out and already did....
what would you do?
I don't want to hurt his feelings...cuz he's already hurt...which leaves me trapped and stuck...
he accepts me as his type of girl ...but he's not MY type of guy...just a really good friend!!!
ii have problems telling him...like how should ii say no...if that's what it comes out to be...just help me!!
WHAT SHOULD I DO IN MY POSITION...??
yes u don't come across these type of guys often..he knew i like someone else and still has hope...ii just told him that ii need some time.
2007-08-04 05:47:54 · 17 answers · asked by ღCuteღLiLღAnGeLღ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tell him he's your very good friend and you'll always be there for him in that way.
2007-08-04 05:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by Senza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obsessive and he shouldn't be trying to take another mans lady, so if you have already tried explaining to him, but he isn't listening, you need to stop feeling sorry for him. He isn't thinking about your feelings or he wouldn't be putting you through the emotional blackmail. Tell him you've had enough of him trying to come between you and your happiness, and tell him if he really loved you he would want you to be happy. Toughen up a bit. Life is full of these kinds of situations but if you stay frightened to say your piece people will just walk all over you and you will end up miserable. I'm sorry sweet, but your just too nice.
2007-08-04 13:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He knows that you like someone else. Maybe you should follow his example and approach that guy. If he rejects you horribly then at least you'll still have this great friend who can help you pick up the pieces.
Be honest with him about how you feel towards him. Then he can move on and find someone else. If he really loves you it wont be easy to get him to move on but at least you've been honest.
2007-08-04 13:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by Te 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an awful thing, and you will probably run into this alot in your lifetime. The best thing to do is sit with him and put your hand on his and tell him the truth. Think of it from his point of view a question not asked? He had too. He probably thought if he didn;t he would miss out on the biggest opportunity of his life, you have to be as kind as you can. You can imagine how he feels? He asked you because if he waited he figured you would be too involved by then. So give him credit it took alot of nerv to ask. I know you know these things, I have had this happen soo many times to me over the years, you need to look him in the eyes and tell him that you only love him as a friend, as much as it is going to hurt him, you need to tell him, that you don;t have that kind of feelings for him, but you love and trust him as one of your best friends, and that you truly valu ehi frienship and that you can;t imagine it any other way but this way as friends. Tell him you love having him around and you have so much fun, but not that way. Ask him not to be mad, and that you need him in your life as a friend. and that he is important to you. Tell him why you like him. like, you are so funny, and you know just what to say, but i am sorry i just don;t love you like that, and that you hope you can still be really good friends and ask him not to be mad at you. After that there is really nothing you can do, but see if he can handle it. handle it as, he might be upset and need time to think, as he might not be able to be your friend or be around you after as he really really might love you, and find it hard to see you with another guy. If he doesn;t phone you for a while, and stuff make sure you phone him, and reassure him that you still really need him as a ffriend and tht you miss him being around, and that is all you can do. Be as nice as possible honesst as possible, that is the best. Whatever he does after that is really out of your hands and that way you can live with yourself as you were as kind as you could be. I hoped this helped a little bit, i know it is hard when you really care for someone and you don;t want to hurt them, unfortunately you are going to encounter this alot in your lifetime, and i know it hurts you too cause you don;t want to make anyone sad, but honesty is best, best to respect you and him. Take care and good luck!
2007-08-04 13:09:28 · answer #4 · answered by babymalai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl look u should just go to him as a friend n not a lover tell him the honest truth n love him as a friend 4 life
2007-08-04 12:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by PK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont lead him on tell him the truth if u only want to be his friend tell him straight up that hes not ur type and u would never want to hurt yall's friendship. tell him it could never really work ur lookin out for his feelings because in the long run u would still like that other guy. like i said just tell him the truth dont prolong the situation it only makes it worse he will understand.
2007-08-04 12:52:25 · answer #6 · answered by southern_babe6984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey
i completely understand in which mess u r...
but to be very honest
i wud sincerely advice u...
u shud tell u r frnd
dat u do like him as a frnd
but cant say yes....coz u dont think abt him anythng beyond as a frnd....
u knw wat...
evn if out of an obligation....if u say yes to him...n if in case he gets attached to u...
thn if u will tell him...
dat u dont like him...
think abt...he's gonna be hrt broken twice...which means...he will get completely shattred
n will end up not only losin his faith on love but on frnds as well
so u politely tell him everythng...n say him no...
dats the best
rest is all upto u
but take a decision wisely
2007-08-04 12:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by shifali 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you like him as a friend it won't hurt him as much as you think. When a guy hears that it changes everything for him including his feelings for you. Trust me.
2007-08-04 12:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by O&APest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like him, you have to tell him or you will wind up being so miserable. It won't ever be real for either of you. I've done it and its no good. The deeper you go with this, the harder it becomes.
2007-08-04 12:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by cindy h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just tell him that ur heart/eyes are already set on someone right now. and that it would weird out ur friendship and its great right now so i dont want to ruin it
hell understand cuz hes ur best bud.trust me
2007-08-04 12:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by DELANCEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a soft towel to wipe his tears and tell him no.....and if he cannot respect that then he is not welcome to be your friend......
these days we are so wrapped up in i don't want to hurt someones feelings.....and lies don't hurt????? the truth doesn't hurt as much as we fear, just the method of delivery.... if he takes it the wrong way it is on him not you sweetie.....seems youare already seeing/liking someone, does he not respect that also????
2007-08-04 12:52:09 · answer #11 · answered by Twinkie Thief 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋