what could you do if you were ostracized/outcasted from your family & friends, how could you get through life?

Question

and face toff/ tough times? could it be done alone? what else could you do?

Answer 1

The best thing to do in this case is reflect and focus on the things which make you happy. Distracting yourself would be the best option since it will make you forget all the pain your kin or your friends have given you.

If you are being ostracized for something you can't help with (i.e: physical defect, birth problems, etc) then maybe your friends and/or family will be more of a burden.

If you are ignored because of you did something which they do not seem to agree with, then maybe you can make reparations.

Whatever the reason is, don't let anyone (AND I MEAN ANYONE) make you stop living your life. Find happiness and don't pass your frustrations to your children or to the few people who I'm sure love you. Otherwise, it will be a vicious emotional cycle.

Being tough sometimes can be done alone.

*Christian advice*: If all else fails, then you could turn to religion and prayer. Whatever nomination you belong to, you can always practice your spirituality.

You can be an outcast in this world but you will always have a companion with your faith, whatever it may be :) Peace :)

Answer 2

There are always more people to be friends with out there. Family is what it is. It isnt necessary to get through life. They are people that shared the same genetic crap, or happened to grow up in the same house.

As an adopted person, I can promise you that biological families mean nothing. It doesnt even matter if you grew up together. It is the people that love you and accept you and care for you that matter.

When tough times come, and they always seem to find their way from time to time, you just need to work hard at being the best that you can be, and be logical about yourself and the situation. Be strong and sensible, and you will get through things. Always remember that there is good in every situation (even when it seems impossible) and that someone else is ALWAYS worse off.

Answer 3

That would be very tough. Although, I must admit... I am the black sheep of my family. I've in recent years gone away from my Baptist background. My husband is Catholic, and the rest of my family is Lutheran.

While I believe there is a God, I don't believe, necessarily in the teachings of these three religions. I don't think God intended for you to be made to "tithe".. he left it to be at choice. However, here, we have found that it seems to be expected and you're expected to *go out and preach it*. Well, if I don't believe in the teachings, necessarily, I'm not gonna preach it...

I found my peace through spirituality versus Christianity. My husband has been very supportive of me.

I don't do much with my family because I'm still considered a 'child'... imagine that... a 35 year old woman, married with 2 children of her own considered a child by her relatives... I go to family functions and no-one talks to me.

Therefore, I no longer go to family functions and I don't do much with my extended family. I have one Uncle in Florida that I talk to and my father and maternal grandmother. (yes my mother is still alive I just don't talk to her much. a story for another subject)

Can getting through life be done without them? I suppose it can as long as you have someone by your side to have your back. A close friend, girlfriend, spouse.

Answer 4

Well hon, I am almost there. I have been booted from my home, my husband filed for divorce. He is keeping our two children from me. I was going to move in with my son, but his girlfriend forbids it. My daughter has taken my stuff from the house, she says to store for me, but has claimed it for her own. I am homeless, all our friends believe my husbands story that I had an affair. When all I did was answer questions on here. So now I sleep in my car, shower at truck stops, do laundry at laundra mats. It can be done. I enjoy the peace and quiet in my life. I miss my two kids. But life has to get better, I am already at the bottom of the pit. So you know, survival is what we do on a daily basis, some more extreme than others. It can be done. Have a nice day.

Answer 5

Whoah, what did YOU do???

Anyway, you just need to find a new family. This could be a church, fellow competitors in some sport, the military, fellow fire/rescue team members, or any number of other dedicated 'families'. I hear there's a group looking for the Lost Dutchman, since you appear to be interestie in mining

Answer 6

We are hard wired for survival. It can be done.

The trick is to be free and honest with your emotions, then move on in the ever changing environment of life.

Try not to be hardened by people and circumstance. This attitude only helps.

Be open to a new family. (Church, club, group, sport pals, etc)

Answer 7

I think it depends on your coping skills and mentality. I know people with depression that are not on medication that do just fine, and others that are that have problems. They have different levels of coping.

Answer 8

If the situation arises, one has to face it ,though it is easy or difficult.