Refusal to accept the dark side of yourself can lead to unhappiness.
2007-08-04 04:37:14 · 17 answers · asked by melvin p 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think this is a great question. Without knowing what your "dark side" is... I would have to agree that people should accept their dark sides... However, I also think that the word "accept" is just the beginning.
One should accept his or her "dark side" and work to understand all aspects of it. How did it develop? Any childhood factors that contributed to it? What is the "story" behind the dark side? How does it work? What does it look like in "real life?"
In addition, what are the consequences of one's dark side? I believe that for many people, a "dark side" means that a person is meeting their needs in a "socially unacceptable" way... So what are these needs? What are the consequences of meeting these needs in this particular way? I would ask... Does it hurt me? Does it hurt others? Or perhaps, it also helps me and helps others... Most importantly, is there any other way of meeting these needs in a way that is "healthier" (however that is defined) or better for myself? And how can I work towards this?
While this response may be more analytical than expected... I do believe that adults have an ethical responsibility to consider the consequences of their actions on their loved ones and on society. For instance, if my "dark side" is smoking a little weed every now and then... what does this really mean? Who is this hurting? Etc.
No right or wrong answers... just my opinion.
2007-08-04 04:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by thedrisin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We live in a dual universe - a universe of positives and negatives. Both are present in each of us.
Denying the negatives about ourselves is not healthy (although we all try to do it!). It is important to recognize that negative emotions/feelings can have positive benefits. For example, anger can be an appropriate and motivating response to injustices. So, in certain situations, a dark emotion like anger can be used/needed to do good things.
Best wishes.
P.S. thanks for a great question - they are becoming so rare on this site.
2007-08-04 05:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by Doctor J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to choose what's more important - accepting & having it or treating & connecting to yourself and making the life you lead better? All that matters is acknowledging there IS a darkside to each of us, and how we're able to deal with it is our own choice and understanding.
Balance is needed; so is prayer, work and choice. All you can do is read, work, practice and live to the best of your ideas, grace and hope.
Best of luck!
2007-08-04 04:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by El Santo Gordo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. If taken into account, the dark and light should balance each other. If you are a balanced whole being, then happiness just falls into place. Of course we all have challenges and tests, but having balance in ourselves helps us achieve closure and work through those things much quicker.
2007-08-04 05:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by Bekah M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're "dark side" is what makes it possible for you to make decisions that are not "win-win". If you didn't have a "dark side" you couldn't choose between the lesser of two evils. Without a "dark side" you probably couldn't make those decisions at all.
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2007-08-04 04:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can! your question is a bit unclear, but i think your asking about you self right? If so, then yes. You should be able to accept the fact that you are nice, but as mean at times. U should accept that you innocent, but as guilty sumtimes. Basically yes. Accept your self, then others will accept you.
2007-08-04 04:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right about that. I believe it is important to accept oneself completely - bad and good. If one is having trouble accepting the bad about themselves (I like to refer to it as the "negative"), then I would think it may be that they are simply not dealing with it in a positive manner. Like, if I don't like something about myself, like lets say I am an alchoholic, I wouldn't want to be a active drinker, so therefore, I would get help for this and work on being a "recovering" alchoholic. Then I would like myself better for having learned and for continuing to learn from my past mistakes and the "thing" I didn't like about "me". This way I am better able to accept me for "me" - the bad, the good, the whole thingy. (By the way, I am not an alchoholic, however, I have attending many meetings because those AA meetings teach one how to live life on lifes terms and all about acceptance, and willingness to change oneself. - Great stuff for anyone in this world, I believe.)
Hey, thanks - I like to be able to share that kind of stuff!
2007-08-04 05:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. But I think perhaps it depends on what your dark side contains. Accepting is one thing but living with it is another
2007-08-04 04:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by glasgowgone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 09:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we ought to continually be trying to enlighten ourselves and tamp down the dark side but yes it is a part of us
2007-08-04 04:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by Southern Comfort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋