"If you care, don't let them know, don't give yourself away"
Thank you for your answer! :) Have a wonderful weekend! :)
2007-08-04 02:42:19 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
This is not about me, I'm just asking. It's from an old song :)
2007-08-04 02:48:42 · update #1
It depends on whether you are actually looking at clouds from both sides now I suppose! It is a bit on the cynical side, and I suppose it would matter where you lived and who you hung out with. When Joni was in Canada, she lived with some pretty open and trusting people, but she was bored a lot. When she moved to Topanga Canyon, she was definitely not bored anymore, but dating the "Rock and Roll Choirboys" left it's scars.
If you care, and it's obvious that they care too, then talk about it. If you care and it's obvious that they don't, then just enjoy the fact that you can care and wait for your moment. If you care and you're not sure how the other person feels, ask them and save a lot of time. Of course, the closer to L. A. that you live, the more careful you want to be. Also try to avoid manic depressives with guitars!
2007-08-04 18:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by MUDD 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is kind of true... If you care don't let them know because you may get your feelings hurt for saying something. Don't give yourself away..... until you know the person and you are sure you will not be rejected :] Have a great weekend everyone!!!
2007-08-04 02:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moon :),
how I "feel" about the saying? It really doesn't "move" me in any way. "If" I cared I would let someone know; however, it would also depend upon the context to which I would apply or not apply this. Can you give an example of how YOU would use this statement and why it is so important to YOU? I care - which is why I ask a question back to you.
Have a good day!
2007-08-04 02:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by Gerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Moon,
At first I was going to say I totally disagree but just reading other peoples answers shows there are other perspectives to see this from.
Generally I still don't think I can go along with the philosophy of not giving yourself away if you care. But I can understand it if someone cares about someone but circumstances are such that giving themselves away could cause complications, difficulties or awkwardness, then maybe they have to hide their feelings.
Polly
2007-08-04 03:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by pollyanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel it depends on where you're at in your life. I started out always letting people know how I felt. Things went really bad and after that, I felt like that saying. I kept my feelings and caring to myself. I think it was because I didn't want to hurt so badly again. Now, I am starting to show my feelings and to care and let others care for me. Sometimes, it hurts, but I think I am doing better now that I show I care and let others in my life.
That saying is for the ones who are not ready to open up and take a chance.
2007-08-04 03:30:50 · answer #5 · answered by Breezey is saying HAPPY BIRTHDAY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does make you more vulnerable to bullying if you let the bully know you care. But you have everything to gain and nothing to lose in giving away the fact that you care in a loving circumstance. Keeping it secret that you are drawn to someone is rarely a good idea, although you may have to adjust what sort of relationship you have with them to their own wishes.
2007-08-04 04:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by auntb93 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on who you are saying it too? I don't actually agree with the saying because people would take that as mixed messages, if you love someone, don't give them any emotion or even credit. If you build a wall, then how are you going to communicate?!!! Show emotion, but in small doses and if you are NOT going to see a person that you like or love for a while, then give them more because you don't know what could happen tomorrow!
2007-08-04 02:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally ... find too many faults in the above statement....
a. First- "If you care"...
Everyone should "care" - for all.
Why?
John 3:16
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life."
b. "don't let them know",
Why would one not let anyone know? Why would you allow yourself to be robbed of a blessing?
Only you can answer this as to your feelings toward this person or persons.
c. "don't give yourself away".....
Why? Again.....
Are you afraid as to what this person/persons would thing about you? Are you ashamed as to your feelings? Do you believe that they might turn against you? To use your feelings against you? To take advantage of you and how you feel?
To me... to make yourself vulnerable to others … Is too really put yourself “out on a limb”. But ? By doing this it shows two things :
1. About you – That you are not afraid to open up and show your true self. And that you are giving to others to whom you feel comfortable with.
2. About them – It uncovers the “real truth in them”. Are they whom you though they would be – there feelings, personality there heart? This to me and my understanding of the above statement. This is finding out as to who others truly are all about. This is life.
2007-08-04 05:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Old Dawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hog wash. I used to be like that. Than the woman I was with and loved very much was killed in a car accident. I never had the opportunity to tell her just how much she meant to me. She knew but I will spend the rest of my life wishing I could have told her.
2007-08-04 04:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. E. Bunny A.K.A. Andy. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel like it was said by my insecure younger brother.
If you care then tell them so that you can have it out on the table. People who keep all their emotions bottled up are the one's who go crazy first.
Then again I'm a brutally honest person.
2007-08-04 02:46:15 · answer #10 · answered by darkbosslady 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋