This is kinda akward, I'm in a long distance relationship with a girl who says she loves me a lot. I accidentally read a private diary which at points mentions that she finds a co-worker hot and mentions she's firting with him. after a couple of days she writes that she made out with him and enjoyed it immensely. and rationalises that its ok since its only physical and its has told the guy that. she also writes she feels promiscuous.
I told her about this and obviously am very mad about it, she says that she got carried away and it was just a kiss that they had..... I took a lot of time to make the decision to be with her and i'm shattered. she says that I'm the only thing that matters to her and is pleading for a second chance, my heart bleeds at both things, can someone show me another perspective?
2007-08-04 01:37:54 · 5 answers · asked by strongwingman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it seems she told the guy she was interested in someone else but he took her hand and pulled her to him, she says she didnt resist and her mistake was that she enjoyed the kiss.... i'm really confused about this...
2007-08-04 01:46:29 · update #1
like cheryl pointed out, the reading was not accidental, it was deliberate and intentional she had tried to delete the file before i read it (she;d come over) but i managed to keep a copy she told me they were her fantasies and i belied her and though i'd tease her about them later on.
2007-08-04 02:19:03 · update #2
i would be as upset. it's not like you guys are close that you can really see how she's reacting... if she's blowing smoke up your pants or really telling the truth.
i would give her 1 more chance and see how things go.
i just worry that if she made out with him... what else will she do since she's feeling promiscious now?
2007-08-04 01:41:54 · answer #1 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were the only thing that matters to her, she would never have done that. Long distance relationships are hard to be in. You have to have major trust in the person because you're not there with them. If you decide to give her a second chance.. you have to trust in her that she won't pull a stunt like that again. If you're going to be calling her every 30 minutes to see where she's at, who she's with..... it's like you dont trust her. What is a relationship without the trust ? End it if you know you're going to do that.
There's that chance that she'll do something like that again. Keep that in mind. If you're willing to take that risk, than by all means go ahead and do so.
2007-08-04 01:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should not give her another chance because she did not tell the guy that she has a bf and she might do it again wit out writing it in her book and long distance relationships dont work out most of the times
2007-08-04 01:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by DShaunn T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really hard, how long can you be in a long distant realationship, people need to have to love sombody who is right with them. It is really hard to be faithfull with someone who is that far away. You can't blame her the temptation is too much to cope with.
2007-08-04 02:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by chez006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I have to go with the dump her vote myself. If you can't trust her you can't stay with her.....besides, she should control her impulses and think of what is important before acting.
2007-08-04 01:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋