I use to be best friend with this girl for like 5years. We drifted away when she started going out with her boyfriend about 3years ago.
Whenever she has a problem in her life, well mostly her relationship, she ALWAYS comes crying to me and expects me to be her shoulder to cry on and give her all the answers.
Last night we were at a friend's birthday (my friend and everyone else, except myself, was drunk). My old best friend made a huge scene, ruined my friend's party and expected me to fix her problems.
In the end, I just went home. I was so sick of it. I've put up with her sh*t for so long and she never cares about me! She always puts herself and her boyfriend before me.
I don't know where to go from here though, what would you do?
2007-08-04 00:35:24 · 16 answers · asked by ★☆✿❀ 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
u did the right thinkg jsut avoid her. make her realize that ure not around and when it comes time for her to really need you just tell her that she never cared or asked about u so unless shes going to pay u for a psychiatist fee than ure going to spend time with other friends that have fun together and not ***** and cry all the time. I hear ya those friends drag u down and they are only worried about themselves.dont even staisfy her with an arguement just ignore and avoid her for awhile.
2007-08-04 00:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by toolate 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had that similar problem and Im not someone to come to WHEN SHE NEEDED HELP. Friends should be there for each other. Its not just when she need help. Isnt it irritating. It seems as if your friendship was done a long time ago. A lot of friendships go down becoz a guy comes into their lives.
If she is a friend worth keeping, talk to her. Tell her how you feel. And if she still wants to be friends, then by all mean, work it out. My friend was worth it. And til this day we are best friends.
But then again, if she is a friend worth keeping. If she only comes to you just for a shoulder to cry on, then obviously she is using you. I dunno how to say it, but your feelings should be heard. So girl, tell her how you feel. And see where it goes from there. Hope everything works out for you =) take care and God bless ya!!
2007-08-04 01:04:18 · answer #2 · answered by * a proud army wife * 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A friend is a friend no matter what. You should discuss these issuse with your friend. Let her know how you feel. If you 2 are truely friends, you will find a way to work through this. A friendship is also a relationship, and all relationships take a little effort and work.
2007-08-04 00:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, she isnt a friend. She only needs you when she has no one else. and i dont know about you but i hate being someones last resort when they have no one else to run to. Next time she tries to come running to you for support, just completely igronre her or blow her off. and when she gets mad at you, you can explain to her how shes been doing it to you for years and now its her turn to get blown off for a change.
anyone who has to put up with friends like that can do so much better. You just need to give her the same treatment back and see what happens.
Good luck!
2007-08-04 00:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that happened 2 me w/ lots of friends. . . just forget her, if shes really ur friend, she'll apologize, (even tho from what i've heard, i doubt it.) make some new friends! have fun, let her go. . . . it's obviously not a healthy relationship, so y hold on 2 it any longer!!? if u really dont want 2 forget her tho, then talk 2 her, & tell her how u feel like shes not caring about u as much as she is 4 herself. if ur just pissed @ her, calm dwn & think about if u really like her as a friend or not. . . . just let ur mind settle 1st tho. it that always helps me. . . !
2007-08-04 09:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Examine all your relationships, present and past, i.e., friends, family, classmates, schoolmates, and co-workers. Do you often find yourself, taking care of others? Do you often, put their needs before yours? Do you find yourself, thinking about the problems of others, more than you think about your own problems?
If you do; you may find, your own needs are not being met. You also, may find yourself exploited and unappreciated. I am not suggesting, you should not be caring or not be empathetic; they are great qualities. However, don't neglect yourself. Be sensitive to, and responsive to, your own wants and needs. Love yourself, as well as others.
In summary, where you go from here, has little to do with your friend. Disconnect from her, be neutral; do something for yourself. Consider being egocentric for a day; you deserve it!
2007-08-04 01:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by Larry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That just how relationship go some time. So it's up to you if you still want to be friends with her.
2007-08-04 00:40:07 · answer #7 · answered by Dallas S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she feels like she doesnt have the different acquaintances. do no longer permit her injury a stable time with ur different superb acquaintances. She has to appreciate u could have better than one superb pal. She sounds controlling/ I propose counseling for her
2016-10-09 04:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ppl in your life will come and go...
She should leave your life!
The best way to tell her is in a short letter(not email,phone call or SMS)
2007-08-04 08:18:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what's your feeling...but that show to you that's not a best friend...So let's her go out from your mind...another best friends waiting for you...I know you are good girl...KEEP OUT FROM YOUR MIND ALL ABOUT HER....
2007-08-04 00:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by welly_de_sanchoz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋