He has one child and so do I. He seems unsatisfied with his life and family and we really spark off each other. Trouble is its getting to the stage where I long to see him and talk to him. this has been going on for months now and I think about him constantly when not at work. He is 8 years younger than me and it all seems hopeless but I know its real love
2007-08-04 00:18:34 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
awww hell. well look at what you are asking and have stated so far. I mean do you really need us to tell you ITS WRONG. Both of you are married, work together and u think u r in love.
honey, you need to commuicate with your husband not with you young dude at your job. Cheating will ruin your marriage, life and you could find yourself dead or on the news.
Cheating will cause your spouse and his spouse so much pain and not to mention the effect it will hav on you kids and the rest of your family.
So talk to YOUR SPOUSE LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL what you want from him. Think about when you guys first started dating how he made you feel and if all that fails
then get a divorce
2007-08-04 00:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by KB48 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen to what vamedic said, the grass always looks greener on the other side, especially when things are in a lull. Why don't you go home and try and bring the spark back that made you marry your man in the first place. Or if all else fails then get a divorce and move on. But think about if you cheat you not only ruin your life but the lives of your kids having to grow up with all that drama going on, it's just not worth it. Good Luck.
2007-08-04 00:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you might be "in love" with this man, but I doubt that he's in love with you. Yes, the two of you may connect, personality wise or even physically at some level, but the chance for a relationship like that working for the long-term is slim to none. 8 years is significant in terms of looks. Most men are attracted to and desire younger women (5-15 years younger), which means you'd be competing with women 13-23 years younger because of your age. I doubt you could compete with that. If he's already unsatisfied with his current family, what makes you think that he would desire an older woman?
2007-08-04 00:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you CROSS that line, be respectful to your family and get out of the marriage. What you are seeing right now is through "rose-colored" glasses and words from someone that you can't verify if it is true or not!
You need to think ahead, because you have a child. YOur actions WILL affect your child should you end up having an affair and your husband finds out. Then you end up in a court battle over custody of the innocent child coming from a broken home.
2007-08-04 01:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have something missing in your lives and/or marriages and it's much easier to look elsewhere for what you need than to fix the problem you have. Problem there is that eventually looking elsewhere causes even more and bigger problems.
It's time to get a reality check and shake this off and work out your respective problems at your own homes first before you start a torrid love affair that ends up hurting the kids and maybe even yourself needlessly.
2007-08-04 00:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by blastabuelliac 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the person above me - it's called a CRUSH. How can you a ctually sit there and say it's love? Come on now.
You're consuming your thoughts with this guy, therefore it's ALL you think about, therefore you think this is "love".
It's probably a void that you would like filled. Who knows if it could be filled by this office guy, BUT, you could ask him to do something outside of work. Talk to him. See what happens.
2007-08-04 00:29:37 · answer #6 · answered by Leia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infidelity? You both need to make a decision. Either divorce so you can be together OR stop seeing each other. Look at the lives your harming...including portions of yours. This will all catch up with you, especially where the child is concerned!
2007-08-04 00:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by kys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone no matter what age, have crushes from time to time. I would be very careful, Until you actually split up with your spouses getting involved while married can be very messy and harmful to your kids. Do not make that leap. If its real love you both can wait until you are single again, if you can'nt then its not real love good luck to you
2007-08-04 00:40:51 · answer #8 · answered by Love the west 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in love has a lot of perch, and he told you that his life is not that good with the wife, and yours is what?? I can't give you my own opinion but I will give you this site so you can read and see what you are doing right now, it's not love nor a crush but your letting yourself emotionally involve with him..check this out and hope that it will help you before you beome the big looser at the end..
"What is emotional affair? " click this and it will take you to the article of your feeling right now..
2007-08-04 03:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called a crush, and yes, even married folks like you and I can develop them. We see things in others that we wish we had in our relationships with our spouse(s) and it's very alluring. Don't get yourself into trouble over it, unless you're prepared for a bitter, nasty divorce. Just enjoy what you have and keep it friendly - but don't cross a line that shouldn't be crossed unless you're willing and able to deal with the consequences.
2007-08-04 00:25:08 · answer #10 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋