I'm only 18 years old and I'm pregnant now .. IT'S already The 4th MONTH ! HELP?

Question

Can anyone just give me some tips ? i am scared ... ... i'm only 18 and i've a baby in me ! i've know i had done something wrong . I've felt ashamed . i felt like aborting it ! HOW HOW HOW ????

Answer 1

wow...CONGRATULATIONS!
you shouldn't be ashamed whatsoever, your gonna be a mum soon, just think you've got something thats precious living inside of you called life. enjoy this time while being radiant and glowing through your pregnancy. you're very lucky, i'm only 19yrs old very jealous. i know of single mums and that get by so well. that little bub to be will bring so much love, joy and happiness into your life - you'll be a totally new person sronger, wiser and very mature. hey hang in there, thats life and you know what your at least living it.
theres absolutely nothing wrong with having a baby, for goodness sake you wouldn't be here today if your mum never had you, things happen in life and you should see this for the better thing in life, don't let others think you're bad person for being pregnant (shouldn't really assciate around people who think like this and put you down as they won't help you get anywhere in life and to live it properly particularly the way you eant to as you do need to stick around positive people intead- we all weren't born with manuals so see this as a new chapter in your life).
Enjoy motherhood, start thinking of the good side of being pregnant e.g. what cute names to call the baby, baby clothes, bottles, nappies, etc...
please don't look into abortion. many people will suggest that it'll be the way to go and everthing will go back to normal - wrong, it did happen and you can't turn back time. theres so many side effects that come with abortion - mental psycological damaged, they don't mention this at the clinic, you'll regret it and always think 'what if', abortion is a form of murder - theres no nice way of killing, the techniques that those doctors use are absolutely horrorific they suck/cut out the bub.
go ahead and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy luv, if you need someone to help you through this or need some positive support we can e-mail eachother.

Answer 2

At 4 months you are too late in most states for abortion by demand. You are 18 now and legally an adult, so you have to plan out the next months of your life and make some important decisions about your unborn baby.

First of all, if you are still in high school, talk to your counselor! They usually have lots of resources they can steer you to, and they can give you emotional support when you need it. If not, is there a local free mental health clinic you can visit, or can you talk to your pastor or minister? If you're still at home and you're worried about how your parents will react, it's a good idea to have outside support back-up while you make your decision.

Next, get to a medical clinic and start up prenatal care! If you are in the state of California there is the AIM program, or "access for infants and mothers," a great health care program for pregnant women who do not have health insurance. What programs does your state have?

Only you can decide whether to keep your baby or give it up for adoption. Does the father of the child know you're pregnant? Is he still in your life? Is this something you can decide together, or is it better for you to go it alone?

Sometimes the father of the child will want to keep the baby when the mother does not. This happened to a friend of mine, whose girlfriend got pregnant when they were both in college. He wanted it, she didn't, so now he has a wonderful 12YO daughter he raised on his own.

As for adoption, it really is better for all concerned to go the legal route and do it through some kind of agency. Once again, go to a medical or mental health clinic where they have the resources and network.

Whatever you do, please DON'T hide your pregnancy, give birth and then abandon your baby in a public place or trash can! Many states have "no questions" policies where you can leave newborns at hospitals, police stations or fire stations without any consequence to the mother, and the babies are taken care of and adopted.

Answer 3

Your'e not that young, at least you're adult. (Actually that depends if you're English) I see girls all the time about 14/15, that are pregnant. Lots of young girls cope, and they're baby is the best thing in their life. You shouldn't feel ashamed, people have sex. Think about it rationally before you decide to abort, because it is a BIG thing to do, and you could regret it for the rest of your life. Are you stable enough financially and do you have a family that will help you through it ? And most importantly the father, you should talk to him, if you can. It might be too late to abort now anyway if you're four months, but it depends what week. Speak to your doctor or go to a specialist or a family planning clinic.
Good luck with whatever happens,
Jessica
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Answer 4

Okay now stop sit down and relax.............it's not the end of the world you are 18 well you may not be ready for this but you need to not take the choice of abortion you sound like a very compressioned person and if you did had a aborting it may be worst on you. What if you put the baby up for adoption or can't you talk to you parents about it? If you want to talk you can email me or IM I'm a good listener. Plus being 4 month is to late for abortion it has to be in a three month range.
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Answer 5

Honey, it's kinda late for that. The BEST you can do is go to an obstetrician and start getting prenatal care so you have a healthy baby. If you feel like you aren't ready, there are plenty of people who would adopt a newborn, I am sure. Weigh your options.
You need to start eating lots of fruits and vegetables, and whole grains. Stay away from cold cuts, soft cheeses, and things with a lot of nitrates(hot dogs, bologna, some sausages). Drink lots of water.
You wouldn't be the first 18 year old who has a baby. You have to get prenatal care.

I do NOT recommend an abortion. Most places won't do them after 13 weeks gestation, unless there is a MEDICAL reason for it. I had an abortion, after I had my daughter. She was three weeks old when we got pregnant again. I was almost 3 months when I found out. I deeply deeply regret it. I have a feeling you would too.

If you need to contact me, I am e-mailable through my profile page.

Answer 6

It's too late to abort it and it would be a big mistake anyway. As for you if you feel you can't handle it you should know there are a lot of women out there who would give anything for that baby. Also if you're going to be a mother you need to grow up a little now and stop panicking so much. You need to be strong. It doesn't matter what people say or do, even your parents - this is your little baby and you now have a responsibility to take care of it.

Answer 7

Please, do not worry about it. I fell pregnant at 18 with twins. At first I was scared, and I was living with my boyfriend at the time. We had plenty of money, and we were able to support a baby (or two babies in our sircumstance). And we were happy. I am now married, to that same man (the father) and we have now five children. Please don't feel ashamed, you are legally an adult now, and you are above the legal age, to be having sex. If you would like to keep the baby, yea it will be a bit of struggle, but it is a blessing, then don't abort it. Good Luck sweetie.

Answer 8

I hope your not in this alone and the daddy is still with you but your not alone this may sound stupid but i suggest you go to Youtube.com and search Reba pilot and just watch the pilot its about people in the same situation as you. have you graduated high school yet do you have any income this is stuff you need to think about Its ok to be scared you should do whatever you can to make sure that baby is healthy because even if you do put it for adoption its still your job to make sure your baby is healthy. You made a mistake but many teens have made the same mistake do whatever you can do to make it right. Ask your parents or someone who was in the same situation what would they do? I think you should keep the baby even though it will be rough its one of those things you need to learn from your mistakes! Good Luck With whatever happens. Hope This Helps!!!!!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

PLEASE Do NOT abort your child. It can't be the right answer. If you are unprepard than give your baby up for adoption. If you want to be involved in who will get your child, you can start that process now.
If you have no good friends or family members to turn to then go to a women's shelter that's supports unprepared mothers like yourself. Even the adoption agency you chose should have referrals to where you should go.
If you can try to come to grips with it then you may find that even though it's not the right time and you are young, you may still want to raise your child. Raising a child is by no means easy but it is the most rewarding endeavor if you let it be.
Or maybe a family member could foster your child or adopt your child so that he or she may not be under your care but still part of the family.
Like you said-"i've a baby inside me!" And that's the truth. There is a baby inside and the same way you wouldn't harm to come to any child out of your stomach is the same way there should be no harm to your child in your stomach. It is a life growing inside of you with formed fingers and toes. A heart beating along side of yours. The baby will start to have gender specifications already. Get to know your child and don't freak it too much.
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I will be praying for you and I hope you make the best decision. God loves you always- no matter what!