How can I change dad's mind on what to name our child?

Question

I am not sure if he is joking but my child's father is insisting on naming our child Spryte Leigh if it is a girl. He does not like any of the names I suggest. It is our first child together and the third for both of us. Am I being selfish because I had full say over my two other childrens' names? Should I give in because he wasn't given the opportunity to pick his kids' names? I had been planning on a name that ended in "na" because I already have a Jena and Reyna but he just seems to have his heart set on Spryte. And no it is not because of the drink but because of the meaning of "elf". Maybe I am not giving it a fair chance because I am headstrong and not used to having an involved man during my pregnancy. Should I fight it or is Spryte really not that bad of a name?

Answer 1

when i got my cat, my mom insisted on naming it Johnny Cash (i got the cat shortly after johnny cash passed away). needless to say, i wasn't thrilled about naming my GIRL cat who was grey and white (not even black) after a male singer. nonetheless, she got the name and soon became johnny cabbage (cuz she got fat, thus a cabbage) and now she responds only to the name Cabbage. Spryte is a terrible name and i wouldn't ever put it onto a child, especially spelled that way. But, in all honesty, if you let him give your possible daughter that name, give her a strong middle name that she can fall back on when she becomes her own person and personality. good luck

Answer 2

Some people have a few names in mind before the child's born so as soon as they see her/him they know straight away it suits one particular name more. However, some people struggle a lot more, and it often takes them weeks, some even months. Take Billie Piper for example. Her mom and dad wanted a little boy called Billie, but they had a girl so they still named her Billie. A few yeas later they changed it because it was a boys name, but they couldn't see it any other way and it didn't feel right with the other name (sorry, i forgot what it was - in her autobiography) so they changed it back. That shows that it can take years even, but that's just one in a few. Chances ae it's either straight away to a few weeks, or months at tops. Good Luck :)

Answer 3

I'm not saying it's a good name but there seems to be a more important issue. And that is your willingness to include him in the naming of a child who is born from both you.
This girl is not only yours but his and how would you feel if he forced you to go along with whatever name he had picked out. You wouldn't like it one bit, unless you actually agreed but you would still resent him for forcing you. Do you want there to be tension and resentment already? I doubt it. Why would you not let him have say in his own child's life? And besides he may be picking that name because he resents your behaviour towards him.
I can't decide if you are dating this man or married to him or just having a baby with him. Saying "my child's father" is not very descriptive. However either way, you don't need stress on whatever type of relationship you have and this is not th way to go about being stress free.
Sounds to me like you are used to being in control and not taking other people's opinions. This can lead you into dangerous territory. How do you get along with the father(s) of your other two children? You need to consider all of these things so that you and your family can have a happy and less stressful life together.
If his heart is really set on Spryte than maybe you can ask him to compromise and maybe use that as a middle name. It's actually not so bad for a middle name.
Hey at least it's not what this girl I know named her child. She liked Newport cigs so much she name her child "Newportia." And I am dead serious. I went to HS with some really strange people.

Answer 4

I have no objection to the name Spryte but would not like it teamed with the Leigh as once together it is 'sprightly'
If you really don't like the name you need to point this out to the father and try to find a name you both agree on. Otherwise your child will have a name that you dislike and have to use forever.

Answer 5

if i were u i would tell him how much u think she might get made fun of. if the kids found out what the name ment they could use that against her too. when i first her spryte though i thought of the drink so it would be though of like that most of the time and there would be a lot of questioning on proninciation i bet with teachers. i like the idea of following the patern with an na at the end. suggest a few to him that start with an S im not sure if there are any names that start with sp and end in an na but here are a few. i hope my dvice/opinion helps

Sabrina----------river name
Selena------------moon
Shaina-----------beautiful
Shawna---------god is gracious
those were just the s names here are some other cute ones to suggest:

Tana------------flower of christ
Mckenna-------- Son of Cionoadh
Alena------------noble
Roxanna--------Starbright,dawn
Lana---------rock
LeeAnna---- N/A
Lillian---------lilies
Corina-------------Maiden

well i hope these help. best of luck and Congrats!

Answer 6

dont feel bad im not even pregnant yet but we are TTC and he wants to name our first son Zeppelin! thats right Zeppelin after Led Zeppelin! and the sad thing is hes serious! I wont have it tho i came up with an alternative that if he was really serious and we did have a son Zeppelin can be one of his middle names! my poor kid! why dont u try sugesting Spryte as a middle name if hes really set on it and then both of u could pick a first name that u equally like.
hope this helps and good luck!

Answer 7

I'm sorry but I'd fight it. Think about the child having to go through life with that name. Now I would compromise, do away with the na. You have a knew man be diffrent a new start something that says your relationship. Like for instance I had complications with my younger daughter almost lost her so I named her "Destiny" she was my little Destiny. Now find something that speaks for you two or the baby.

Answer 8

I would not name my baby Spryte. Wasnt that what the little friends of Rainbow Brite were called??? I would definitely sit down with him and tell him that you will not be ok with Spryte but that you would like to pick a name together that you can both agree on.

Answer 9

Spryte :S Thats awful. Sorry!
Try a similiar name, like Skye?

If you really cant persuade him make it the childs middle name ? Or hope its a boy hehe!
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Just keep looking, hes sure to find another he likes. But don't give in if you really hate the name.

Answer 10

You're not being selfish at all, that's a terrible name. And you should have a lot more say on what the baby's name is than your father in law!