what exactly would be physical abuse in a marriage? Threats like raising your hand to hit? pushing a pregnant woman hard on a bed and pulling hair and smothering food on a face....would this be abuse, also if it has not been done in a year....would that be ok to give the marriage a second chance even if no therapy has been done?
2007-08-03 18:20:15 · 15 answers · asked by mt4444 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes all that is abuse! What planet are you from??
2007-08-03 18:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by gloria b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi abuse comes in many forms.It does not have to be of a physical type..What you have decsribed is a big huge yes. It does not matter how long ago it had taken place.
You asked would it be ok to give the marriage a second go. Thats entirely up to you. If you think for one minute this would be a waste of time.Its ..NO.. But in saying this. Try a Marriage councilor.
That may be the better way to go. Specially if there are kids involved. Good luck
2007-08-04 01:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by jack-au 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is full blown abuse. Total disrespect. Sometimes it can stop for a year or longer, but it will come back and worse. Do not give the marriage a second chance without therapy. Absolutely not. Would you do that to someone? What if you saw someone do those things to someone else? what would you think of the person doing it?
2007-08-04 01:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, this was really bad abuse. and my motto is if he hits you once, give him a second chance. everyone screws up. you hit again and its see you later. by no means should you be in a relation ship if you cant even recognize that what you had done was abusive. are you capable of empathy. can you put yourself in her shoes? if i was her id be done with you. why dont you try getting a dog. if you can go the distance without hitting the dog, and raise it from a pup so you get all the fun frustrating stuff. if you can be a good disciplinner and inderstand that its just a pup like a kid and not hit then maybe you may beable to start something new with someone else. id be surprised if she took you back.
2007-08-04 01:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by solas lethe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wife / husband abuse is the deliberate act of causing physical or mental suffering on the spouse. It usually occurs when they are in conflict or unable to control their own emotion. The problem of wife abuse is more serious than that of husband abuse and therefore the husband becomes the major abuser. However, the cases of husband abuse are on a rise recently
To check if you are an abusive husband, recall if you had behaved in any of the following ways towards your wife in the past:
Yes/No
1Verbally abused your wife
2Threatened your wife
3Hurt your wife with weapons
4Prevented your wife from going out to work
5Prevented your wife from managing the domestic finance
6Prevented your wife from having enough money to deal with the basic needs of life
7Slapped your wife
8Struck and kicked your wife
9Forced your wife to have sex with you
If you answer "Yes" to any of the above questions, you may have already abused your wife in different ways.
Tips of preventing wife abuse
Avoid accumulating too much negative feeling or bringing with you the distress from work after getting home. You should frankly tell your wife the difficulties you encounter so as to enhance the understanding of each other.
To forgive your wife does not mean that you have to lose your dignity. It shows your magnanimity to tolerate her shortcomings.
Tolerate and forbear more, criticize and complain less.
Ways of coping with abuse
Wife abuse is a serious issue. To stop the abuse situation from getting worse, the husband and the wife should seek assistance from specialists (e.g. social worker).
2007-08-04 01:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by Fit 4 A King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pushing, hair pulling, and smothering are all abuse. even if it has not happened in that long it probably would not be a good idea to stay in this relationship. no one should ever treat a anyone like that especially a pregnant woman. that puts the baby in danger too. if you really want to try i suggest going to therapy first. good luck :) be careful
2007-08-04 01:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by ana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical Abuse.. slapping,, hitting of any kind, pinching, shoving, being touched when u do not want to be in anyway..
tell someone to go away and leave u alone, and they follow u from room to room..
many kinds of abuse.. mentally--- physical----- emotionally...----- sexually..
mentally.. tell u something and do another.. EX<_like be home at 5pm and they should up at 6am.. they play head games with u
emtional abuse.. they no u love them.. so they take ur love for granted... like cheating on u.. cuz they no u will take them back...
sexually.. when u say no.. it means no.. or make u do something u are uncomfortable with...
Don't take nothing off ur spouse, THEY WOULDN'T allow u to do to them...
UNLESS THERAPY IS at the top of the chart.. do not give it another try.. what if he snaps.. and kills or criples you>???
2007-08-04 01:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any time you put your hands on some one else is abuse. and yes one more chance is the only way to see if he will do it again.i thank that you should know that abuse get worse after you start having children or after you married. after that they think they own you it makes them thank that they can do any they want and you can't leave.so if you decide to stay with him be prepared to do what you n need to do for your self and and your child remember don't wait to long. good luck.
2007-08-04 01:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by janelle p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's abuse, no I wouldn't give another chance, abuse doesn't just stop. It takes months, sometimes years of counceling to help break the cycle.
2007-08-04 01:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by randy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes all that abuse. no i would not give the marriage a second chance. there would be a divorce and his a@@ in jail
2007-08-04 10:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by kelli s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋