ok, so i like my best guy firend, and we were going out, but he ws hurting form a lost friend, and we were a little regretful about going out. so on msn he sent me "i think we should be friends" i lied and said i agree, but it really hurts me.. i love him, and he will never know, becuase im holding on to a dream that wont come true. im sending him the lyrics to still there for me, its my song for him. Im so confused, and i want to know.. if we have so much in common, why is it so hard for us to date? i mean... he loves me and i love him, its just so confusing! How do i convince him i love him and truley care? i mean.. what is it with me thats so wrong, i mean, sure im not pretty, but im nice, and he helped me through so much! and vice versa. we belong together. i know in my heart that this is true.. i know im only 14, but this is real.. not a stupid "crush" its. well, i love him.
whats your comments/ advice for the situation? Help me please.. also, what do You like in a girl?
~Maddie
2007-08-03 18:05:42 · 24 answers · asked by Just being me 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
he likes me, but hes not ready for a relationship.. i mean.. please.. im crying.. hell never know the pain i feel.
not all scars show, not a wounds heal
sometimes you cant always see the pain someone feels..
2007-08-03 18:09:44 · update #1
by loss i dont mean death, i mean he lost a friedn and hes really hurt
2007-08-03 18:11:38 · update #2
go for it... but youre only 14 dont get married
omg.. is that avatar you??? your freakin gorgeous!! he's crazy not to like you.
2007-08-03 18:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give him time and space. How much you love him and care for him won't bring him closer, because he probably already knows. You might end up pushing him away if you try to convince him.
He might be having mixed emotions because of what he's going through, or maybe he likes someone else, or maybe he decided he really just doesn't like you that way. You are still young and if things don't work out between you two, you will get over him eventually and meet someone else. Someone that will make you look back on this situation and realize things happened exactly the way they were supposed to.
Good luck girl, love is tough!
2007-08-03 18:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by dlishs1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, he's hurting from a losing a friend? It sounds to me like he's having a hard time and he doesn't want to have to deal with a relationship also right now. Give him some time and space to come to terms with pain and grief or whatever and then maybe you can try again. If you love him and he loves you, there's a great chance it could work out.
2007-08-03 18:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by Rock_and_Roll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maddie, when you are 14, all love affairs are heartfelt and, if they don't work out, it feels as though your life has shattered. It is so hard to take rejection, and unfortunately, our lives are filled with it.
Let this guy go. Be his friend, if you want friendship, but allow yourself a brief time to mourn and dream of what "could have been," then move on. Someone else is out there who will appreciate the beautiful person you are.
2007-08-11 05:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by Me, Too 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going by what you have said I would say step back. Be his friend and be there for him. Give him time and let him know your feelings. But also tell him that you won't PUSH things unless he is ready as you value his friendship more than anything else. Take it from there. If you do decide to still pursue this you may very well end up without the boyfriend as well as the friend.
2007-08-03 23:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. Going for him now would not be a fair advantage. You would not really have him. In the end it would only break you both. Trust me. If it is for real it will happen when the playing field is even. Also, by letting him go to grieve. He will respect you for respecting him and even if it takes a while he will remember that and come back for you. Be his friend now even thou it hurts because anymore could hurt much worse for a long, long, time.
2007-08-11 14:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to give him some space for a while. Let him come to you...Let him miss you. He does still love you but everyone needs some privacy once in a while just like you would. Give it some time and you know that he'll be most likely back together with you because he loves you so much.
2007-08-03 18:08:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not ready then you really need to back off. Pushing the issue and sending cheesy lyrics will just turn him off and ruin any chance you might have with him. When his grieving process is over he will realize that you were always there for him and then he might initiate something, or might be receptive to you. Until then, let it be.
2007-08-11 13:17:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm a straight girl and I've never had a crush on another girl soo.... Probably some jealousy comes into play.
2016-05-17 21:51:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be in a hurry to hook up with anyone at 14. you have a long life ahead of you, and while you will have broken hearts along the way, you really do want to take your time. as for dealing with him, he isnt ready for another relationship yet, just be there for him. he might also not want to give you up as a friend. i have female friends that mean more to me as a friend than as a lover, and o dont ever want to screw that up.
2007-08-03 18:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by richard b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill out kid! If you are getting this freaked out at 14, you won't make it to 26! Life is what you make it, so have FUN! Don't get so damn serious about relationships at your age...I mean this seriously. At your age you should be having many boy friends and dumping them all for another one! Just having fun and showing those boys who is boss! Have Fun!
2007-08-11 16:24:21 · answer #11 · answered by Joel H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋