I'm no prude (nor am I a Conservative)--I just hate the fact that most people seem to think of marriage as 'disposable'. Prenups, cheating that leads to divorce, working so many hours that hubby & wife hardly see each other, etc. Comments?
2007-08-03 17:37:18 · 17 answers · asked by Holiday Magic 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hello,, the american way is to lie,cheat,steal,use,abuse,and screw your neighbor,sounds like the polticians we have . if you want to stay married move to the outback,wilderness,where divorce is a shot in the dark.
2007-08-03 17:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's sad that there are so many who don't take marriage seriously, but there are still some that do.
I'm sure that when my boyfriend and I get married we will last. We've taken the time to really get to know each other, and although we have no legal ties (other than joint financial ventures) our relationship now isn't disposable. We both put in 100% to make sure our team stays happy and healthy. We've been together for six years, and both taken some criticism for that--me especially. I don't care though--after six years, I know without a doubt that we're compatable and willing to work out whatever comes our way. I know that he's not the abusive type, and I know that I can trust him. Those are things you learn with time, and I'm glad we took that time. When the finances allow it, we will get married officially, and I know it will last. Not I hope or I think, I know.
I grew up with some great married influences too. My grandparents were very happily married almost 61 years when my grandma passed away. My grandpa still brags about having the best wife ever, and still tears up when we go to the cemetary. My parents will celebrate their 29th anniversary this year, and dated seven years before that. I really learned a lot about what I want out of my future marriage from watching these relationships.
2007-08-04 01:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by thegnomeofwrath 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I take marriage very seriously. There's only one guy that I think I will ever marry and I will take that marriage very seriously (if it ever happens). I never thought that I would get married until I met him. On the other hand, I don't think I'll ever get married because I'm not ready to be that serious. Marriage is nothing to take lightly. It's not something that you do so you can be the center of attention for a day. It's something that is a lot deeper, unfortunately I'm one of the few that still thinks of it that way.
2007-08-04 00:46:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone once told me all you have in life is your word.
That is so true.
When you marry someone, it is for life.
I took my marriage seriously. It went way beyond most peoples patience (and all and more on your list).
What I do find disturbing is when I see marriages fail its usually much more of one then another- its rarely equal in blame. Both arent usually cheating (or drugging, or beating, etc.)
Maybe they should run value screenings or some major test before they issue people a marriage license...? They can do all this amazing gentic screening for prenatal, shouldnt we be able to do this on our future wife/husband? DNA test, mental health, alcoholism, etc.
Seriously tho, marriage is a life stage- we settle down , build families and hopefully grow old with the person we love. I am not sure where marriage in history started to fail. Its still taboo for divorce in many cultures / religions. Perhaps it is the loss of deep connection to society/culture/religion/values that have left people so easy to jump for divorce or batter or ignore the fundementals of life.....
PS- I read something about birth control pills. Apparently woman taking them are not registering pheremones correctly or some scientific phenom and women are choosing the wrong type of guy because.....natural selection doesnt occur....science and religion- both point to some valid points.
2007-08-04 01:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by Paradox 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.
Marriage is hopelessly broken. There are major financial incentives for people to not work things out, and that horse has long since left the barn. Just look at Michael Strahan's (of the New York Giants) recent divorce.
Marriage should be MUCH harder IMHO... maybe include a mandatory waiting period. 5 years should do the trick. Divorce, on the other hand, should be MUCH easier.
2007-08-04 00:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by Marc M 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No I don't think it has the same meaning anymore to many people.I think these days people just take the "chance" to get married knowing that if it doesn't work out they can easily get a divorce.I don't think it will ever be like the old days where "till death do us part" was respected and people really believed in marriage.
2007-08-04 00:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by tigerlily 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I take it very seriously. We have been married 15 years and have been together for 21 years! We do sometimes fall into the trap of not seeing a whole lot of each other..we both work opposite schedules, but we try to plan "date nights" and mini vacations to make up for it.
2007-08-04 03:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are talking about just a few, not the majority of marriages. There are more good marriages than you think going on. Don't take the media's word for anything.
2007-08-04 00:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No I don't think people will. Blame the so-called entertainment on tv nowadays and the all mighty internet!!!
2007-08-04 00:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by tina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I'm Married almost 20 years.
It takes LOTS of give and take!
2007-08-04 00:50:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋