I noticed a lot of people saying my wife should divorce me for beating her in the past but I don't want to do it anymore. Don't I deserve a second chance if I am sorry?
2007-08-03 17:32:14 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
My husband raises one hand to me and I am gone! But not before my cast iron pan graces his forehead!
Also cheating, hurting or abusing the kids, and anything else along those lines.
2007-08-03 17:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by Rag Doll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, here's the thing: it's not hard to not beat someone. It's really simple in fact, all you have to do is not beat them. When you marry somebody, you say something along the lines of "I promise to love, honour, cherish, and be nice to you." and they say the same thing back. You've already broken the marriage vows big time there. She married you with the understanding that you were going to do your best to be good to her, and you beat her instead. So no, you don't deserve a second chance. If she gives you a second chance, you are very lucky and you should be grateful.
2007-08-04 00:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by Ambivalence 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in 2nd chances for cheaters or wife beaters. Because I think there are very few men who will change the second time around. However, if the man is determined to have another chance then he must prove he can change. By this I mean going to therapy about whatever the problem was about. Also, giving her space and let her see that you have changed instead of making her stay with you. Actions speak louder than words.
2007-08-04 00:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jay Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if just being sorry is going to cut it. In my opinion, you would have to show your wife that you are ready to make a change by perhaps seeking help for anger/domestic violence problems. However, I don't think it is up to anyone to decided what is best for you and your wife except you and your wife. Maybe you guys can seek counseling together to better understand each other and avoid future incidents. The most important part is that you acknowledge that you have beat her in the past and that you are ready to stop. The next step is to show her your good side (everyone has a good side!) and to prove to yourself, your wife, and your commitment to each other that you can become a changed person.
Good luck!
2007-08-04 00:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you honestly and genuinely are sorry and have made it a promise that you will not ever harm her physically again, then yes I do believe you deserve another chance. I think I would give my husband another chance in that situation.
The only wrong thing I think that you could never be forgiven for is if you killed on your children, but thats on a completely different level.
Hope everything works out for the best!
2007-08-04 00:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone deserves a 2nd chance no matter what was done, should it be cheating, or physical abuse as long as the person is willing to change and get help if needed, and never to repeat the past. Its once that trust is broken a 2nd time that no more chances be given. Fool me once shame on, you fool me twice shame on me.
2007-08-04 00:39:05 · answer #6 · answered by saldate4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you want to do it before it happened? I doubt it. Take the steps to prove you're sorry. Get yourself into anger management and possibly some individual therapy. People can definitely change, if she believes that and the change in you is evident, you might have a chance.
2007-08-04 00:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by LorenzoRed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how certain are u that u wont make the same mistake again?? 100? 99.9? how will u avoid that from happening? wude she be able to fully trust u ever again? if those can be answered with certainty then u dont deserve a second chance
2007-08-04 00:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by llsimpson17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she needs to be especially careful with this situation. if you're serious about stopping and getting counseling, then she might be able to give you a second try, but there might be too much hurt in the situation.
my boyfriend hit me once, and i forgave him. he never since has raised his hand to me in anger, and he is genuinely sorry. my trust in him took a major blow, though, and i needed a long time to get over it.
don't underestimate what can happen when you beat a woman you claim to love. give her time and space, and she'll come back if she really wants to.
2007-08-04 00:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by vegas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. you never hit your spouse unless it's self defense, and then it better be a matter of life or death. She should never give you another chance, leave you, then file charges and put your *** in jail. You dont deserve a second chance, sorry or not.
People who cheat do not deserve second chances either.
2007-08-04 00:36:01 · answer #10 · answered by dad of four 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. I would never trust you again or be able to keep myself from flinching when you raised your hand or your voice.
Go to a psychologist for anger management so you don't have the same problem in future relationships.
If this is a joke question, I don't find it funny.
2007-08-04 00:42:46 · answer #11 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋