does giving birth hurt? and what does it mean when ur vagina rips? will it close back? helpp?

Question

im only 17 and 6months pregnet. i jus concerned if it hurts and what do they mean when ur vagina rips? and will it close back?? plz dnt put stupid answers like im too young to have a child. we both decided 2 have this baby so plz jus answer my question without judging me thankzz

wow thanks guys for almost giving me a heart attack especally when my doctor told me at the rate that my baby is growing that it might be 10lbs and bigger . and for the guy that said ""ruining my life""?? this baby was not a mistake and i am soo happy 2 have this baby whether its painful or not i will love this baby uncondictionly so dont tell me i ruin ma life

and also i work and so does my man and hes no little boy he will be a wonderful father and hes been with me since day 1 of this pregnecy so dont worry bout it. and this is my first child how am i suppose to knoe it hurt seriously stop judging u dont knoe me

Answer 1

giving birth hurts if you don't have pain meds, after the meds wear off it starts hurting, either way there is going to be pain

vagina rips because the baby is big, it is stitched back together with dessolving stitches, and it heals with a cpouple of weeks- i have torn both times with stitches, and they were 4th degree tears(had 2 pregnancies) it is better to let it rip, then getting cut by the doctor, it heals alot better
after a year or two, it gets stronger, and back to normal, you can even have more kids

don't worry about it, every womans delivery is different, don't think yours will be bad or good, and don't base it on someone elses

Answer 2

First, I think it's awesome that you two decided together to have the baby. It's a tuff road & it doesn't get cheaper as they get older, only harder because you're so attached to them & they pull farther & farther away as they learn to become independant, but it's the biggest joy & reward you will ever have no matter the sacrifices you have to make.

As for the labor -- yeah, it hurts. I went 32 hours all natural. But most people end up getting the epidural and once that is in you won't feel the pain, just some pressure from the contractions. Most also get a small incision so the vagina does not rip, it is a smooth cut that usually requires a few self-disolving stitches that you won't even notice. And 3-4 years from now if you decide to have another, the pain from this one will be a faded memory. I'd definately do it all again.

Answer 3

The actual part of having the baby is not what hurts, its the contractions leading up to the birth that hurts. When you are pushing during a contraction the pain goes away for a bit, until the next contraction. I had epidurals with all five on my kids but I really suggest even if you have an epidural to allow it to run out a little bit before you start pushing. Its very difficult to push good when you are completly numb. You also cant really feel your contractions well enough to know when to push with a full epidural.
As for ripping, MOST Dr.'s or midwifes will not let you rip, they will cut you first. They do this because it makes it easier to stitch you back up and less time to heal. Ripping is hard to stitch and take much longer to heal and is more sore than a clean cut. You will not feel it because you will be numb still down there and too consintrated on pushing to feel it too.
They stitch you up immediatly after the baby and the afterbirth is out of you.
You will heal in a few weeks and the stitches will fall out themself.
The best thing to do is not worry!! 1000's of women have babies every day! Its natural, its nothing to be scared of and with modern science and the knowledge of Dr.'s these day you are in great hands!
Congrats hun. I hope you have a wonderful birth. Dont let any one bring you down telling you that you are too young. I had my first at 18, my second at 20, Third at 22 and my twins at 23!! I wouldnt take back a minute of it. :)
Good luck!!

Answer 4

As another person said, the skin between your vagina and anus rips during birth - sometimes barely or not at all, and sometimes quite a bit. With my first daughter, who was 8 lbs, I tore all the way from one hole to the other, resulting in lots of stitches and difficulty walking or standing for the next few weeks. With my second, who was just under 7 lbs, I didn't tear at all.

So hope for a small baby! You should really ask your OB every question you can think of during your prenatal visits. That's what she's there for, and she's happy to answer them.

Contractions are painful, yes, but it's usually not like it is in the movies - a VERY small percentage of women experience the out-in-public breaking of water, and you probably won't be screaming at the top of your lungs throughout labor, either. That'd be a senseless waste of energy.

You'll breathe through the pain, and you'll just get through it. Try not to be scared. LOTS of women do it every day. You'll do great. Congrats on keeping the baby.

Answer 5

Does it hurt? Sort of. It's not like pain as you might think of it. It's more like the muscle soreness of going to climb a mountain. It's intermittent and you can definitely handle it without help. Your body is made to do this. It has awesome natural methods of making you feel good during labor and make it easier to handle as it goes longer. Another really awesome thing is that you actually forget some of the pain after a few days. It literally goes away and you only remember the good feelings (unless you have a medicated birth, in which case, your body doesn't have the natural methods of handling the pain).

I had a first degree tear and it didn't even really hurt that much. Basically, women often have their perineums tear during delivery, which is completely normal and heals up pretty quickly. Having an episiotomy (where the doctor cuts the perineum to "prevent" tearing) is not recommended at all, even for an instrumental delivery, and should never be done. You should tell your doctor or midwife that you do not want this done at all and that you will sue if they do. If you think I'm being a little rash about it, you should read some of the books and research stating for and against it. Basically, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) says that they should not do them. When you have a natural tear, it is usually on the inside and because it doesn't have access to bacteria or anything, it heals pretty quickly. It can hurt, but mine didn't hurt at all. The nurses kept asking if I needed pain medication afterwards, but I didn't.

I highly recommend you go to a childbirth class and read some books on birth to help prepare yourself for it and learn about your options. There are a lot of things than hospitals will offer you in labor and it's best to know what you might be faced with and to decide what choices you would make in various situations before you go in.

You're definitely old enough to have a baby. Your body is made to do this and certainly ready to do it. I do recommend hiring a labor doula to be your assistant during. Doulas provide emotional, physical, and informational support before, during, and immediately after birth. Some will provide their services for reduced or no cost to low-income or teen moms, so it's worth asking.

Good luck!

Answer 6

I wont judge you but it is different for every person my cousin went through hell while my sister had 2 hour labor and no pain so yeah when they talk about your vagina rips they talk about sometimes the babys head is too big and when it comes out it might tear some perinael tissue(b/w your vagina and anus) that what they mean when your vagina tears but it does not hurt and they will stich back up you will not feel a thing trust me and your vagina will go back to normal within 40 days wether it rips or not k hope that helped and good luck and dont worry about it too much you will be fine

Answer 7

I don't mean to scare you (I was terrified of this info when I was pregnant) but yes, your skin will probably tear. It can happen about anywhere and to different degrees. Worst case scenario it a tear from the vagina to the rectum. This is extremely painful and may never fully heal. The labia can tear or just the inside of the vagina.

The amount of pain during birth depends on what pain relief you choose and if it works. I was not able to have any pain meds so yes - it HURT. I screamed for 2 hours and had a sore throat for a week. But it's relatively quick too. When it's over they'll inject a numbing medicine afterwards when they stitch up the tears. And you'll get "high" on hormones right away after and some of them will cause you to forget the pain.

So it's really awful, but not too bad. Congrats and kudos for keeping the baby. Good luck!

Answer 8

Firstly, I hope you've got a good Dr. Most Dr.s can answer these questions at your check ups. Birth is the ONLY natural pain that has a good outcome. Honey, don't stress it, it's different for every woman. You could tear, if you don't have a C section. The Dr. will most probably sew you up. If you have a lot more questions go to your local library and check out, "What to Expect When You're Expecting" It's helpful in a very friendly and encouraging way.

Answer 9

Yes it hurts. That is why people get epidural anesthesia to relieve the pain.
The vagina muscles relax a lot during pregnancy so they can allow the head of a baby (the biggest part) to fit through. Sometime a tear occurs but not usually. If it does the doctor can repair it.
Episiotomy is a procedure where a cut is purposely made ahead of time so that any tear is "controlled". This is not out of favor but some doctors still do it. So tell your doctor ahead of time that you do not want this.

Answer 10

Yes giving birth hurts. If you get an epidural it will hurt less (if the epidural works, sometimes it doesn't help) but you will still feel pressure. Some woman tear when giving birth but they stitch you up and by your 6 wk checkup you will be healed. I tore with both my boys. I gave birth without drugs. You will feel like you can't do it but then all of a sudden the body usually kicks in and just does its job. Try going to lamaze classes with your boyfriend or whoever will be in the room to support you. You just have to remember to breath through the pain or the contractions and push when the dr tells you.