i have this friend who lives in texas and i live in minnesota. well anyway i found out that she is having a baby shower. i had asked her why didnt i get a invintation and she said its because she knew i could not make it becuse we are long distance she also said its because she dosent want me to feel like i have to send a gift. what should i do. im so mad at her for not inviting me she told me that its considerd rude to invite people from out of state. im so sad. i hate myself. im just stressing out. should i let this problem go
2007-08-03 14:59:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She sounds like a very considerate friend to me.
She is right, about not sending invitations to people that in no way could come to the shower.
But I know what you mean about feeling sad and left out.
Go ahead and send her a gift, if that is what you want to do.
You have no need to hate yourself. Since you both live in two different states and so far from each other. Unless you would have traveled to go to her shower?
Anyway don't feel bad. Don't let the sadness consume you.
The baby is a happy occasion. Just send her something and that should make you feel better.
I give gifts to people when they have a baby shower if I was invited or not.............Generally if I wasn't invited, I just go see them once the baby is born and take a gift.
~faith
2007-08-03 16:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it's a baby shower. not like it's the baby. let's put it this way. if she invited you to a bridal shower in May, and then the wedding in June, which would you have chosen? it's kinda the same thing here. she wanted to save you the money and burden of feeling like you had to go. would you have went? you can't say the point is moot now, but think about it honestly. would you have flown to Texas for a baby shower? I wouldn't have if it were me. personally, if she is a close friend, save your energy and ask if you can come visit after the baby is born. that way, you get to see what all the excitement is about, hold the baby, get a gift and all that. and the fact that you weren't invited to a shower because she thought she was doing what was right for you is in the past.
2007-08-10 15:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, its NOT THAT SERIOUS!
i would consider myself lucky. you're saving money on airfare and a gift.
I probably wouldnt invite someone out of state to my baby shower for the same reason... some people cant afford to travel but if they get an invite they feel obligated to go... i think it was considerate of her not to invite you. if that makes any sense..
she could have told you about the shower, though. if she didnt tell you about the shower and you found out on your own, i would have a problem with that.
2007-08-04 01:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by vixalle21 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be mad. Your friend was only trying to be considerate. Give her a break and forgive her.
2007-08-11 13:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she really did think you could not make it, i don't think she did it on purpose, you are in fact really far away
2007-08-10 23:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by linda r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how many times,are you going to ask this question?
2007-08-08 16:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by tnsupermomwhit 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋