Was previously arrested when we were married about 10 years or so - now we're at 48 years. Once again I bailed him out and took him home but he is not remorseful or anything. Does'nt seem to think it was any big deal. How would you deal with this
2007-08-03 13:07:17 · 10 answers · asked by Karen R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you love him then you stand by him but if you don't then tell him to get help or get out.
2007-08-03 13:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a problem and really should talk to some one about it. the fact that he doesn't think he did anything wrong is kind of scary. If you have kids... what is this telling them? See if he will consider getting help. He'll probably do this again. Next time, don't bail him out. Let him stay in a cell for a time so he can think a bit about what he's done.
2007-08-03 13:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who shop lift are crying for help. They have mental problems or emotional problems, or both. If this were my husband, I would insist that he see a psychiatrist to find out why he has the need to steal what he can afford to pay for. It may be an attention-getting thing. If it has only happened twice in ten years of marriage, there is hope you can cure it. But MAYBE he has shop-lifted many, many times and not been caught. From here on out, check what you see come home against your credit card and cash payments out. But get him some professional help. If he won't go, contact his parents or some other close relative. Maybe someone can talk him into it. I would point out to him that he just may lose his job if the boss finds out.
2007-08-03 13:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I mean if you can't live with someone like that I guess you can leave is that what you're asking. It's not like you can teach him right from wrong at this point he is an adult. If he chooses to keep shoplifting then technically that is his choice. Have you asked him why he does it? If it were my husband I guess I would try to get answers and ask if there is something bothering him. I would also ask him to go to a therapist. If he doesn't think he has a reason to go to therapy then you can ask him to go with you just say you are having a problem dealing with this issue. He sounds like he needs some help.
2007-08-03 13:15:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is a Divorce Lawyer!! If he does continue this, he could take you down with him. Who needs that kind of trouble??? Once a thief, always a thief! Don't think he's in to getting any help so go with what your heart's telling you. I don't know the whole story but you do. Listen and listen hard!! Good luck with your decision!!
2007-08-03 13:14:04 · answer #5 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop bailing him out, let him spend time in jail, and let's see if he thinks it's a big deal then.
2007-08-03 13:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
5 No-No's:
1. No bailing out
2. No $ for his books
3. No phone calls
4. No visits
5. No mail
2007-08-03 13:16:35 · answer #7 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bailed him out which means he has to face some type of court proceeding. Ask the court.
2007-08-03 13:11:37 · answer #8 · answered by $Sun King$ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man has mental problems. Don't bail him out next time. You can't coddle him and expect him to take his crime seriously.
2007-08-03 13:12:48 · answer #9 · answered by onebigfool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not have any more children in case he goes to jail.
2007-08-03 13:19:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋