I think I'm boring?

Question

should i go see a psychologist to help me find out who i really am? when people talk to me, i'm not very entertaining or interesting to them. i don't look happy and i'm very shy. i used to burden my problems on people and they got angry. i get angry at myself when i don't make people happy. i would like to make them feel comfortable around me and be themselves but it's not working. i realize u need a sense of humor to get through in life and i don't have that. i think people think of me as selfish, worthless, close-minded, slow, ugly, stuck up, moody, and unconsiderate. i'm only 19 and should'n live my life thinking this way, but these thoughts keeps coming back to me when i see other's pictures on facebook and i can't control it. They are having a good life because they accept themselves, why can't i accept who i am and admire the little things in life. why do people think i'm boring? i'm like a broken CD that can't please people.

Answer 1

You need to lighten up and see the good in you, life, and others....

Maybe you need Paxil....I am serious....Maybe you need to talk to someone....You sound as though you are trying to get past these problems, but you need a push....you could need antidepressants and/or professional help....

BUT maybe you just need to change the way you look at yourself and life in general....Try to not let things that will not matter later bother you....and try to be more into the conversations you hold with others....if you can add a little to the conversation and seem interested in it....others will appreciate you more....and you will get more out of it and life....Stop worrying about how others perceive you and be yourself... and be unique....but try to be a little more talkative and nice sporadically....compliment someone for no reason, other than you like what they are wearing....you will be appreciated more and feel good at the same time....and you will being to appreciate YOU and life more....

MAKE [[[[YOU]]]] AND [[[[LIFE]]]] INTERESTING!!!!

Answer 2

whether or not someone is boring is truly a value judgment. seems to me the problem is more a fear of what others will think. There could be some social anxiety here...but that alone does not make anyone a "boring" person. Sometimes the person who is acting like they're the life of the party is the true bore because they can only sing one song in life "me me me me me me me...enough about me, what do YOU think about me?"

re: facebook, myspace and other social networks, I'd take those profiles with a grain of salt. ANYONE can be the "belle of the ball" online...so how do you know those people really do have interesting lives? online you can be anything you want to be...and there's no one calling you on it. So while most are pretty true, some are just bovine scatology dressed up to look like filet mignon.

Sure you can go to counseling and get help with overcoming shyness and learn how to deal with various low self esteem issues, but at the end of the day It's up to you to CHOOSE to get out there and make life interesting for yourself...and to lose those so-called "friends" who may be talking you down. As Star Jones says, you are the ONLY dictionary who can define you.

best of luck in your journey.

Answer 3

There are some simple things you can do. 19 is probably worse because everyone at that age is bored and looking for someone else to entertain them.

Go to a party, write down what the 'interesting' people are talking about. I did this once and I found out that most people are talking about another place they were, probably talking another place. If you go to enough places, you can simply talk about 'one time, when I was in LA' and so on. The more you go to other places, the more you can talk about them, the more people will think your interesting.

Another alternative is to simply do things. Join a band. Learn to draw, paint, crafts. Read a book. Become a political leader or philosopher. Get a fake tattoo and pretend you spent hours in pain getting it.

Another alternative is to watch talk shows. They invariably make people look interesting by asking them questions. If someone asks you a question you immediately become interesting to them!

Once you get comfortable and get going, it is much easier to continue. This is how cool people do it. They eventually get on a roll and it becomes second nature to them. Although at the end of their 20's they will be a bore and people will begin hating them for their superficiality, at the beginning of their 20's they will be a big hit. Its important to assume an air of disgust and misery, and blame this on older people if at all possible.

When you begin getting people interested in you, you can then form diplomatic alliances and grow your empire larger. Reward co-operation and ally yourself with the strong. Make fun of weak people and others will be easier to succumb to your will.

Are you sure you want to do this?

Answer 4

You just described me, lol. You don't need others nor the system to define you. You define yourself. Be unique, stay unique. And I know these stages can be incredibly unbearable! You need to socialize as MUCH AS YOU CAN. Go to google and search for volunteer opportunities. You can read as much self-help tips as you want, but you need to put them into action. Sure, see a psychologist. They are like your second friend. They allow you to understand the other perspectives in this world. You have to find one that works for you. Some of them can be a pain in the assss.

Some days I am soo confident, other days I hate myself greatly.

Answer 5

No you shouldnt see a shrink. Figuring out who you are or changing who you are is all a part of life. If you go to someone for an answer, you wont find yours but theirs. You don't need a sense of humor to get through life, although it does help. You just need to believe in yourself. Getting through life takes more than a few laughs, it also takes courage, cunning, and much more. You just have to have faith in yourself and pull.

Answer 6

Wow. I'm a bit the same. But lucky for me I know how to be funny as hell. =]
all you need to do is r e l a x .

if you havne't already, go see Office Space. the main character goes about a period (most of the movie) in his life after seeing a therapist completely carefree.

I was so emotionally destroyed some times that I tried to kill myself. I saw this movie and I decided to go about a few weeks of the year like this.

It works for me, good luck.

Answer 7

makes some burnt bored toast, a nice hot cup of bored tea. Stick on a boring video, stroke the bored cat then hop upstairs to your bored bed and get some nice bored shut-eye. You wont be bored if your asleep.

Answer 8

I don't have a sense of humor either. It isn't everything. You just need to find something that you're really interested in and then find someone else who likes that too. Then you'll be discussing it with them for hours. ^_^

Answer 9

I can tell u dear that I am selfish nasty ugly little creature but u get use to it real quick...this who u are... a psychologist helps on the social issue but be aware its not the perfect lifstyle you think

Answer 10

i think anyone is not boring it is a matter on how you show yourself in others., you should have self confidence and how you will get it? some tips... try to join group activities or sport activities or any other activities where you are good...and don't think that other people thinks you are boring..its all on your mind..