about 1000 dollars because she was that far in the hole with the bank due to overdraft charges. We agree with a way of her paying me back.
she does not stick to the agreement soi ask when she will pay it back and she gets increadably angry with me. Says she hate borrowing money, expecially from me "Because I ask for it back"
she has a long history of overspending and going in the hole dispite how much i give her and how much i push a large buffer. This is why we no longer have shared bank accounts.
is she justified in her attitude, or should she be somewhat greatfull i still help her?
2007-08-03 12:28:52 · 24 answers · asked by That Guy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is your wife dude. You should give her money, not lend .
2007-08-03 12:31:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
don't lend her more money period
no she is not justified
she is a child
who has no concept of money
and no respect for it
she cannot balance her check book
much less keep track
wife or no wife
such people have emotional problems at their core
and hence money problems
a good divorce would be in order
as you definitely do not need such a person in your life
most marriages end over money
and it for the very same reason you mention
she is not a saver
but a spender
as long as you enable her spending habit by loaning her money
she will NEVER stop over spending
hence why you can no longer lend her money
no matter what she says or threatens
like a child or junkie that does not get their way
they will always try to use anger and guilt in getting more money out of you
divorce her now while you got a chance of living a better and more financially stable life
no women is worth it who cannot save
2007-08-03 19:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking, for responsible couples the money is just shared. Its both partners money. In your wifes case however, as with many people, she is most likely a compulsive spender, very much and naturally so, in favor of instant gratification. The only immediate solution as I see it would be to cut up all her credit cards, no joint bank accts., give her the same amount as always and you should definately be the one to go over the monthly bills and pay them. Id say shes going to complain that you are treating her like a stupid teenager to which you should promptly quote Forrest Gumps mother. " Stupid is as..........
2007-08-03 19:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Funnel 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She should be greatful,she has no right to be angry even though your married each person should be financially responsible for themselves in or out of a relationship.She probably feels because she is married you should pay her bills too,because you are her husband.Be careful because if you divorce in the future you could be stuck with her bills-ask a lawyer.
2007-08-03 19:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by warriorbabe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My my, aren't you gracious to give your own wife money. No wonder she wants to spend. You are an absolute control freak. Be grateful that she has stuck around. You throw a dog a bone. Shame on you.
You both need counseling.
2007-08-03 19:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by Laurie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok im confused... you said this is your wife right? Your supposed to be there for each other! No matter if it's money or anything. You're supposed to help each other out. If you weren't ready to "share" than you shouldn't have gotten married. Wow get over it, shes your wife not a stranger. Mine as well pay her for sex if you want your marriage that way...
2007-08-03 19:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by Jackie C 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She should be grateful you still help her. Don't help her any more. In fact, make her sign an agreement that she will not put any blame on you for any charges she makes and that if she does, it will be a divorce and that she gets nothing.
2007-08-03 19:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She should be happy you're still with her if she has this big a spending problem. Also don't forget, if you are willing to stay with her then it is for better or worse, or do these words not ring a bell.
2007-08-03 22:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by starwars702 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question,you gave her the money for you love her. You two , I think should go to a concealer to talk over her money problems. I do hope that is the only thing in your marriage that is wrong. :-)
2007-08-03 19:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by StacyB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man.. when you marry .. 2 become 1.. and what is yours is hers and what is hers in yours.. but if she is not capable of handling the money than maybe you should.. me and my ex when we were married had separate accounts .. and neither of us had to borrow or get money from the other one.. we each had house hold bill we paid plus our own credit bills...our separate accounts occurred when we separated and when we got back together we found we like it better if we kept things separated..i really can't comment on this one.. but if your better at handling the funds.. then you should be doing it.. or at least monitor her spending.. since your bailing her out all the time
2007-08-03 19:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As for her jewelry for a security. If she doesn't pay you back in X period of time sell the jewelry on ebay or craigs list and let her know about it.
2007-08-03 20:16:59 · answer #11 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋