How does one cope with a husband who snores?

Question

I have started sleeping on the couch nearly every night because I have sleep problems and once I am awaken, it can take hours to get back to sleep. I miss sleeping with him but when I have to get up for work in the morning, I have to have my rest. I have tried rolling him over but he snores no matter how he lays. We have tried the nose strips and he has consulted with a doctor who said there is no obvious defect that is treatable. The doctor did give me a strong sleeping medication (ambien) and he STILL wakes me up! Any ideas? Anything that works for you? Is is weird that I sleep on the couch--my kids think so. I hate to model that for them, but I am TIRED!

Answer 1

There is no law that states because you are married, you have to sleep in the same bed. If his snoring keeps you awake, and you are too tired to function, then you need to sleep in a different room. If you are so afraid of what your children think, go to bed after they do and wake up before they do and they won't know what room you came out of. If you already have children with him, you have been with him long enough to "get used to it" and you obviously haven't. Stay in the bed with him until he falls asleep, then go elsewhere.

Answer 2

My husband and I have been sleeping in separate rooms for over a year now (since before we got married). He snores a lot, and the only thing the doctor had to say is for him to lose weight, which he hasn't been able to do. We have a full-on guest room, so neither of us has to sleep on the couch; we are both comfortable. I don't mind sleeping alone; I actually prefer it, as I too have a very hard time falling and staying asleep. I don't think it's "weird" - it is whatever floats your boat. The rich and wealthy are building homes with two master suites nowadays, and in many cultures spouses do not share the same bed. There's nothing that says it must be one way or another; your rest is more important than what the "neighbors" might think.

Answer 3

I have the SAME problem girl! Those Breathe Right strips don't do a thing! The spray doesn't work either. The only thing I found that works is those little foam ear plugs. My husband wakes me up sometimes too, and it's hard for me to go back to sleep. We alternate nights on the couch. Try running a fan on you, that drowns out some of the noise.

Answer 4

Honey,my husband is so loud it wasn't that bad in the beginning of our marriage he would start and i would tell him to roll over and that was it.Now he snores like your husband no matter what i do,I got the nose strips and sprays and pills but he won't try anything so now i sleep in his recliner that's in the living room.It's been going on for almost a year now.I just tried the other night to sleep in our bed but i couldn't handle it and said i was sorry. To tell you the truth i think he likes having the bed to himself that way there is no fighting over the remote. We have been married for over 28 years so it's not that bad for us we have had our fun and if we can get a quickie in before hand it makes it not so bad.

Answer 5

Barring any sort of medical condition... like sleep apnea... there are some things you might try. One is those breathe right strips.... they open up your nose and make breathing easier. Wal-Mart used to sell this anti-snore spray. Not sure if it worked since I was usually asleep.

Based on some of the questions on this site though........ aren't you at least a little happy to hear him snore in YOUR bed instead of him being in someone elses?

Answer 6

has he always snored or is this a new thing? Has he gained weight? Does he have any allergies?

It could be seasonal allergies - try having him take a decongestant about an hour before bed - the 12 hour duration kind - see if that helps.

Answer 7

Get a wedge to where he is propped up while he sleeps and see if that helps, if not, go to another doctor. There has to be something that can be done about it. I was going to tell you sleep on the couch as well.

Answer 8

Sweet Pea I was going to say try the nasal strips but you said you already did. There is a medical procedure that can be done, that is inexpensive but you have to consult with your physician on that. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 9

My wife just punches me and says..your snoring. I would suggest having him see a doctor, breath right or maybe he has sleep disorder...if so make him see a doc!

Or you can always kick him like I get kicked!!

Answer 10

I am sorry for you its a nightmare. I finished divorcing. My ex was snoring like hell, i couldnt live that touture. Maby different bed rooms