why is it so hard to fall in love when you are hurt?

Question

could you love when you are hurting?

Answer 1

ur probably have a wall up b/c u r hurting and u r having a hard time letting someone back in bc u r afraid that the things that r bothering u r only going to happen again even though it's with another guy so u r protecting urself. Try and be friends with the next one. Tell them what is bothering u and if they undertsand then they will wait until u want something more out of the relationship.If they don't find someone hwo cares enough about u to respect ur wishes.

Answer 2

*Well a lot of people are so stuck in the past, and refuse to move forward with their lives..which is why they never meet anyone new and a new relationship never "blossoms".

.I mean if people would learn to accept things and others for the way they are and the decisions those other people make, then they might be doing ok.

.You can love while you're hurting sure, although you might not love the person 1/2 as much as you love the other one. But yes, it's possible...and some people "force" themselves into another relationship thinking that the new person in their life will make their pains go away etc. However it usually doesn't rid anyone of their pain, it just masks it...and I think that some if not most people use this tactic to help make themselves feel better.

.In the end though only getting into a new relationship to mend old feelings from the last one is a pretty bad idea. Because that "sad" person is only thinking of their ex while they're with the new person, therefore initially causing trust issues, insecurities, fights, blame games, depression......the list goes on.

Answer 3

It will take time and patence on the other persons behalf to understand hat you have been hurt and to gain trust with each other you will have to hold out for a spark. You are wounded and need to heal an you need someone who can understand that and take it into consideration of your past. Just do not jump into a relationship too fast cause getting hurt once you will still be liery. So do not tread to fast when you get on your feet again. But to answer your question yes you can love when you are hurting but it could be a false love that is atracting you and lonliness. Becareful and mindful of things to come. Good luck.

Answer 4

because one hasn't dealt with the reason for the pain; there hasn't been an acceptance that the former relationship is no longer. the heart won't heal until the mind has healed. carrying the pain of past hurts is why people go from relationship to relationship with baggage. they attempt to create something new only to compare the new person with the old person, and once again a possibly promising relationship fails.

to answer the question, no a person cannot love while hurting. at best, they can seek comfort and confuse it with love.

Answer 5

Falling "in love" is seeing only the good in someone and dreaming of a perfect life together. When you are hurting you usually only see the bad in people and want to think about the future.

Answer 6

Sweet Pea because you have your guard up. Yes you can love when you hurt. But give yourself some time to heal because you don't you will bring baggage into the next relationship. Good luck!

Answer 7

Good question.....I've been pondering over that myself for some time now! I think love is a good thing & the evil twist to it is that it hurts. Cause it would be to easy other wise I guess.

Answer 8

it takes half the time of the relationship to even begin to get over it we all love to jump right back in but take time for you enjoy your friends dont rush anything

Answer 9

Your heart will tell you when you are ready. Pain does go away. Maybe not entirely but it gets less with time

Answer 10

yes you can but its not going to be sincere unless you forgive and let go of the hurt.