still in love with my ex?

Question

Hi, i still love my ex despite the fact that he's made me go through such a heartache...we had small fight which i think we could have worked out if he wanted...he avoids my calls, my text messages and then he wrote that he didn't choose me but chose someone else and that he was sorry..i need answers from him but he wont do it..i still love him despite all these..i still want to be with him. he's he one i want. feel like i should still pursue him. what should i do?

Answer 1

Never pursue someone who's trying to shut you out. You best course of action is to give them space. If your ex left for such a minor thing, then that should tell you about his committment to you. Perhaps he just wasn't that into you to begin with. It hurts, but you're better off trying to accept the truth.

Answer 2

There is no reason on earth to pursue a man who isn't interested unless you want to set yourself up for more hurt. You can't change another person; you can only change yourself and you need to start by not dwelling on what you loved so much about him but rather the fact that he no longer loves you, as painful as that is. Why would you want someone who doesn't adore you? The answer is YOU DON'T but you are fantasizing about what may have been. Waste of precious time and energy that you could be using to be with others who truly appreciate you. Be kind to yourself right now and do things that will make you happy. Stay close to friends and time will eventually heal your pain. I realize that this is easier said than done, but in order to be happy you have to start doing things that make you happy and not dwelling on things that hurt! Good luck to you. You WILL survive! We've all been where you are at one time (or more) in our lives.

Answer 3

Stop beating a dead horse. Look forward at your life and stop trying to get back something that is gone. No matter if all your questions are answered by him the end result will be the same--he doesn't feel the same way you do. By your behavior you are just punishing yourself. Decide this minute to put a period on the end of this relationship and focus on having a better relationship with yourself. Just because you aren't the one he wants to spend forever with doesn't mean you aren't the perfect girl for someone else. However, you will never attract "Mr. Right" if you continue wasting your time pining for "Mr. Wrong".

Answer 4

You cannot make someone be with you, and the more you call, text or bother him, the further you are pushing him away, and in the end he might file charges of harassment against you. Don't become that pathetic stalker, because obviously, he has someone else and is not interesting in getting back together with you, nor dealing with your broken heart.
You have to stop contacting the guy and move on. It will be difficult, but do you really want to spend your life waiting for someone who will never give you what you want?

Answer 5

Just because you love someone doesn't mean they are the one for you. It doesn't change the fact that he didn't choose you, I know it hurts but suck it up and get on with your life. Don't you see how much more appealing you would be to anyone not just him if you aren't pining away for him. Get friends, date, have some fun, raise a lil hell. If it is meant to be maybe he will come back someday. Hell, you might get out there and meet so many great guys it will make you wonder what you ever thought was so fabulous about him!!

Answer 6

Or maybe what you really "need" is a clue. Or four. He's given you very definitive, crystal-clear reasons for you to NOT pursue him, but you're not listening.

Let's recap. (1) he avoids your calls (2) he avoids your text msgs (3) he WROTE you to tell you he didn't choose you and (4) he chose someone else over you. Seems like he's given you all the answers you will ever need.

I know you're hurting and you still love him, but that will pass. Give yourself time, but let go.

Answer 7

Hi Carl.

Look it would be nice if we could just "Poof" that mess of feelings out of our lives, but we can't. It takes TIME for you or anyone to get over someone they really care about...and if this guy has been hurting you and what not, inquiring minds want to know why in the world you would want to continue to subject yourself to that type of treatment?

.In any case, if he is not talking to you and responding to anything you do or say to him, that's a sure sign that he doesn't want anything to do with you. So I think as for now, it would be in your best interest to just back off and cut your ties with him and just carry on with your life, and do what you have to do.

.Because if you keep persisting and calling/texting/ etc. then you might scare him off or push him further away from you.

.When he is ready he will talk to you.

Answer 8

If he already chose someone else then there's nothing left to do. Move on and find someone who truly loves you. Love comes from the heart, if it's not there, no matter how hard you try, it won't work.

You may think that you love him but you're also being unfair to yourself. Who knows if you go out and meet other people, you'll be able to forget him.

Answer 9

Why pursue someone that chose someone else? You need to move on, if he wanted to talk or whatever he would have called and wouldnt ignore your calls and such, he has moved on so it is your turn to

Answer 10

Sweet Pea it is seems he has moved on. I really do think at this time you should to. If it is meant to be it will but at the present moment he has chosen someone else. Don't put your life on hold because of this move right along so your heat can truly heal. Good luck and God bless!