I am a 27 year old guy who has never been in a serious relationship. I used to have hope when I was in my early 20s that I would meet a nice girl and that we would get married and have a few children. Now that I am 27 I feel like my life is passing me by and I won't get married before I am 30. Everyone my age seems to have someone and I am all alone. I really don't know what to do? I feel really ashamed to be single! Why is it so hard to find someone to love in the world these days?
2007-08-03 10:46:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not vital to get married before you turn thirty. And definitely don't do it just because you feel like it's what you should do because everyone else is doing it.
At 27 I had just gotten out of a terrible relationship. I was feeling the exact things you are feeling now. I watched as all my friends and cousins and neighbors were getting married. Still I had no one. It was disheartening.
No one new was coming into my world. I started giving up hope (along with everyone else) that I'd get married before 30.
Well 30 came, and while I was dating people, no one 'special' was in my life. Now, I am 31 and am dating an amazing man. He fits.
And as bizarre as this sounds, I'm glad he didn't come into my life until now.
That time casually dating, and wondering if there was anyone for me out there actually was a blessing.
It gave me opportunity to discover myself, to become secure in who I am. It gave me valuable time to get to know who I am.
I can relate to him in a way that is unlike ever before.
I'm confident, and we can bring out the best in each other.
I'm not taking away from how hard your experience is. Trust me I know. Life isn't passing you by if you don't let it.
You can still do the things you want to do, see the places you want to see, and have all these wonderful learning experiences with or without someone by your side.
STOP FEELING ASHAMED!!!!!!!!
I would wager that you will find someone, and you will fall in love, and because you waited, it will be so sweet.
So what if you're not married before 30.
Who are you wanting to be married for?
Society standard? Or because you found a person who compliments you, makes you laugh, and gives you a content happiness?
Just because you marry young, does not mean you marry happy.
Trust me, I'm so glad my 20s were spent being selfish with my time, doing what I want, spending money on myself, and not being bogged down with bills, mortgages, and kids throwing fits in target.
2007-08-03 10:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by Sumie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can't answer for you because I don't know you personally but I can give you an example of a now 40 something guy I know who has never been married. Ok, this guy is a "nice" guy, he's pretty talented, he plays guitar in church, he's a Christian & holds down a steady job. In all fairness I must say this guy is certainly no looker but he does have a lot of good qualities. Here is the reason he has never been married: He's holding out for the most beautiful, most talented, most Christian virgin he can find. Guess what? He ended up with nobody. He was shooting WAY out of the ballpark. So, I would have to ask....are you looking for a girl on your level or are you holding out for a supermodel? There are a lot of great women out there looking for a sincere man. Another word of advice: It seems a shot of self-confidence is in order. That, and maybe you're trying too hard.
2007-08-03 17:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by I Give Up 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Pea don't feel ashame of being single consider it a blessing right now. It gives you time to get things a little organized in you life and then your wife will come. Some relationships take a little longer to come along but be patient and things will happen as you want them too. Have you consider setting goals, I know being married before 30 is one of them, but I mean more life long goals for yourself. Be positive no matter what and keep your head up. Good luck!
2007-08-03 17:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by b n real 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to find someone because it sounds like you are not looking for just anyone and that is a GOOD thing. You are still young. I wasn't married until I was 31 (my husband was 30) and both of my brothers married in their early 30's. Don't panic; it'll happen when it should and because of your age and apparent maturity, you'll know "the one" when you meet her. Just enjoy life and keep on lookin'!
2007-08-03 17:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by mab5096 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't worry!!!! i'm sure u'll meet a great girl someday!!!!! just be patient and keep looking!!!! u'll find her eventually!
and don't be ashamed of being single; enjoy it!!!!! enjoy the freedom u have, and try not 2 take it as a bad thing!!!
and there's no problem with getting married after ur 30! as long as u love the person ur married 2, then it doesn't matter when u get married, as long as u have each other!!!
hope this helped and good luck!!!!!
2007-08-03 17:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by Caity 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't act so pathetic and lonely. Just because some of your freinds have relationships doesn't mean they are good relationships. Try behaving with some confidence, and if you know a girl at work, the grocery store, wherever, ask her out, and have some fun. And whatever you do, don't talk about marriage and family, and long term stuff for a long while. Enjoy the moments.
2007-08-03 17:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by grouch2111 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
27 yrs male is very young. You shouldnt fell bad becoz of being loney. Its just not the right moment to meet the right person for you. you will meet someone just keep faith. Its better to be lonely than to be in false relationship with a wrong person.Its not easy to meet a compatible person,but good luck to you.
2007-08-03 17:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by Nomimi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just when you are not expecting love, it will come.
Maybe this is your prep time to get ready for the love of your life. so take advantage of this time and get it together so you'll be able to receive the love when it comes.
I know it is difficult for you but there are so many ways for a man to meet a woman. Have you tried the dating services? Do you attend church? Are you into sports? You have to get out there and be around people in order to meet the one that's meant for you.
2007-08-03 17:51:03 · answer #8 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The girl of your dreams will not just appear at your door. Take proactive steps to expend your horizons and try to meet as much people as you can in as many variables as you can.
volunteer, take night classes, join a gym, go out, try and meet people through the Internet. Basically, if you take action instead of complaining you have a better chance to find the relationship you want.
2007-08-03 17:53:19 · answer #9 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is ok to be 27 and still be single! maybe you just haven't found the right girl yet! go for a younger girl or an older girl !
2007-08-03 17:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by mabekah m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋